I'm have been thinking about embarking on a RTW trip but I am having doubts as I am in a long-term relationship. I have been saving for this trip for awhile, but I must admit, it is a trip I would like to do on my own. I am afraid my boyfriend will not take this news very well. Should I risk losing my boyfriend to take the trip? Any help is much appreciated. Jen
i was in ure poistion a few months ago, long term relationship but wanted to go with my mates - not the g/f. thankfully she supported me which was great. after 3 mths away i wudnt change it at all, its been well worth the risk.
if u want my opinion take the risk, lives too short, u need to think about ureself.it will be difficult but ul have a great time. ure b/f will miss u more than u'l miss him cos obviously ul be preoccupied, but its ure live, n u gotta live it!
If you want to go, then go. Especially if it's something you've always wanted to do.
There's nothing to stop your bf coming and meeting you half way around or something anyway - just have a good time and if he gets the hump with you going travelling you're not going to have that fun a future anyway...
Enjoy your trip!
why dont u want ur boyfriend go with u? doesn't sound romantic u both travelling around the world? u know, my boyfriend doesn't like to travel as much as i like...i always ask him to travel with me ... but he only can travel with me once per year!!!! i wish to go more often.... but i think , if he loves u he will understand u no matter what u decide to do.
Like cde3879 said you could meet him half way round. At first I was going to go on my own but i have decided that I will go round SEA for 7 - 8 months then I will meet my gf in Oz to work. That way I get to see what I want to see on my own and I get to spend a good year or two with the misses!
Just do it, if you love each he'll still be there when you get back besides to many people are afraid of change and to trust other people in todays society. I myself am a solo traveller and i find it difficult to explain to a partner that i want to do a trip alone, you get the old what have i done? why do you want to leave me? Maybe if you have a bit of coin go with your bloke to on a pre-holiday before you leave and explain what your going to do why you wanna do it alone ect. But if it's what you want to do and you want to do it alone you have to make that sacrifice my friend.
I am in a similar situation as yourself and have been in a relationship for the last 9 months. I knew before we met that I was wanting to travel around the world, and to do it solo, so he always knew. I can't say that it hasn't been difficult as it has always been hanging over our heads. However I have been lucky as he knows how important it is to me and has been very understanding. We have talked through many options ie. breaking up when I go so we are not always worrying what the other one is up to, but I don't know how likely that will be to work. Or perhaps staying together seeing how it goes and him coming to see me when I have done my travelling around Asia and when am a little more settled in Australia. Whatever happens though I am trying to think that if we are meant to be together then we will find some way of making things work. I think that there are no certainties in life, sometimes you do have to live for the moment, do what you need to do as life is indeed too short. If it is something that you really want to do for yourself then you will only regret it if you let it slip by.
I was also in your position once and i left my boyfriend behind, he was shocked but took my decision very well, we kept in touch via email and phone calls and i had a brillent time, he came to see me while i was away and he went back home and i continued on my trip, we were apart for a total of 8 mths and i did my thing while travelling. When i returned home we got back together for awhile and then he took off for a year and i followed. Just go for it, sometimes relationships last and some don't. Mine was on, travel, off, on, travel, off for a period of 6 yrs and then it was truely OFF, but at least i had my travels no regrets there. Hope this helps ... clear as mudd
just remember...anyone who leaves there partner at home and travels will be okay...they will be seeing the world, having fun, partying, meeting other guys, girls, getting up to dodgy stuff with them.
for the partner that you leave at home...well he/she will sit at home....hmmmm rotting!...they will be in a total downer and theres nothing that one can do about it except to forgive and forget.
unless its marriage material then okay stay maybe, if not then just get a new boyfriend / girlfriend when you come back...its actually quite easy.
if you dont travel then you will live in wonder!
and if it doesnt work out with your partner cos of your travels, then you know you were not meant to be!
Some great advice here OP, I hope you come back to read it!