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1. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 9y

Another thread in the guise of getting to know the other TPers who post here - a moral dilemma of various levels of seriousness - just to see how you would react in the situation - l will start with one and then you answer and pose a dilemma of your own!

You see the partner of a close friend cosied up in a bar with a member of the opposite sex (if applicable same sex where it applies!) - it definately does NOT look like a business meeting - the heads too close together are a definate give away plus the bottle of champange also sounds warning bells! So your dilemma - do you choose to ignore, do you approach and let your presence be known to this cad and put the ball into his/her court or do you mention it to your friend? AND Why do you choose the option?

Heather

[ Edit: Edited at Nov 12, 2006 8:45 AM by Purdy ]

2. Posted by s_hoot (Respected Member 497 posts) 9y

Not another continued thread! Oh, I might as well then....

I would definitly make my presence known by going up and saying hi really quickly. I never make assumptions though and would not tell the other partner anything unless I got some sort of confession out of the one at the bar that he or she was indeed cheating. I would give him or her the chance to tell the significant other first though. Its just not right to cheat on someone, especially if your married, its just wrong and you get what you deserve. no body deserves to be cheated on.

Dilemma:

Your staying in a hostel and after a long night out on the piss you return to your room to find a very attractive person of the opposite sex (or same sex where it applies) fast asleep in your bed. Maybe he or she did it on purpose and has been waiting for you to return, or maybe he or she was just too pissed and got into the wrong bed. Do you 1. just hop in the sack with him or her and hope for the best 2. try to wake the person first and see whats the deal or 3. get into the bed that is empty, go to sleep and ask questions in the morning? or 4. (if you are a really cheeky type person) get your sharpe marker out of your backpack and go to town, giving the person a full mustache, beard, and really really huge eyebrows?

Kinda excited to see where this one goes!

[ Edit: Edited at Nov 12, 2006 8:58 PM by s_hoot ]

3. Posted by angela_ (Respected Member 1732 posts) 9y

I would consider option 4 for a very long time and then probably just settle for option 3.

Ok, I'm doing a school project that just fits into this thread. I got a story of a moral dilemma and I have to analyze both viewpoints.. curious to see what you say..

A man calls for an ambulance for a woman that has overdosed on drugs and is uncontious. On the way to the house the paramedics call the house to see if they can help by phone. The woman answers and says that she doesn't need any help and that she's ok.

Do you A. turn back and just forget about it or B. go anyway and try to help her even though she doesn't want your help?

[ Edit: Edited at Nov 13, 2006 2:08 AM by angela_ ]

4. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 9y

I would continue on to the house because: 1) I was called to attend to the woman and that is the job I am to perform, 2) I have no proof that the woman answering the phone is actually the woman I am to attend to, 3) the woman can tell me in person (when I arrive) that she is all right, 4) I have the opportunity to assess whether the woman is indeed in need of help or not, and 5) I have the obligation of following through with the initial request. By not following through, if the woman is in need, I also plce myself in a situation where the family could sue for failure to perform.

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For a few years, you have been trading off having a family holiday dinner (ie: Christmas, Easter, etc - big holiday) with another family member. You live out in the country and the rest live in the city, close to each other. The family states they enjoy coming to your home for dinner, and they show up religiously, but then (every time), one complains you live too far away, another takes every opportunity to irritate one particular member on purpose, another can't wait to go home. As the host, this behavior has become tedious and you have decided not to continue inviting them. Instead, you choose to make the trip to the city because it's less hassle. When told of this decision, the family protests, saying they really want to visit.

Do you: 1) stick to your decision because you don't want the aggrevation any longer or, 2) change you decision because they all say they really want to visit and enjoy themselves?

5. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 9y

Go with your gut - tell them you're taking a break. You've done it for long enough, and when the payoff isn't worth the hassle then it's time to try a different approach. Try booking a restaurant for everyone: 1) no one has to cook and 2) you can leave whenever you want to. Genius! Have them over individually throughout the year when you can take out the BBQ and the margarita pitcher.
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Your sister moved in with your very good friend, who is terrified of living alone. All's well for a year, and the two become good friends, when suddenly you hear from said sister that she no longer enjoys the living arrangments and wants to move out. She's asked you to keep this to yourself until she signs a new lease. In the meantime, you're holding a secret from a friend you've sworn to be honest to always, knowing she'll be upset to have been left out of the loop. You find yourself in the middle. Do you a) keep mum because your sister has asked you to and it's her decision or b) tell your friend because she'll want to know/you don't want to be stuck in the middle/you don't want to put a riff in a friendship/etc. ?

