Going travelling for the first time and on my own to South America next year.
So I'm alone, I arrive to the hostel I booked and I get shown to my room where there are some people there chatting, may or may not speak my language...what is the first thing you say to break the ice and come across to the others as someone they would want to talk to!?!?
Just generally wondering when travelling alone what are people's conversation starters with strangers?
I can't think of one specific line or "ice breaker" so-to-speak, but my advice would be to just say something. It doesn't matter really what. Hello, my name is ____; is generally a good start.
You'll find, generally, that everybody traveling is open to new friends, so it's much less daunting than at home, where people tend to be skeptical of strangers walking up and saying hello.
I know it sounds tough now, but really, don't worry about it. The key literally is just to say something, the rest kind of takes care of itself.
I usually just ask a trivial question ie "where is the nearest bar", "where is a good place to eat" etc. and then ask if anybody might be heading that way that evening, etc.
Most people are in th same boat so are thankful if someone just starts chatting to them and suggests doing something.
rule number 1- smile!
You could spend ages wondering what your line is going to be, but when you're there, it will come to you. Don't forget, so much of how we communicate is body language, so a big smile is essential. Start with Hello, Hi, G'day, Hola, etc.
You will find you have the same conversation a zillion times, "where are you from?" "where are you going next?" "how long have you been travelling for?" and its a bit repetitive but its pretty standard way to meet people, and its fine once you get past it! You can make it seem pretty natural, for example if you're in a hostel and someone arrives in your dorm, you might ask "so where did you come here from?" or the other way round, you walk into the dorm, say hello, and ask, "how long have you been here" or ask if the showers are hot or something. Its really not as hard as it sounds!
You'll be fine!
[ Edit: Edited on Nov 29, 2006, at 3:18 PM by Clarabell ]
You are a female and you are 18 so chances are you wont have any problems meeting people - every guy who is staying in your dorm will come to suss out if there is a chance that u might let him touch your fun parts. When i have travelled by myself i had more problems getting time to myself rather than trying to meet people. When men are travelling the take their normal horniness and multiply it by about ten and then there are the friendly locals.....
Awww, don't frighten her!
hey budding buddy,don't let her get scared,she is an adult and not a minor
"would you like a beer?"
that was my best opening line, ended up getting very drunk and having a highly 'interesting' evening, obviously you will end up an alchy if you use this every time but in particularly difficult situations a drink/snack is a nice starter!
Just say hello, and look friendly. This will make other friendly people want to talk, with u.
When I like some company for dinner I just ask:
You wanna go with me?
You trust me?
many times I made the exp. after a very fantastic dinners the people started almost a fight about a few $.
because you will get a check for the whole table if you dont ask for separed check.
So I dont do it again,or I ask right before ordering something for my personal check
I dont minde to spend something on a good evening,
but there is a limit...