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1. Posted by jax_07 (Full Member 76 posts) 9y

Hey Everyone

Just a quick question -

I've been back from my year travelling for about two months now. The dust has settled after my surprise return and, obviously, Christmas but it would appear that the novelty as most definately worn off. I'm feeling poo to be quite honest with you. Through circumstances out of my control (no money) I've had to come back to a job I don't really enjoy in order to get on my feet and I'm finding the monotony of "everyday life" really quite boring. I am so used to doing new things and going to new places and meeting new people almost every single day that I'm not enjoying being home as much as I thought I would.

The burning question is - is this normal?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

2. Posted by daveh (Travel Guru 1027 posts) 9y

i was excited when i came home a few months ago. However in the last month i have been done for speeding, been clamped in my own private parking space and had to pay £120 for my car to be released, returned to a job where it seems everyone is being made redundant and on top of all that i'm skint so i know exactly how you are feeling!!!!!!!!

3. Posted by wouterrr (Travel Guru 3379 posts) 9y

It is normal within some extend. If you feel like this for a longer period you should seek advice. It could be depression (symptoms; tiredness, dark feeling, bored).

4. Posted by Degolasse (Travel Guru 823 posts) 9y

Yup, that's normal. I got home to Canada from a 3 1/2 year trip a couple Christmases ago and was all excited and ready to go home. It was all a fun novelty at first to see everyone and be back in school again, but I only lasted 4 months before I had to go again and I left for the UK for the summer to work.

But the thing is, just because you are back in your familiar surroundings doesn't mean you have to stop travelling and being adventurous. Don't forget that you live in one of the most popular tourist destinations in the world, where people like me go and find months and months worth of activites and sights to see. Try making a point of taking short weekend trips whenever you can. It doesn't have to be expensive either. If you book your trains in advance they are pretty good deals in England. From Portsmouth I can't image its a far ride to somewhere in Wales where you can go hiking for the weekend. Or getting off work on Friday, you can be checking into a youth hostel in York by sundown (well maybe not this time of year), where you will be surrounded by Aussies and Canadians, and can spend the weekend rediscouvering your own history in the old town. And though you've probably been to London a hundred times, have you checked out all the free museums it has to offer? This past summer I spend my first summer in 7 years at home and I was scared that I would be bored. But what I did was got out the map of my little Island, and whenever I had a day or an afternoon off work I would hop in the car and drive around at random to places I had never been before, tracing my path on the map in an an attempt to fill in as much of it as possible. It was a great way to rediscouver my home, and over the summer I seen heaps of beautiful little towns and places that I had never even knew existed.

The thing is, when you are travelling, adventure finds you. When you are home, you have to find adventure yourself.

Some other suggestions to keep yourself interested: Do something crazy, quit your job at home, and head up to Scotland or Northern Ireland, someplace you've never been before, and get a backpacker type job running a youth hostel or working in a pub. Or apply to be a tour guide for and English tour company in Europe like Contiki, or Top Deck. The possibilities are endless, you just have to find them.

5. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Jax

Yes, it is normal. U have not yet done enough travelling. When u do and have done enough travelling, u will likely also start to enjoy the times, when u are not travelling. At least that is what happened to me.

I think, u should get out and meet more people, where u live, and/or go away for weekends, if u can afford it. Go to places, which are not mainstream, and u will meet more types of people.

And start saving for your next big trip, immediately.

Mel

6. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 9y

i have simple advise to you

get a boyfriend

7. Posted by koalabear (Full Member 121 posts) 9y

Hi Jax,

I am in the same position as you, i'm back now about 3 mths and same as you am kinda bored with normal life now, i had a mini adventure when i arrived home as i knew i was going to be moving to scotland with my b'friend so that was something to look forward to but with that done and xmas over i'm starting to get itchy feet, I know scotland is a whole new adventure but i'm like, "well if i live here now there is lots of time to see everything" and have become very lazy about making an effort with seeing some new things.

It is a real issue to deal with "everyday life" and is quite boring, i'm job hunting at present and i don;t really know anybody here, so my b'friend is my outlet at the mo which is abit fo a drag, so i truely miss meeting new people and seeing new things everyday.

But on the plus side i knew all these feelings were going to come as it's was not my first time away and having to come back, so the answer to your question is YES it is normal.

But only you can makes things better, you have to get off your arse an make an effort to get out and see new things and possibley meet new people along the way, i really should take my own advice should't i

8. Posted by Herr Bert (Moderator 1384 posts) 9y

Hi Jax,

I understand how you feel, and yes it is normal. You need to find new challenges. That is easier said, than done.

Traveling has most probably been your number 1 challenge, and new you are back you have the feeling, you didn't completed your 'mission'. But returning also brings back the question: why were you traveling in the first place? A lot of different answer are possible, but it is very likely that you were traveling to get away from the place your live, and away from other things (problems?) aswell. Could it be that traveling made you feel better, because you were away from this place? If this last is true, you need to find a way to deal with it. Have you thought about moving? a different job?

life can be like climbing a mountain. when you are down at the bottom, it looks like you will never make it to the top. But when you start to climb, it doesn't feel as hard as you thought it would be. And when you make it to the top, you are awarded with a great view. There is always another mountain to climb.

In my opinion the question would be are you ready to seek new challenges, or have you not yet finished, this travel? If you need to, find ways to finish your travel. If it helps to get out of town for some daytrips nearby, do it. There are always places nearby, that you haven't visited yet.

9. Posted by carosterns (Respected Member 159 posts) 9y

I have just handed in my notice from my job and England and am about to embark on a 3-4 month trip home to Oz after being away nearly 5 years. Starting to wonder if I have made the right decision.

10. Posted by mim (Travel Guru 1276 posts) 9y

Quoting caro_stern

I have just handed in my notice from my job and England and am about to embark on a 3-4 month trip home to Oz after being away nearly 5 years. Starting to wonder if I have made the right decision.

Course you have! its always great to go home :) and there's nowt stopping you from tripping off again!!