6. Posted by beerman (Respected Member 1631 posts) 9y

Quoting Isadora

Do you: 1) stick to your decision because you don't want the aggrevation any longer or, 2) change you decision because they all say they really want to visit and enjoy themselves?

Can I add: 3) Kill the family, steal their gold, retire to a non-extraditable Caribbean island?????

Talk to the sister and try to convince her to be honest with the friend, that you cannot be held to lying to a good friend. The sister is being deceptive needlessly. The sister, if she wants out, has to solve her problem with the roomie. Just leaving for a new lease will cause more trouble than it's worth. Perhaps the sister can help find a new roomie for the friend? Work together, so to speak....

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A girlfriend from 20 years ago who ripped your heart out, ate it, and spit venom and fire on the gaping wound in your chest suddenly "finds" you on the internet. She's "just getting in touch" because she didn't know where you were for the last twenty years, and she wants to be friends (or more). She tells you her relationships in the last 20 years were nothing like she had with you.

Do you A) Ignore her and hope she goes away. B) Fire back an e-mail requesting your heart back. C) Pick up a friendship again. D) Tell her in no uncertain terms that you have no desire for any contact with her. E) Post old pictures of her on the web advertising "Demon for Hire".

7. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 9y

I would meet up (with full consultation with new significant other) looking absolutely STUNNING and wonderful - with tales of a wonderful life (embellishing if so required!)so they are GREEN with envy and sorry at what they lost! Also tales of a wonderful new partner.

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Your going out for a night with your friends - one of them is wearing something totally NOT suitable for thier size & girth - do you (1) tell them that they are looking like a baby calf (2) be tackful and say that you liked something they wore recently in their wardrobe which made them look wonderful or (3) let them go out looking a state - at least you will look good beside them - if they are that blind to how awful thier outfit is who are you to tell them differently!

8. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 9y

Quoting Purdy

Your going out for a night with your friends - one of them is wearing something totally NOT suitable for thier size & girth - do you (1) tell them that they are looking like a baby calf (2) be tackful and say that you liked something they wore recently in their wardrobe which made them look wonderful or (3) let them go out looking a state - at least you will look good beside them - if they are that blind to how awful thier outfit is who are you to tell them differently!

I would say 2/be tactful, but if it didn't work I could put up with them looking rubbish, if you were really good friends you wouldn't a stuff what they looked like.

I don't think being with people that look worse necessarily makes you look better, I think if you are trying to attract the opposite sex they are less likely to notice you if you're with ugly people.

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You are working on a piece of work at Uni/Work, a presentation, which is essential but you are not marked or judged on its quality. You are in a team with people you don't know well and have to work with for the next three years, so you need to get on well with them. You have previous experience and so have a strong idea about what to do, the others know very little. Their idea is rubbish, will create far more work than necessary, and is not answering the given question, but they insist on using it even though you are unsure. You are outnumbered. Do you.

a) Kick up a fuss, tell them exactly what is wrong with their idea, insist you know best because you've done it before and refuse to join in until they take note.
b) Say nothing and go with their idea, anything for an easy life.
c) Try tactfully pointing out why the pros of your idea and the cons of theirs, but if it doesn't work - go with it reluctantly, they'll just have to learn the hard way from negative feedback.
d) Reluctantly go with their idea but put little work in and so when the final result is crap you can say "i told you so"

[ Edit: Edited at Nov 14, 2006 2:48 PM by Clarabell ]

9. Posted by Jase007 (Travel Guru 8870 posts) 9y

Combo of C and if that doesn't work, A.
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It is Friday afternoon, and the boss is away. There is lots of work to do and there is millions at stake do you:
A) To hell with it, xmas was cancelled so goto the pub at lunchtime and not come back.
B) Goto the pub for lunch and return to work after a couple of swift ones.
C) Head down and work away like busy bee to get it finished.
E) Work through lunch and leave early for the pub.

10. Posted by Hien (Moderator 3906 posts) 9y

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