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41. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 9y

Quoting Clarabell

And another thing? Whats with calling me desperate? Thats not very nice is it? If you want the facts, I've been single for over three years, due to circumatances with travelling, changes in my life etc, and I haven't been looking for anyone until now.

For what it's worth, I believe that actually trying to meet other people - the proverbial "putting yourself out there" - is courageous as well as commendable. It's the people who sit around and mope and wait for the phone to ring who are desperate. If meeting guys in bars and/or through friends didn't work for you, then the Internet is a great next step.

42. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 9y

i kinda tried it i suppose.

basically when i was in england i was travelling around so much
i had little time to socialise except with work people and clients.

some of my south african friends who i lived were doing it (meeting people of the net)
and having a laugh but that was about it. im not talking about the fee paying ones,
im talking about the sections in the gumtree, faceparty etc...same thing.

i tried it myself and just as i thought it didnt work at the time, just cos it didnt work for me means noubt.
im totally uncomfortable with the idea...in emails people tell you what you want to hear, plus anything said
in email comes out ass ways too! so you can screw it up too!

im slightly lost clarabell but you english rule this world as much as the irish do and english
guys are everywhere! just keep away from the rest of the europeans and the irish and you will be fine
with distance.

the whole onlike dating thingy is awkard...its like hmmmm trying to have a dog mate with a cat. it doesnt work,
it may work for someone but i think at the back of everyones mind its not the ideal way of meeting.

i tried it, im one of these guys that will try anything, just to experience even if its going to knock me ont the face,
im one of these guys were my mum dont push the red button or the door will open and ill push it!!!

am i the only one that is self centered here? of course looks matter. its the first thing that attracts one to another.
of course if one is really good looking then it helps, but if your average looking but got a wicked sense of humour then
great too...but im sorry mingers and great personality dont go far...thats like someone telling me the sky is purple! its not
its not true!

dont judge a book by its cover, looks dont matter, its what is on the inside that counts not the outside....you know what they
say about that....- only ugly people say those kind of things....or those spiritual kinds....

Clarabell you got a better chance of meeting one of the nerds on tp than on a dating website...that is for sure...actually!
ill throw you 5 bucks your way...thats how sure i am...when Olaf is sure then hes very very sure!

the problem with dating websites is that you can also end up filtering out the genuine and decent guys...!!!
half the people just copy and paste what other people say, some people spell incorrectly or have bad grammer doesnt make
them retarded like me does it? they just type fast...women tend to take into account those weird and wonderful factors.

no one wants to be with a begger!
.........................

jesus! got to keep typing and respond to tway!....un-natural...well 10 years ago no one did it! how then did people meet?
now look at it! every tom, dick and harry is doing it.

doesnt work cos its un-natural....not normal....anything different to normal which is abnormal never really works.

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christ another!!! clarabell....i didnt call you desperate, well i didnt aim it at you...i aimed it at the everyone who does it...but
they all have there reasons in going online. .......aaaa this is going poo shaped...okay i looked at your profile! your 27 and female!
of course your worried! your female:) your at the worrying age....normal for a bird! but your still young!

my x was worrying when i was with her and she was 20! she had to go back to SA and that caused huge problems in my life,
thankfully i got over it all...that was a horrible experience for me then but now i like been single...cos i dont need to care about
anyone in life...of course family and friends is always there but having a girlfriend is like half of me somewhere else were one is
always worrying, caring etc etc...

been single can be boring at times, i like the idea of going to the cinema with a girlfriend then with a bunch of dudes or girl friends (as in girls as friends), eating out,
pubbing, but what one can do with a girlfriend can also do with a friend, but why is it different? hmmmm

anyway time for me to go.....im done with work, im going to the pub to get drunk....ps i have noticed since been single i drink more, is that a problem?
hnmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

either way best of luck in your findings to you and all that read this thread....i dont judge people that do online dating i just dont understand especially
for those who are cool, decent looking etc etc etc etc...id understand it if freaks go out and do it.....

43. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 9y

ha ha....thats loads that i typed....took me 3 min!

44. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 9y

Quoting Clarabell

Oslaue

And another thing? Whats with calling me desperate? Thats not very nice is it? If you want the facts, I've been single for over three years, due to circumatances with travelling, changes in my life etc, and I haven't been looking for anyone until now. Sure I could carry on being single, but I am aware that the chances of me meeting a guy any other way are slim, and maybe a few dates, perhaps a proper relationship, would just be NICE. After a long while, it gets a bit boring being the only single one out of all your mates.

I have to agree with you there; searching out your options does not make you desperate. As I mentioned before, my brother met his fiance on match, and they're prefectly happy to tell friends, family, whomever how they met. This is the Internet age, and unless you're using it to chat to underage girls, showing up on To Catch a Predator and such, then I say why not.

Truth-be-told, I've been single for over three years myself. I've never seen anything wrong with it and I've done some amazing things during those years that I surely wouldn't have done had I gotten married just out of college (which I almost did).

