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11. Posted by david_r69 (Budding Member 2 posts) 9y

I have recently returned from a trip to Nigeria (Abuja, the caital city).

My take on the country is:

- Some parts of Nigeria are fairly safe to visit. Abuja was ok (not as safe as London, possibly on a par with Moscow or New York) so long as you took sensible precautions, basically dont go wandering in unfamiliar areas after dark and only use proper taxis from the hotel. Lagos is, I gather, less safe, but survivable. Port Harcourt is a complete no-no.

- there is significant unrest in the oil areas (S / SE)- lots of money is beign made but it is not benefiting the local community; in fact it is ruining their environment and their livelihoods. all the oil money ends up in lagos and abuja. so the folk living in teh oil areas are pretty annoyed, and hostile to the oil industry - hence, regrettably, oil workers do get kidnapped from time to time. heightened tensions in the next few months - elections in April 2007.

- if you do go - and there are positives, eg most of the people are a delight to be with - do read up on the FCO advice and the advice from your country too, and any other advice you can find eg lonely planet. also National geographic feb 2007 edition had a good if somewhat downbeat article on nigeria.

regards

david

12. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Quoting wind1valle

I guess its a dead point anyway since my boyfriend refuses to take me with him...and it makes him angry with me when I question him on why he doesn't want to take me and why I do not trust his judgement.

Hello Wind1valle

Sorry to hear, that your boyfriend is so resistant to explaning this to u. I suppose, some men think if we question their decisions, that means we dont trust them. I think being trusted is very important to them.

Maybe, if u know some other Nigerians, they will explan it to u.

Mel

13. Posted by Utrecht (Moderator 5595 posts) 9y

Quoting Mel.

Quoting wind1valle

I guess its a dead point anyway since my boyfriend refuses to take me with him...and it makes him angry with me when I question him on why he doesn't want to take me and why I do not trust his judgement.

Hello Wind1valle

Sorry to hear, that your boyfriend is so resistant to explaning this to u. I suppose, some men think if we question their decisions, that means we dont trust them. I think being trusted is very important to them.

Maybe, if u know some other Nigerians, they will explan it to u.

Mel

Mel, with all respect, but it's a post almost 2 months old....why do you want to answer that?

14. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Well, it is on the front page, and the post previous to mine was made yesterday. So I see the thread as still active. ;)
And Wind.. said, in her first post that her boyfriend, is not going to Nigeria, for a few months, so she may still want to discuss it.
And girl talk. I was empathising with her feelings, about what is going on, with her boyfriend. I think many women would consider it never too late, to receive empathy, about their feelings:).

Mel

[ Edit: Edited on Mar 9, 2007, at 2:24 AM by Mel. ]

15. Posted by Utrecht (Moderator 5595 posts) 9y

Ok...that's why
I thought you added the wrong quote first.
But apparently some places are safe in Nigeria...although it will never be a destination I would choose to travel to.

16. Posted by theviking (Budding Member 8 posts) 9y

Even though my experience with Nigeria limits to Lagos and Port Harcourt, I think your boyfriends advise is sound :-)

17. Posted by wind1valle (Budding Member 7 posts) 9y

Sorry I havent been back on this board for a while. Thank you all for your input. I live in New York and my bf says New York is 100x safer than any large Nigerian city. I probably would have to agree although I have never been to Nigeria. NYC is much safer than London (having lived in London and elsewhere in Europe, I would have to agree). I am not sure why people have a perception of NYC as being very unsafe. Things have changed quite a bit in the past 15-20 years :)
Back to the topic now...I remain hopeful that I will be able to visit Nigeria ONE day :)

18. Posted by mFORESTIRY (Budding Member 3 posts) 9y

Well, honestly, my idea is that yo boy friend might have left a girl friend there so he is afraid of taking you there. stick onto your point 2 go with him unless he is not your future husband. Go ahead ask him that how will yo children know their origin? because soon you might become a mother of his children and then the children might want to know their relatives because it is abomination for an African Child to marry a relative.

Nigeria is not so safe as people there are scams. ( 'they will only afford help if something is profitable') but tell yo boyfriend that he has to stand and protect you from all the Nigerian scam , teach you on how to get rid of it. Otherwise the country is peace.

Abuja was ok so long as you take sensible precautions, basically don't go wandering in places that you are unfamiliar to after dark and only use proper taxis from the hotel. Lagos is less safe you can survive.

19. Posted by maasai (Budding Member 19 posts) 9y

Go with him but live in one of the Nigerian cities. Those oil regions are full of crazy militias always ready to kidnap for ransom.

20. Posted by t_maia (Travel Guru 3289 posts) 9y

Quoting wind1valle

I guess its a dead point anyway since my boyfriend refuses to take me with him...and it makes him angry with me when I question him on why he doesn't want to take me and why I do not trust his judgement.

Sounds suspicious to me. There are several possibilities:

1) Warri is in an oil region and it would truly be dangerous for you to go. But it won't be that dangerous for him alone, since he is a local.

2) He is afraid to bring you home to see his parents, because he knows you do not meet the requirements of a proper Nigerian wife.

3) He already has a wife and kids there. Having more than one wife is nothing unusual in Nigeria, he might even feel justified in two-timing you.

4) All of the above in all the possible combinations. (Happened to me with my Ex-boyfriend when I wanted to meet his family.)

To get some insights into Nigeria and the culture in a pleasant way, I can recommend the books written by Buchi Echmeta. I especially liked "Kehinde".

http://www.contemporarywriters.com/authors/?p=auth34