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11. Posted by JAY_H (Full Member 69 posts) 9y

Thanks guys for your comments, a bit of a mixed review but i think, looking at the answers, going alone is probably the best option for me.
I think possibly if i went with her i could regret it as i have so many plans of my own and i may look to her like im taking over, id hate her to get annoyed with me
So thats it then... im on my own!!!
Ill just have to meet lots of cool people to try and remember those cool moments with.

Thanks again
Jan

12. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 9y

hi Jan,
im in a similar situation, i have a mate that wants to travel with me and basically seems to be a yes man and wants to do everything with me. he doesnt seem really interested in doing things on his own.

i have a plan that id like to stick by it, but there will be times were i want to leave early or to do stuff that he may not want to do...so i see some confrontations in the future if i travel with this guy, i also see a certain degree of frustation because if he is missing etc then ill be worrying etc...more hassle...and hes a lazy bastard and sleeps in till the afternoon every day when this might delay me...plus he can be a right bitch if he doesnt get laid enough times in the one week...

this trip that you may only do once is about you and only you...lets be selfish

i myself have told my mate im off travelling, given him dates were i might be, i said it be cool to hang out for a week or two etc in certain countrys but not to be hanging of me!

if your travelling with a girl then you will never pull on your holidays either...and even female friends can get jealous too of you meeting other female companions!

thats why im doing it all on my own..not interested in friends coming with me...unless my best of best friends, but there all studying...

see ya...
Olaf

13. Posted by JAY_H (Full Member 69 posts) 9y

Hey Olaf,
Yes you have def made the correct decision, you dont want to be held back by your mate, or even feeling like you are looking after everything, could end up loosing the bloke as your mate!!
Just to clarify that i am Female anyway so i dont think she will get jealous if i pull someone... unless she fancies him. Hey maybe we might meet on our travels and pull each other ;)

14. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Jay

As long as your friend is independently minded, and an experienced traveller, travelling with her/him would probably be fun. Then u can separate for a while, during the trip, if u find u want to do different things.

Also, if u share a double room, with a friend, it will be more economical.

Mel

15. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 9y

Quoting Mel.

Hello Jay

As long as your friend is independently minded, and an experienced traveller, travelling with her/him would probably be fun. Then u can separate for a while, during the trip, if u find u want to do different things.

Also, if u share a double room, with a friend, it will be more economical.

Mel

hmm and since you have now told me that your female...then i think a female traveller has to be much more street wise than a male traveller...for all the obvious reasons...

my mate went travelling with one of his female friends, and he told me that when they were in india they had to pretend to be a couple and to keep the indian guys away from her, at the beginning they were ok with it because they werent used to it, but then it got to the stage were they were stalking her!!! she got a bit upset about the whole thing...especially if you got blonde hair!!!

so i think it really depends what country you go to...dont get me wrong, travelling with a friend would be cool...but that person / friend of yours would have to be very very exceptional....

16. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Oslaue

U are right in a way. If there are friends travelling together, and one is a woman and the other a man, it is wise to say u are married, to each other. People in some countries have very very old fashioned ideas. They think when unmarried man and woman are travelling together, that the woman is promiscuous. Best to tell a lie, that will get their approval. They wont understand the truth, no matter how u try to explain it, anyway, since they are not as exposed to different ways of living, as we are.

Mel

[ Edit: Edited on Dec 16, 2006, at 8:11 AM by Mel. ]

17. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Jay

Just looking at your second comment, in the thread.
U seem to want to go alone, but it is only fear that makes u consider going with a friend. If this is the case, go alone. The fear wont last long. I often have fear, before i go someplace. I soon forget about the fear, when i start travelling and get a little used, to the country. Usually the fear disappears, after a day or two. And countries like Thailand are safe and peaceful, for woman. Violent crime is very rare, there. And the men rarely bother women there. It is the only country in the world, where i have never experienced sexual harassment.

Mel

18. Posted by indio (Budding Member 84 posts) 9y

Over the years I have travelled both on my own and with friends. And to be honest I much prefer to be on my own!
I went to Thailand, Lao and Cambodia for a couple of months this summer on my own eg. Remember that even if you travel on your own you're never alone unless you want to be. You meet so many people on your way! (I met my current boyfriend when i was travelling this summer... if I had been travelling with somebody else that might not have happened )What I enjoy the most is to be able to do what I want when i want. Will be off to India and thailand in Feb for 7 months on my own again, and I can't wait! My advise to you would be to go alone... esp if you're already doubting whether you want to have your friend with you or not. Going with a friend means that you have to be 100% certain that it'll work otherwise it can spoil the whole trip! How long are you going for? Do what you feel right in your heart... it's your journey and you should make the most of it!
Best of luck and lets us now what you decide! ;)

19. Posted by kevstump (Full Member 123 posts) 9y

Go alone - no matter how much you get on with this person, you will inevitably end up arguing at some stage. I travelled alone and with friends, and i ended up fighting (physically) on TWO occasions with one of my best mates!

We couldnt care less about it now though....maybe cos i am in Oz and he is in the UK!?!?!?!

20. Posted by jesswong (Budding Member 18 posts) 9y

hi, Jay,

i think things always have two sides. travelling alone is free, but do you think having lunch or dinner alone would be a little lonely?

before starting your trip, i suggest you discuss the route and arrangement with your friend. then i'm sure both of you could enjoy the journey very well~

btw, there's a lot great food in SEA.

bon voyage~