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1. Posted by pteacher (First Time Poster 1 posts) 9y

was wondering whether you could give my some advice as they say a problem shared is a problem halved! The problem is as the title states – I feel as if I have no direction in my life and I don’t know what to do.
A few years ago my life was mapped out – marriage and kids but then it all went pair shaped. I threw myself into my work (Im a qualified teacher) to forget about what was happening and then decided to travel for 4 months – something I had always wanted to do and finally picked up the courage to go by myself. It was very difficult to leave my job and I still miss my class. However, in the lead up to travelling I really put my life on hold – mostly because I didn’t have any money to socialise!
I loved travelling and was actually upset about coming home (this was a shock for me!). I’ve found it very difficult to settle since being back and although I have started teaching again (at a new school) the job is very demanding (behaviour of children due to poor area).
Since being back I’m in two minds about what I should do now – either settle in England and make a life for myself here (friends/social life was all cantered around my ex-partner) or the prospect of teaching abroad appeals to me. However, I don’t know if my desire to teach abroad is me wanting to put off my life a few more years, as if I’m running away from my problems (the problem being that I have no life for myself in England). So the decision is should I teach abroad or settle in England?
I’m sorry this doesn’t make much sense but it’s very difficult to put feelings onto paper.
I would really appreciate your thoughts

2. Posted by Moonmonkey (Budding Member 52 posts) 9y

Hey how's it going?

I'm not sure if you've read This thread but it might show you people's reasons for getting away from their home countries. i posted in this thread myself and you might find that a few people (myself included) decided to go travelling for similar reasons to yourself.

It sounds like you have a real dilemma going on about what to do next. You obviously consider travelling and seeing a bit more of the world as an option so why not give it some serious thought? I haven't even left for my travels yet but I briefly wondered whether I'll "get it out of my system" or whether I'll become addicted to travelling and choose to live my life that way. In a way I hope I do get the travel bug and even if it only lasts for a few years I'll still be relatively young when or if I decide to settle! There's only one way to find out how I'm gonna feel.................

In my humble opinion it's about the quality of life and that's what you need to think about. Will you be happy settling back down here and getting back into the routine of everyday life? If there's one thing I've realised since deciding to travel it's that there's nothing wrong with spending a period of your life (or even the majority of your life) exploring the world and living a little - LOTS of people do it! Of course the vast majority of conservative people will think your crazy but it's your choice. Who says you need a mortgage/2.4 kids/Ford Mondeo etc to be happy?

I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck!

Paul :)

3. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Pteacher

It makes sense to me.
I think what u need is balance.

Dont make the choice between one thing and the other.

Travelling is very seductive, but if u do it too much, it will just burn u out or will be more of an addiction than fun.

Teachers get a lot of time off, dont they? Some to correct exam papers, but there would still be one or more months free in Summer, wouldnt there? And u could go on shorter trips at Christmas and easter.

Also, take care of your social life. Make sure u have one, even if u dont have a heap of money to spend on it. I find the best way, to prevent it from becomming too expensive, is to only do things, that mean a lot to me.

Travel with your free time. Spend the rest of the time, saving a certain amount of money, every month, to put towards your travelling.

I think having a balanced life, will also make the demanding teaching less likely to burn u out, because u will be taking care of yourself.

Mel

4. Posted by angela_ (Respected Member 1732 posts) 9y

There is just one thing about this post that I really don't get.
Why would you be putting your life on hold if you go abroad to teach?

Wouldn't it just be getting on with your life? Life doesn't stop when you go away, right?

5. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 9y

dont listen to us...this is something that only you know the answers to!

from what you tell us, you dont know yourself in what to do, neither would we.

its more of a what do i do with my life question then anything to do with travelling. just because things are not working out in the uk doesnt mean it will be any different in any other country.

i move myself to australia for weather, sun, beach, out door activitys, adventure and to explore...

perhaps you should do teaching in another country like s.korea...it might be more rewarding than teaching the knackers that you are currently teaching.

i think if one has a good and great job then that can be key to ones life.

this thread isnt about '"Life has no direction..."' it should be about ''i have no direction''

[ Edit: Edited on Jan 19, 2007, at 6:25 AM by oslaue ]