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1. Posted by hamjunkie (Budding Member 62 posts) 9y

Would really appreciated a "nerve calming" thread?!

As some of you are already aware this is my 1st time travelling and i'm going alone....

Now i know (logically) that i will be absolutely fine once i land and will meet people along the way (including some great guys from this site)etc however that really doesn't seem to make any odds to my emotions.....i go 4 weeks today and i am SH*TTING MYSELF

I just haven't really seen other threads of this nature and would be interested to hear other people emotional experiences before their big trips so that i might be able to take something of use from the more experienced

Thanks in advance

2. Posted by Tumbler (Budding Member 5 posts) 9y

far better that u get worried now than think that its all gonna be a breeze and then freak out when u land in india

at least u are prepared for a will make u less shocked

if u want comfort then take it in the fact that i will arrive there before u and i am less prepared than u....believe me

and if it all gets too sure the nearest yoga class is only ever a stones throw away in india

3. Posted by wouterrr (Travel Guru 3379 posts) 9y

I agree with Tumbler. Remember. India is a shock for a firsttimer. I don't want to make you even more nervous. I went to india as firsttimer. I flew from Iran into India. I wasn't prepared for India. I only prepared for the first 2 months of my trip and that was Turkey and Iran. India was a shock. I hided in dodgy Paharganj, Delhi for a while. I had a cultureshock for three days, yeah it was huge. But after that you start loving India (or not). Prepare for cultureshock and read about the culture and look for pics (look in my photogallery;)). Try not to be nervous, relaxe. It will be the time of your life. And remember. After you had India, the rest of the world is easy. Believe me!!! Actually you are quite tough to go there, feel proud.

For clearance. India; you love it or hate it. If you hate it after 2 weeks, please leave the country. Don't undergo it, its not worth the money and the emotion.

4. Posted by bentivogli (Travel Guru 2398 posts) 9y

The other guys are right; better to prepare now emotionally than having it hit you unexpectedly once you're away.

If it's any comfort; every first-time traveller goes through something like this. My advice? 1) Plan ahead as little as possible, it gives you enormous peace of mind. 2) Hook up with other travellers in small groups, it gives a lot of support figuring things out together. 3) Don't start calling home the minute you feel bad once you're away; it makes matters worse, not better. 4) Don't be overwhelmed, or at least act like you're not; remain cautious (but not paranoid) at all times.

happy travels, post your experiences,

5. Posted by hamjunkie (Budding Member 62 posts) 9y

No body else appears to really be suffering from nerves which i think is kinda working in a vicious circle and making me more nervous, everyone keeps just saying how excited they are.....

Neils, I have sweet FA planned so should be ok there ;) seriously though i have an idea of where i'm going, things i want to do/see but i'm not about to sit down and write an of the reasons i'm going is to escape all of that.

I have "plans" to meet various others from this site if things work out and like i said logically i know i will be fine when i get there.....i'm strong and i'm stubborn in respect that i wont let anything beat me. Not just that but i know i will have so many amazing experiences and meet brilliant like minded people that i'll laugh that i ever felt like this, i'm just struggling with the emotions being bought up now

thanks for your replies though guys, any advice/comments are being gratefully recieved.

6. Posted by aharrold45 (Travel Guru 1281 posts) 9y

You should be very excited and not nervous at all, but you should be prepared for the unexpected. India is a culture shock and a half even after you think you've prepared yourself in poor countries, but unlike what wouterrr says about the 2 weeks thing, I think stick in there, but just go to more relaxing places where you might have a chance not to be surrounded by a million or more people like Rishikesh. That was a really nice place to visit after you have been bombarded by the constant harrassment and sites that make you very depressed (if you have any sort of heart towards unwell people) in Mumbai and Delhi. It is a place that you can get away from all the chaos of Delhi, Mumbai, Varanasi, Kolkata and other big chaotic cities. I was very sick to death after two and a half weeks in India of all the cons I was experiencing, I changed my flight to get out quicker, but now that I have had time to think over it all I regret doing that. I think at the time my emotions were so all over the place with what I was seeing with all the families with like 10 children living on the streets, all the monkies, wild dogs and cows that how to live off piles of garbage because no food for them exist, seeing people who are basically skin covered skeletons was all so depressing, then on the other emotion seeing the Taj Mahal and hearing the story behind it. I just wish I had of stuck in there for that little bit extra time instead of going off to London sooner where my money was eaten up a lot quicker and things were a lot less different to what I am used to.

Nothing else you experience will have the emotions and feelings running like India, so you will only be feeling a lot better from then on.

Before you leave, make sure you bring a supply of ear plugs for your time in India if you would like to get a good nights sleep from time to time. It is almost impossible to get a good nights sleep in any of the big cities with the constant horn beeping that goes on almost 24/7, so earplugs to wear when you are a sleep are a must bring.

Have a wonderful trip.

[ Edit: Edited on Jan 30, 2007, at 6:10 PM by aharrold45 ]

7. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 9y

Now i know (logically) that i will be absolutely fine once i land and will meet people along the way (including some great guys from this site)etc however that really doesn't seem to make any odds to my emotions.....i go 4 weeks today and i am SH*TTING MYSELF

It's absolutely normal.

If it helps, i still often get that kind of queasy/anticipating/scared/excited/jumbled up feeling before most of my trips. And I have been travelling more or less constantly since I was 13.

Honestly, when i stop getting that feeling for anything other than entirely routine trips, i'll probably stop travelling altogether. Try and enjoy the feeling beforehand, no matter how strange that sounds

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 2, 2007, at 10:14 AM by Gelli ]

8. Posted by Ahila (Inactive 1529 posts) 9y

Hi Imogen,
Don't worry... You'll probably love the freedom and independence that you feel travelling alone, exploring and discovering new places. There is always an initial nervousness till you actually start on your trip. Do always keep your emergency nos. in hand and call home often, so that you don't feel totally overwhelmed in the beginning.

It might be better for you to avoid the heavy touristic places such as Agra (Taj Mahal) in your first days in India as the touts in North India are pretty aggressive and you have to be constantly firmly tell them 'no' if you are going to these places. My visit to the Taj was almost totally spoilt because of them. I don't know if you are going to the south or how you are going about your trip but for a first time visitor, it might be easier to start with the more gentle south and make your way upwards to the more exotic, colourful yet aggressive north. Also, it is better to greet anyone in the Indian subcontinent with a 'namaste' rather than a handshake. Rajasthan, for example, is quite a conservative place especially the further you go west.

Have a wonderful travel experience!

9. Posted by joey22 (Travel Guru 561 posts) 9y

hey imogen,

i agree with a lot of what i have read in response to your post

i always feel queasy and nervous in the final few weeks before a big trip, especially if its a new destination

before i went to africa i was absolutely cacking my pants but it was great

forgive me for forgetting exactly who said this, but i agree with the idea that if ever i feel perfectly calm before my travels i will hang up my boots...... i always feel apprehensive and uncertain

the journey to the airport is when you may feel pretty nervous but you will be fine and this is only natural

i love the thrill of the unknown and after the initial nerves calm down it is so exciting

have a great trip

joey :)

ps- you aren't alone, hundreds of people will have read this and realised that they feel exactly the same way ;)

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 3, 2007, at 2:05 PM by joey22 ]

10. Posted by joey22 (Travel Guru 561 posts) 9y

p.p.s- how long are you in india for?

my girlfriend and i are there for 6 weeks from end of march