I agree with every post on this thread.
Especially the one regarding female travelling alone and the constant trouble that the rickshaw ppl create.
although i have been born and brought up in this country, i till date cannot think of travelling alone since its such a pain to be on your guards 24x7. you stop enjoying and are just on your guards all the time (from indian men and ppl who r trying to cheat u). how to travel in such a place?
There are so many beautiful places in this country to see, but how to enjoy all those with all the stress during the travel and during the stay.
You have to learn to keep your cool. Not easy, but it makes you stronger. You can see why so many travellers head to places where they can do yoga and meditation!
I should have done that, India drove me to losing my temper frequently. For example I nearly ripped someones head off for practically mowing me down on his moped driving like a fool. But what really wound me up was people spitting in the street because in our culture, spitting is extremely rude, offensive behaviour, and unacceptable, never mind that its so unhygienic and unpleasant when someone sprays a stream of red paan across your path!
Still, India is amazing. Maybe travelling in India is a bit like childbirth, you forget the pain afterwards, which is why people keep going back!
[ Edit: Edited on Dec 7, 2006, at 10:49 AM by Clarabell ]
Another factor is people with dubious
intentions offering hospitality, as seen in these
forums.They want a female companion( guess this isnt
a dating site?)to travel in India, some say they
have arranged accomodation or a vehicle....
The country portrays women as mothers in her
classics and scriptures but in real life they
arent treating women with respect and dignity.
Many still think that if you wear a bikini and stroll
on the beach, you are in for anything.
Would appreciate to hear from women who had gone
seeking blind hospitality in India and werent disappointed.
And those who learnt the lessons the hard way..
Christ after reading all this I am both terrified and gunning for my trip to india. I can handle myself pretty well (though this ia certainly going to be a bloody culture shock), but as a blonde, blue eyed new zealander I am curious as to whether men's staring goes further than just staring... are you at risk on the streets of having them cop a feel? I will be back packing two months with another woman.
Yet there has not been many complaints travelling in India.
If you can ignore the minor hazzles, India can be a feast to
Just ignore the occasional ill behaved man on the street, dress properly and be in self possession.
This is a really interesting post as I'm in India now alone. Don't get me wrong, I don't for one second regret coming to India. There is some beautiful scenery, some stunning forts and you can have more culture experience here I believe than anywhere else. 'Some' of the locals are incredibly friendly - eg. on leaving Varanasi on a cycle rickshaw, children and their mothers and old gentlemen waved goodbye to me and wished me well and thanked me for visiting.
On the otherhand...I've been here a little under 2 weeks and I'm exhausted by the constant hassle, always having to be on your guard, constantly having people trying to rip you off and send you to the wrong place and being constantly stared at and having rude comments directed at me by Indian men (mainly from teens to middle age...the older are more respectful). So many men are coming up to me on a daily basis asking where I'm from, where I'm going, whether I have boyfriend, why I am alone....and all these questions are fine enough, but in my experience, they always want something - either to sell you something or take you out. They use so much pressure and don't understand 'no thanks' and I have to sometimes just ignore them...then they get abusive and tell you how angry and what a nasty person you are...you can't win. Today, I was groped in the toilet of Amber Fort in Jaipur by the cleaner. I am wearing a long sleeve top and long trousers to avoid this. I'm SO angry and feel violated. He was only about 15, but where did he learn this behaviour? He won't be doing that again in a hurry after the telling off he got - I made sure everyone outside could hear what a dirty boy he was.
Another problem I've encountered is locals getting drunk on an overnight train and staring and making comments whilst I'm trying to sleep. It's good that tourists are often put together as it helps prevent this, but many times, there are no guards and if there are, them too join in the staring. Next time, I think I will try the ladies carriage. One thing I must commend is the tourist booking offices at some stations, they make life so much easier and stop the hassle while you are waiting....a big well done here....ideas to improve this would be to put more staff on though as have waited over an hour before....
It's so sad that I have this impression I think as there are no doubt so many good people here. However, I've not met many of the good people unfortunately. From what I've seen, it's all about money and/or sex....it's a real shame as the country is so beautiful. I hoped I would see the other side, and I hope I do in my remaining month here. And when I do, will I be so jaded that I don't recognise the good? It's scary. Who do you trust???
Yes, I've also had a billion PMs from resident men in India offering their services as a tour guide...what are genuine and what are only after money or something else...how do you know? I even had a comment on one of my photos which I found inappropriate. Anyway, essay over!
[ Edit: Edited on Feb 26, 2007, at 2:34 AM by claireh ]
My sincere apologies for the unpleasant experiences..am aware that this
won't heal your hurt but am deeply hurt by how most of my countrymen behave.Indians here on this forum..are you listening.Let us change this sickening perverted mindset..
as hard as it as is try not to let all the staring get you down... its hard though... and if anyone, anyone at all touches you like that again then slap them as hard as you can, i dont approve of violence but indian men are pervy beyond belief and deserve nothing more than a good slap!!
i never actually slapped one but my fella chased several men down the street yelling at them and i screamed so loud at one boy he nearly fell to his knees, after that an indian man gave him a punch so as annoying as they are they will help you out if they see your very upset or angry... one guy in varanasi walked out of his way to walk into me, i could see what he was doing and managed to dodge him, i just wish now i'd tripped him because he had a big jug of water on his head & it would have served him right (im too soft though)
another time a so called blind beggar felt my arse until i pushed him off me & then a sikh man gave him a clip around his ear hole!!
but there are many many good people in india, their hospitality is amazing, unfortunatly the country has too many people to give them all proper education on the world, they percieve westerners to be 'easy' which is rather annoying!
also a lot of them are just not used to white skin & blonde hair and just want to feel it as though it will feel different to theirs!
enjoy the rest of your time in india though...
Indians here on this forum..are you listening.Let us change this sickening perverted mindset..
Indeed! Thanks Shrinagesh