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1. Posted by dado18 (First Time Poster 1 posts) 9y

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Hi, my name is Dado im 19 years old and im in a critical situation.

My girlfriend is only 16, but in a muslim/bosnian realtionship that is normal, girls at the age of 16 are considered to be very mature and pretty much ready to get married. Like every realtionship there are problems in it, the only thing is me and my girlfriend dont have problems, her parents do. Her dad told her that she either has to choose her family or me...i love her a lot and i know without her im not gonna succed becasue she pushes me to do better she influences me and she is the key to my sucess. She loves me a lot as much as i love her, the only option she has to is to move down to my house which only 2 hours away from her house, but i am scared that her dad will call the cops on her or me for supporting a runaway and transferin school wouldnt be a problem, my parents are fine with her moving in and whatnot. Her dad told her he would not chase after her because in his young life his girlfriends (now wife) dad offered him a brand new house not to be with his daughter and he refused and ended up marrying his wife which is today, so he is giving her the same opportunity and i have no doubt in my mind that she will leave to be with me but i am scared that something goes wrong....what do u guys think? is this a smart thing to do? i know im 19 and you guys out there must think wow! hes stupid, but no theres more to this then just the age, in our culuture this is perfect age to have a gf thats 16. so wut should i do?

2. Posted by beerman (Respected Member 1631 posts) 9y


That's a tough situation.

First, I would ask: What does your girlfriend really want to do? Second: Is it legal in your area for her to move in with your family (for example, where would she sleep)?

If it is only a matter of being 2 hours apart until she is 18, that really is not that much time to wait. I know it seems like it is, but in the end, it's not. Regardless of the customary age for marriage, it is always a good idea to really get to know each other as well as possible....saves finding out years later that you hate certain behaviors about each other!!

And if you two are absolutely serious about each other, it is best to try as hard as possible to get the families to see how serious you are. You don't necessarily need their blessings, but they are nice to have. The future will be here before you know it, so make sure you can be financially supportive as well.

Talk as much as possible. Be truthful and sincere about your feelings and capabilities as a provider.

Good luck, I hope things work out for you two.

3. Posted by wouterrr (Travel Guru 3379 posts) 9y

in addition to what beerman has said. I don't know if it is possible. but would it not to be wise to arrange a dialog between your parents and her parents. maybe things can be cleared up. if her parents know that it is real serious they should accept. hope you will be fine. cheers;)

4. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Dado

Do u live in Germany(that is what your profile says)? Find out, what the laws of Germany say about people leaving home. Maybe your girlfriend is old enough to leave home, by law. If this is the case, her father can do nothing, through the cops.
As for the rest of it, maybe it is best to do what u and she want. Her parents may or may not forgive, but u cant be controlled by them, like that. I was in a similiar situation, to your girlfriend, when I was 19. My parents did not want me to live with my boyfriend, even though I was over the legal age. It was very upsetting to be rejected by them, like that, but I do think it is important, to stand up to them.


[ Edit: Edited on Feb 13, 2007, at 11:38 AM by Mel. ]

5. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 9y

I'd consult Jerry Springer if I was you.

If you don't get any help there, try Dr. Phil.

6. Posted by s_hoot (Respected Member 497 posts) 9y

Nah, not Dr. Phil, he dont know anything, I'd try Maury.

7. Posted by wouterrr (Travel Guru 3379 posts) 9y

Quoting s_hoot

Nah, not Dr. Phil, he dont know anything, I'd try Maury.

if dr.phil is not available try oprah. dr.phil rocks

8. Posted by wouterrr (Travel Guru 3379 posts) 9y

Quoting james

I'd consult Jerry Springer if I was you.

i used to watch jerry springer when i was 14 or so. i alway thought it was real, couldn't believe it. i really was thinking that this is what the people are at the other side of the ocean. i think it wasn't real? was it?

btw i think that james was not very serious in this thread. it was a serious thread until james popped up out of his daily numbers. but anyway....sorry for hijacking this thread from my side. i will now (as isa always says) leave this thread to its original purpose

9. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 9y

Quoting wouterrr

i will now (as isa always says) leave this thread to its original purpose

Thanks Wouter! Not all OT threads are jacking material until they prove otherwise. I have a feeling that Admir is serious and his problem very real. ;)

ps: Jerry Springer is real in the fact that people will do anything, including embarrassing themselves on TV, to have their 15 minutes of fame.

Isa also returns this thread to it's regularly scheduled topic...

10. Posted by Herr Bert (Moderator 1384 posts) 9y

I tend to agree with Wouter (well his original posting), see if there is a way to let your parents talk to hers.