I've heard being single likened to the available light on top of a taxi. For some people, that goes on very early and they look to take on a passenger as soon as possible. For others, like me, that light is off for a while until the cabbie is ready to take on the responsibility of sharing the journey.

It may sound selfish, and it probably is, but I'm glad that I've been just cruis'in the streets on my own with the radio blaring, just waving at passers-by for the last several years.

But, I think my light might be starting to flicker and I'll admit this thread got me to at least look at match. As I suspected, there's about 5 girls in my area and not much to write home about. But hey, if it gets me out on just one date, I'll be further ahead than where I am now.

So I say, you go girl. Keep the experiment going; love to hear the results.

45. Posted by Herr Bert (Moderator 1384 posts) 9y

Quoting oslaue

ha ha....thats loads that i typed....took me 3 min!

Took me 6 minutes to read.

Lesson learned today: sometimes it's better to shut up.

(and Olaf: welcome back, I guess you had a lot of people worried (or happy), with you final thread thread.)

46. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 9y

Quoting john7buck

Quoting Clarabell

Oslaue

And another thing? Whats with calling me desperate? Thats not very nice is it? If you want the facts, I've been single for over three years, due to circumatances with travelling, changes in my life etc, and I haven't been looking for anyone until now. Sure I could carry on being single, but I am aware that the chances of me meeting a guy any other way are slim, and maybe a few dates, perhaps a proper relationship, would just be NICE. After a long while, it gets a bit boring being the only single one out of all your mates.

I have to agree with you there; searching out your options does not make you desperate. As I mentioned before, my brother met his fiance on match, and they're prefectly happy to tell friends, family, whomever how they met. This is the Internet age, and unless you're using it to chat to underage girls, showing up on To Catch a Predator and such, then I say why not.

Truth-be-told, I've been single for over three years myself. I've never seen anything wrong with it and I've done some amazing things during those years that I surely wouldn't have done had I gotten married just out of college (which I almost did).

I've heard being single likened to the available light on top of a taxi. For some people, that goes on very early and they look to take on a passenger as soon as possible. For others, like me, that light is off for a while until the cabbie is ready to take on the responsibility of sharing the journey.

It may sound selfish, and it probably is, but I'm glad that I've been just cruis'in the streets on my own with the radio blaring, just waving at passers-by for the last several years.

But, I think my light might be starting to flicker and I'll admit this thread got me to at least look at match. As I suspected, there's about 5 girls in my area and not much to write home about. But hey, if it gets me out on just one date, I'll be further ahead than where I am now.

So I say, you go girl. Keep the experiment going; love to hear the results.

Thanks John, I like what you're saying. When I was first split with my ex, after 5 years, I was really happy to be single, and I travelled and stuff, but now its a bit like the song that runs through my head after wayyyy to much wine "When i was young I never needed anyone, making love was just for fun, those days are gone!" LOL- well I'm not quite Bridget Jones yet but give me a few years.

The other thing with Match, and probably a lot of other sites, is there are a lot more guys on it than girls, so girls are likely to get a lot more emails and have a few guys to choose from. Thats why it might be harder for you. More competition.

I don't think I'll be comparing myself to a taxi. Hanging around streets and turning lights on sounds a bit seedy!

"Allllll byyyyy myyyyseeeeelllf, don't wanna live all by myyyyselfff anyyyymooooooorre....."

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 9, 2007, at 2:38 PM by Clarabell ]

47. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 9y

Two of my female friends have met guys on dating sites which they have since married.

One other girl I know tried it out and it wasn't for her. She didn't really explain why in terms that I could understand, although she was a bit drunk and emotional at the time.

48. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 9y

Quoting tway

Quoting Clarabell

And another thing? Whats with calling me desperate? Thats not very nice is it? If you want the facts, I've been single for over three years, due to circumatances with travelling, changes in my life etc, and I haven't been looking for anyone until now.

For what it's worth, I believe that actually trying to meet other people - the proverbial "putting yourself out there" - is courageous as well as commendable. It's the people who sit around and mope and wait for the phone to ring who are desperate. If meeting guys in bars and/or through friends didn't work for you, then the Internet is a great next step.

Im with Tina - l think putting your self out there and trying something new is to be commended - surely the old saying " Nothing ventured, nothing gained" comes to mind! Sure Clara might try the old internet dating - she might hate it and decide its not for her but on the other hand she may meet her prince charming who will whisk her off to his castle to live happily ever after! Im a sucker for happy endings! Good luck Clara!

49. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 9y

I've met loads of amazing blokes travelling, but all are just free spirits and by definitition and situation, not potential keepers.

Going slightly off topic, I must admit that it's slightly funny/ironic that you are asking this whole question on a Travel site, where most people are free spirits, if you wish, anyway, and the type of people you have done as not potential keepers. Even ignoring the fact that lots of people post "i want to travel, but my partner can't go, and i don't know what to do" type questions, and we all always say "go, travel, leave your partner!".

As such, are you really sure you want to be getting advice off us lot???

Anyhow, regardless of what you decide, best of luck and less us know how you get on!

50. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 9y

I get your point Rich but Clara has asked this question in off topic not really part of the main travelling forums!