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1. Posted by bennnn (Inactive 93 posts) 9y

Hi all.

How do I start?
Ok, do you have those feelings where you really wanted to do something, and you won't stop until you've achieved it? Like a motivation

Right now I have basically most of the things that I need; a career & home with my parents. I just finished university. I'm satisfied, but I'd like more (who doesn't).

All my life I weigh things according to my needs or wants. I only buy things that I need, and buy what I want occassionally. So I want to go travelling, but I don't have that kind of motivation, or that 'reason' for it. If its for work, then I understand (rather, a bonus).

My concern is: if I go travelling, I may waste some years 'having fun' while I could've been working, getting a promotion, making money, create an investment portfolio and have a sound future.
I don't want to go travelling only to return and I have no money, no house, older, not up to date with my career, nothing, and starting back at square one.

Has any of you encountered this issue? How did it turn out for you?
I know this kind of scenario varies from people to people, but I'd like to hear some opinions.

2. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Bennnn

If u need a reason to travel, then do it for the memories.
When u are 80 do u want to remember that u only worked? Maybe u will regret having been too sensible.
Maybe what u need is a balance between sensible and adventurous, so u can have fun, while securing your future, at the same time.

Anyway, u can travel for a couple of weeks, or a month, at a time, so u can still hold down a job. A trip does not have to last for months, or years.


3. Posted by Herr Bert (Moderator 1384 posts) 9y

Let me start to say that everybody is in doubt if they should do some things yes or no. So having doubts is natural.

Why should you go traveling?

Meeting people, seeing different cultures gives you an insight in other cultures. As the economy is more and more turning out to be a global economy, in every kind of job, you will meet and have to deal with people from other countries. It give you a big advantage in socialising, if you can talk about your experiences in their country, knowing their customs, etc. So it can be a good in the long run for your network.

In a lot of countries it is considered a big plus, to have CV, that shows journeys or a period of traveling/working/studying in an other country. Companies like that.

Instead of traveling, you could e.g. do a work and travel programm. Maybe working for a couple of months in your own line of business, and using weekends and holdidays to make trips.

And yes, traveling is fun ... but is also an experience that helps you to get forward in life. If your company has contacts in a country, maybe for you it's a possible to make a visit to that country. You don't have to make a 3 month trip to be your first travel. Start with a trip during a holiday, so you don't have to worry about losing a job, or things like that. If you liked it, continue traveling, if not you didn't lose anything.

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 2, 2007, at 4:58 AM by Herr Bert ]

4. Posted by bennnn (Inactive 93 posts) 9y

Thanks for your advice Mel.

I think what you noted was what prompted me to even consider travelling - I don't want to regret what I didn't do once I'm committed to being a family man.
Plus, I actually prefer to do the travelling for several years on one sitting - I don't like the idea of travelling as a holiday, but rather be consumed into the cultures and seeing the point of view of locals.
If I want to see monuments and sites, I can use Google :)

Oh, and forgot to mention, I'm in the web design industry. Anyone has experience how hard is it to get jobs within those that field?

5. Posted by HafJafMark (Respected Member 291 posts) 9y

I struggle with this Dilemna too and have sadly have come to the conclusion that yes, excessive travelling will hurt your career. Ive no intention of letting that stop me though!

Your job is perfect for travelling, you can make web pages for people while you travel. Youd have to be self employed to do this I guess.

If not, a good option would be to do a working holiday, easist options Australia, New Zealand, Ireland, Britian or Canada (I dont know where your from). More exotic destinations can be difficult to get working visas, (but not impossible).

I work in an IT related field and worked in similiar roles in Australia, so it didnt hurt me proffessionally when I returned.

Also, you say you want to get immersed in a culture - what better way than to haul yer a rse to work every morning like the locals?

6. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Bennnn

I think u will absorb some culture, no matter how short or long u stay in a country. Although, it is a nice luxery, to have plenty of time.

I dont know how difficult it is, for web designers, at the moment. And u can always add on more qualifications, if there are not plenty of jobs available.


[ Edit: Edited on Feb 2, 2007, at 6:20 AM by Mel. ]

7. Posted by bennnn (Inactive 93 posts) 9y

Hi Mel,

I think I prefer (and need) longer time to settle and get comfortable within a new environment. Which rules me out of non-english speaking country first...
Thanks for all your advice. I think my plan now is to work a few more years (2 perhaps) to save up, and build a good portfolio of contacts. Throw some money into some sort of investment, let it sit in a bank for long term.
I also want to gather a few people who would be willing to accompany me. I don't think I can survive on my own ...
Once I'm ready, I'll apply for visas, and try to apply for jobs overseas, hoping to land on something within my field. If not, so be it.
Reckon its a good plan? How much cash would be suitable to begin with?

@HafJalMark: Mind if I ask how did your travelling hurt your career? Did it jepordise it completely? Were you sick of your job then that you didnt care if you lost it?
I believe web design roles have risen sharply here, and competition is getting higher. Anyone with a computer and a tutorial books can become a web designer.
I'm from Australia, so I'm eyeing at working holidays in UK, Canada, and Japan so far, though not limiting my options! :D

Thanks all!

8. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 9y

I agree with Herr Bertt - its normal, even necessary, to have doubts about things. That's what gets us thinking about what we really want to do and who we want to become. I read a saying somewhere that goes "Let how easy something is be a warning to you." Sound advice.

I've never taken off for months at a time except for the summer in Florida when I was 9!), but I enjoy travelling a few times a year because I love to see new places, new people, new cultures, food, drinks, customs, etc. etc. If you don't feel up to giving up a lot right now, why not consider short trips to see how you like it? It doesn't have to be all or nothing yet.

Also, I doubt very much that you'll ever look back on your life and think "gee, did I ever waste my time travelling". Travelling will bring you gifts and realizations and insights you can't even imagine. Anything you do in life that you've given thought to cannot be a waste - everything works together to make up who you are.

And if you're in Web design, I'd imagine that its a skill you can take with you aywhere. You could even work freelance no matter where you are in the world!

Good luck - no matter what you choose!

9. Posted by Hien (Moderator 3906 posts) 9y

Quoting bennnn

I'm from Australia, so I'm eyeing at working holidays in UK, Canada, and Japan so far, though not limiting my options! :D

Looking at your profile, you hold a Malaysian citizenship. The countries I know that give away working holiday visas to Malaysians are the United Kingdom (2 years) and New Zealand (6 months).

10. Posted by bennnn (Inactive 93 posts) 9y

Thanks Tway, I guess web design is somewhat a useful skill after all to have. I'll have to work for cash-in-hand tax free jobs though. So nothing legal..?

@Hien: I plan to change to Australian passport/citizenship, which enables me to work in 18 countries on the WH visa.. Just don't see myself living/working in malaysia anymore after growing up in Melbourne for 13 years...

Thanks guys, you've all been very helpful!! :)