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1. Posted by KelJackson (Budding Member 13 posts) 9y

I leave for my trip on Monday. However im leaving behind my boyfriend of over a year whom im in love with, friends who are like family and most importantly my family! My mum is really upset of the thought of me going away..especially to Thailand! Im going with a friend and then for the rest of the 5 months im on my own. From everyone who ive spoken to they said its fine travelling on your own but im getting nervous now.

I have being planning this for what feels like forever and have been so excited but now its here im starting to think am I doing the right thing..especially cos im upsetting my mum by going.

I am confused..anyone out there sh*tting it too?

Kelly :(

2. Posted by wouterrr (Travel Guru 3379 posts) 9y

Every mum is shitting it out. Mine did too. It did hurt me too. But you loose it after the first email or conversation with your mother of your trip. Many people feel like this when they go for a big trip. One of the disadvantages of travelling I find leaving my loved ones behind for a long period of time. But during my trips I always accepted that fact and enjoyed everything.So my advise is to endure this feeling and enjoy travel, you want this. When you come back everything will be even better. Its all worth it, big time;)

[ Edit: Edited on Jan 9, 2007, at 2:13 PM by wouterrr ]

3. Posted by Dem (Full Member 78 posts) 9y

Kelly... you have to go!

It will probably be the time of your life...

And besides that... I need you to encourage me too!! I'll be going through all those strange feelings in a few weeks as well!!

Regarding your boyfriend... I'm on a very similar situation. I start planning my adventure more than a year ago, when I still haven't met my girlfriend. Now I love her very much, but I took my decision, and she does understand (I hope to...) Anyway... it's weird, but her name is Kelly too... I hope your boyfriend's name is not David!!

4. Posted by wouterrr (Travel Guru 3379 posts) 9y

Ah that's good news. Now you can go together

5. Posted by Thomasvo (Budding Member 28 posts) 9y

It's quite normal to be scared before you leave.
Hey, I only went for 3 weeks, the first time I travelled alone and even I was a bit nervous!
You'll have good moments and some bad moments, but you will meet a lot of great people and you will have the time of your life.

6. Posted by aharrold45 (Travel Guru 1281 posts) 9y

I had my mum, father, grand mother and one aunty fretting overseas me going over, but my mother and father more so. Don't give a toss about your mother, friends and families concerns, because after all it is your life and they want you to be happy. Going on a big trip will probably be the best time of your life. I know after my first 4 month RTW trip (even after being kidnapped on one occasion), I had such a great time that I came back and started planning the rest of my life time worth of trips. I then saved up as much and as quickly as I possibly could, quite my job and jetted off again this time for 7 months. Even though I had a couple of incident happen that might make some wimps give up, for the most part I hard a really great trip and wouldn't change hardly anything. Just face it, for the most part your life is probably like most peoples boring as hell and you want to get some excitement in your life. You wont get that excitement back in a boring hole like you live in (which is the way almost all people consider there own city to be, even if to tourists it isn't).

You are doing the right thing, and if you did decide to wimp out, you would be making the worst decision of your life and you'd live to regret it forever.

Travelling by yourself is a good way to go. If you travel with some else even good friends, often it will end up wrecking your trip because you want to do one thing, he/she doesn't want to do it, he/she wants to eat at this restaurant you don't want to, he/she is sick of beaches and you want more etc. It happens time and time again. I have hosted two people who had been travelling together on a RTW trip on a number of occasions, and very often they say how sick they have got of each others company, of each others whinging and lots of other things. You'll meet lots of great people and some not so great people along the way. Some you may like so much you'll keep in contact with, because I know I have kept in contact with a number of great people I've met on my travels. Then you'll meet others that you'll spend a bit of time with, and you'll think what a moron they are and you are just glad when they get out of your face. Love is one thing, but travel is a different thing that grows on you to be another love. I just can't wait to get the hell out of here again and do my next RTW trip.

Just email your family every couple of days and phone them every so often using a calling card. Then when you get the emails from them saying that things are the same old same old, well you'll realise you have made a great choice and you are glad you are not in that same daily grind.

Have a great trip.

[ Edit: Edited on Jan 9, 2007, at 4:49 PM by aharrold45 ]

7. Posted by zellyuk (Budding Member 22 posts) 9y

i totally agree with what everyone has have to go! my boyfriend and i leave on tuesday for our rtw trip which will hopefully last 18months and my emotions are everywhere. i am leaving behind a very close family and best friends but they will all be there when we return. it is difficult saying goodbye to people but just think of the experience ul have and the new people ul meet.
my mum is just as bad, upset and worried, but at the same time she knows this has been my dream for as long as i can remember. they will always be at the end of the phone, and if you really do get too home sick, go home! its only a flight away! but you have to go, u will regret it if not. and also may start to resent the people you stayed for in a few months/years time!
good luck with whatever you decide and if you do go, have the time of your life

8. Posted by Degolasse (Travel Guru 823 posts) 9y

Your friends and family will all be there when you get back, and you'll feel that nothing has changed. Hopefully, even your boyfriend will still be around, and if he's not, then I would say its just not meant to be. When you get back, you'll feel like you haven't missed a thing. I was away for 3 1/2 years on my first trip and a week after I was back, I felt like I had never left. So though it seems hard at the moment, don't worry about that stuff. Once you are on the road you'll be so busy and excited about what you are doing that you even have time to miss home.

As for you mom, I think you need to have a talk with her. Have you explained to her why you are going, and maybe what you hope to gain from you trip? Does she realise that you aren't just running away, but are going to gain experience, feed a desire to see the world, obtain personal growth, or whatever reason you have? Maybe if she understands why you are going, and most importantly, what good can come of it, she'll be a bit more understanding.
Can I ask why she is so scared of you visiting Thailand? Might I assume that it is because it is unknown to her and the only thing she does know is of the rare bombings or unrest? If you inform her of the place you are going, maybe she'll realise that being in Thailand is probably safer than riding the tube in London. Remind her of the thousands and thousands and thousands of fellow backbackers like yourself that will be in Thailand at any moment. Do some google searched for other people's travel blogs from Thailand so she can see some pictures of the place and the fact that lots of people go and have a great and safe time - even solo females.
Also, make sure she knows that you will be in touch regularly. Teach her how to use a messaging program like MSN or Yahoo or something so that you can chat whenever you are online. And make sure you keep a blog or send regular emails stressing the good and safe things that you are doing while on the road.

You'll be fine, and so will she. As others have mentioned, giving in will be the worst decision of your life, and something that you will regret until the day die. Have a good trip.

9. Posted by cde3879 (Full Member 142 posts) 9y

Short and sweet: YES GO!!!!!!!!! :D

10. Posted by JodieHill (Budding Member 34 posts) 9y

Please go! I will be in the same situation once I head off... leaving my lovely fella of over a year. He will still be here when I get back, as will yours.

As for family and friends, I went off to Uni for 3 years and hardly saw them, the longer I was away from home the less I missed them, it was strange. You find that not much changes at home when your away, yet you will have done so much.

Keep us posted. You will be fine :)