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1. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 9y

I'm thinking of it.

Lets be honest. I've met loads of amazing blokes travelling, but all are just free spirits and by definitition and situation, not potential keepers. Literally all my friends are now married/pregnant/renovating their new house. After 3+ years of singledom and being "independent", I've had enough of it. And nights out on the town round here just involve drunken sleazy chavvy blokes.....so not interested.....

So, should I try match.com etc. I'll be honest, i've had a look and the blokes seem actually quite nice, more so than the free dating sites where none can even string a sentence together. Any opinions? More to the point, be honest, anyone ever tried such things???

Oh....Stop laughing, you guys....

2. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 9y

I did, a few years ago, through a site run by one of the DragonBoat teams I was on. I met a few nice guys, plus one really big jerk. Guess I could have met that one just about anywhere, though. In the end, nothing really clicked with any of them, but it was a good experience overall. It's nice to be on the same page - knowing the other person is looking, too. You start off knowing where you both stand, at least.

My sister and one of my friends are always on one dating site trying their luck. They've both met quite a few interesting guys, although nothing's really clicked yet either. I've heard a few happily-ever-after-so-far stories, though!

3. Posted by garry moll (Budding Member 348 posts) 9y

What you two like.....eh.
two nice young good looking girls, take it from an old hand, a very old hand
there is someone special out there for everyone, jsut the right place right time, and im not laughing its same for the guys too.
enjoy while you can, drink and be merry, and if the guy is any good at all, hes worth waiting for. dont panic there was even some one for me. she kept tripping over her guide dog though.
well that was a joke....hm er,,I hope.
your well worth it.
god I dont even get paid for this.
just hang in there.

4. Posted by garry moll (Budding Member 348 posts) 9y

just remember girls...................Its there loss.

5. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 9y

Quoting garry moll

What you two like.....eh.
two nice young good looking girls, take it from an old hand, a very old hand
there is someone special out there for everyone, jsut the right place right time, and im not laughing its same for the guys too.
enjoy while you can, drink and be merry, and if the guy is any good at all, hes worth waiting for. dont panic there was even some one for me. she kept tripping over her guide dog though.
well that was a joke....hm er,,I hope.
your well worth it.
god I dont even get paid for this.
just hang in there.

Thanks, Gary! I actually met Neal after I'd thown in the towel and stopped looking. Funny how that works! :)

And Clara - I know what you mean about the marriage and kids. I have exactly one female friend who doesn't have kids - I'm surrounded! At least the two of us can leave home without calling a babysitter so we can down a few Cosmos and come home late. ;)

6. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 9y

It depends on your approach. The problem with internet dating is fighting the urge to "judge a book by its cover". Not that I'm saying it's the viewer's fault. Some people don't have good pictures of themselves, or think some interest they have is really not that interesting. Not to say, that makes it necessarily a bad thing. The same or other issues can also come up in real life. I always find the transition between online and real life to be difficult. Even if you've chatted with the person, the first meeting is a whole new dynamic. But if you're both aware of that, then it can actually be a fun experience.

Our society is becoming more technological. People move around a great deal more. Like it or not, internet dating is here to stay.

One of the issues I have with women is this "need". I'd rather be looked at as someone who you're going to spend the rest of your life with, who you want to be near, through all kinds of adversity and situations, rather than just as a necessity (for a family, or a home, or....opening jam jars, etc., whatever). One thing I've learned about the opposite sex is that I can lead, but the girl needs to follow. And sometimes, that takes just as much bravery.

[ Edit: Edited on Jan 31, 2007, at 4:52 PM by Q' ]

7. Posted by mikeyBoab (Travel Guru 5077 posts) 9y

Quoting Clarabell

nights out on the town round here just involve drunken sleazy chavvy blokes.....so not interested.....

Dammit. Guess that rules me out . . .

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 1, 2007, at 3:37 AM by mikeyBoab ]

8. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 9y

A close friend of ours is using eHarmony.com for dating. She was tired of not finding anyone in the "real world" worth the time. After 2 years, and one eHarmony relationship that ended messily, she's not any better off than she was before signing up. Granted, this friend is divorced, VERY independent, well off monetarily and married to her work. She hasn't found any more success dating online than she did just being out there in public. And, it's costing her more...

Another scenario - my ex-b/f's sister signed up for an online dating service, found Mr. Right, married 1 month later and started breeding. I don't know if it lasted...

Here's the advice my mother gave me after my divorce: "Go to church functions. There are all sorts of eligible guys there looking for a wife." I always wondered how she knew that since she was married to my dad for 47 years... Like T and Neal, Kris and I found each other when we weren't looking.

9. Posted by koalabear (Full Member 121 posts) 9y

Totally try it.....

Four of my friends have tried internet dating and all have been successful.
1 got engaged, 1 is living with his partner, another actually went speed dating and met his wife and the other is totally loved up.

Thank god i am in a relationship because i would totally hate been "out there" cause you are right there are more chavvy sleazy blokes out there just cruising for ass and you just get tired of it.

O girl, go for it, what have you go to lose....
Just be safe and have fun :)

10. Posted by magykal1 (Travel Guru 2026 posts) 9y

Good friend of mine met her fella through an Internet dating site - they've been together five years and are getting married in the summer.

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