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21. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 9y

Quoting Gelli

...excepting sheep and Francine...

I can't speak for the sheep, but I think this qualifies as online dating as Francine was purchased from an online store.

How is Francine holding up??

22. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 9y

but I think this qualifies as online dating as Francine was purchased from an online store.

I disagree (in the context of Clarabells post). She's somebody i met on the internet, yes, but because we have similar interests (and remember that i was introduced to her by some mutual friends) rather than somebody i met on a dating site.

How is Francine holding up??

She's struggling with my huge work load at the moment - i.e. i'm barely at home with her - and is thus feeling a bit deflated

23. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 9y

Quoting Gelli

How is Francine holding up??

She's struggling with my huge work load at the moment - i.e. i'm barely at home with her - and is thus feeling a bit deflated

You could try buying her a nice valentines day present?

24. Posted by kruzinkiwi (Budding Member 152 posts) 9y

I once went on this dating site and met this chick,This was 5 years ago and we are still good friends,no relationship,and also im going back to New Zealand in 2 days and she is picking me up from the airport.hows that:)

25. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Clarabell

I did not personally try it. But my boyfriends friend is now married, to a woman he met, on the internet.

Since u have not found a guy, even though u seem to meet lots of them, I suggest u also work on developing relationship and dating skills, as well as searching for a guy, on the internet.

I recommend www.marsvenus.com as a site, where u can learn about relationship skills, and they also have a dating service. They are a paying service, but well worth it. They also have telephone and email counsellors, to help, when u run into problems. The counsellors cost extra, but are well worth it. I had a problem, in my relationship, for some time. I eventually got the courage, to contact one of those counsellors. She was excellent. Knew exactly what was wrong and how to fix it. They can also help, with dating issues. Relationships are complicated things.

Mel

26. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 9y

Quoting Mel.

Hello Clarabell

I did not personally try it. But my boyfriends friend is now married, to a woman he met, on the internet.

Since u have not found a guy, even though u seem to meet lots of them, I suggest u also work on developing relationship and dating skills, as well as searching for a guy, on the internet.

I recommend www.marsvenus.com as a site, where u can learn about relationship skills, and they also have a dating service. They are a paying service, but well worth it. They also have telephone and email counsellors, to help, when u run into problems. The counsellors cost extra, but are well worth it. I had a problem, in my relationship, for some time. I eventually got the courage, to contact one of those counsellors. She was excellent. Knew exactly what was wrong and how to fix it. They can also help, with dating issues. Relationships are complicated things.

Mel

Woah hang on! There's nothing wrong with my dating skills or relationship skills. I'm not some freak with no social skills. I have had long secure relationships in the past. If someone hasn't got a partner it doesn't mean there is something wrong with them.

Where did I say I meet lots of guys? The problem is purely meeting guys in the first place. Sure, I got to know nice guys when I was travelling, but obviously I can't have a relationship with someone that lives in say, Melbourne. The reason I don't meet many guys, is because I'm 27 and have a small but established cirlcle of friends, almost all have serious partners, and I am studying full-time on a course where its at least 90% female. I have some good male friends but none that I see in that way. And I don't want to try to "pull" when I'm out in pubs or bars.

Therefore I have tried the internet. Its a way to get in touch with guys with similar interests, in your local area. What happens from there depends on firstly meeting someone that you get on with, and then, of course, both you and the other persons "relationship and dating skills".

27. Posted by Herr Bert (Moderator 1384 posts) 9y

Finding someone that you like can be hard, but might is be that you are looking in the wrong places? I don't want to call it a shopping-list, but in your mind you know, what kind of person you are looking for. Ask yourself if it is likely that you meet a guy that has the qualities you are looking for, in the places you visit.

If you are looking for someone who is sporty, you are more likely to find him in a gym, if you are looking for someone, who not pissed at midnight, than a bar/pub not a very good place (but you found that out yourself already ...), And if you live in a place, that is in a rural area, you are not likely to get in contact, with people who are sophisticated, these are stereotypes, but stereotypes are stereotypes becuase in general they are true, but then again, there are always exeptions.

You have read, that some people find eachother via internet, so why not give it a try, but don't get your hopes up too high. It's just like any other place, where you can meet men. you might be lucky, and you might not be, but you will never know if you don't try ... and just like in other places (some men lie ...;))

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 8, 2007, at 5:10 AM by Herr Bert ]

28. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

[quote=Clarabell
Woah hang on! There's nothing wrong with my dating skills or relationship skills. I'm not some freak with no social skills. I have had long secure relationships in the past. If someone hasn't got a partner it doesn't mean there is something wrong with them.
[/quote]

That is not what I meant, at all.
I dont think u are some freak. Either am I, but I still had to learn a lot about dating and relationships.
When I was 28 everything seemed to start to go wrong in my love life and dating world. I just could not make a relationship last, beyond 3 weeks. I then started learning about dating and relationship psychology. Then everything started to go right, again. I think just about everybody needs help, in this area.
I hope this explains it and u are not still feeling offended. :)

And, why did that quote thingy not work properly?

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 8, 2007, at 6:41 AM by Mel. ]

29. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 9y

I get relationship or marriage counselling, but pre-relationship counselling? I'd assumed all psychology was based on the individual - or how individuals interact together to form a unit. I just can't imagine the benefits of learning how to create a potential relationship - you're working with so much hypothetical stuff. I'd have thought one went to therapy to learn about oneself - the ins and out of who you are - in order to become whole and happy, and thus "prepared", as it were, for a relationship.

Mabe I'm just misunderstanding the whole thing...?

30. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Tway

Communication between women and men does not just apply to marriages. These skills are useful, for dating, the work place and any other situation where men and women interact, with each other.
It is incredible what one can learn, about it. Although, I can see why u are wondering what it is for. I used to also think that, before I discovered that women have completely different emotional need to men.

Mel

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