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1. Posted by 1337Greg (Budding Member 5 posts) 10y

So im a 20 year old college Student and i plan on traveling Abroad this summer to Europe.

My parents seem i will surely be killed over there for some reason and really dont want me to go.. (Im going anyway)

Can anyone link me, or perhaps give some words that will help calm there nerves.


2. Posted by Budai (Respected Member 506 posts) 10y

Dude, im 18 and ive just returned from backpacking alone in SEA. I went anyway and had a hell of a trip. What i did was that i just said i was going and that was it. Did send a couple of emails back home to calm those nerves though...

Just perhaps tell them where you are going, show them some interesting cultural and historical pics that show how "culturally vibrant" and safe the place is and how much u are going to learn - eg its going to be enriching/once in a lifetime etc and promise to keep in contact? lol. i hope it helped - i personall did not bother, having been away from home since i was 11.....

3. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 10y

put it this way.

europe is a 100000000000000000000000000000000000000 times more safer than the usa in terms of crime.

its something that all young people do in there lifes at some point - which is to travel!

4. Posted by Utrecht (Moderator 5597 posts) 10y

Quoting oslaue

put it this way.

europe is a 100000000000000000000000000000000000000 times more safer than the usa in terms of crime.

its something that all young people do in there lifes at some point - which is to travel!

Actually, that's not true
USA is safer.

5. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 10y

but there is so many weidos in the usa.
i mean its legal to carry a gun with ya in a lot of the states and its easy to get a gun.

eg some dude walks into the shopping mall and shoots dead 5 people. we always hearing stuff about like that in the usa. never in europe. non existant.

ive been to the usa and theres no go areas, were the no go areas in ireland and uk is still bad but its still managable to walk about them. once you look the part.

the murder rate in the usa by far exceeds europes rate.

what are you comparing it against? im comparing it to urban areas not non urban areas.

it might be safer in terms of a terrorist attack, if thats what your talking about.

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 14, 2007, at 6:05 AM by oslaue ]

6. Posted by Utrecht (Moderator 5597 posts) 10y

Just general safety, rating 1 to 5. 5 is the best I thought. USA is 4, lots of european countries 3 and just a couple of countries (like Bhutan) are rated 5.

7. Posted by boreal2673 (Respected Member 345 posts) 10y

You are talking about devolped countries and not ones with political instability or militant groups. There will be crime anywhere, there will be random lunatics shooting people, and random bombings. It is just the way the world is these days. These random acts are just as likely to happen in the USA as they are in Europe. Just use common sense about where and when you go. I will spend the afternoon in central park NYC, but I would never walk through it at night. Just use your head.

8. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 10y

Tell your parents, that I travelled around Europe, when I was 20 and was not killed, even once. Tell them u are travelling around Europe, and it is nothing like as dangerous as dangerous places on the news, like Iraq.

If your parents are anything like mine, they are really worried, that u are going to spend your mortgage and car money, on travelling. Tell your parents, that I am now 37 and have a boyfriend (and tell them, he is almost like a husband) and qualification, a child, and a mortgage. And I still travel.

When I was 20, my parents worried, that I would come back from travelling around Europe as a pregnant hippie, who has been abandoned by her macho Australian boyfriend. He wasnt macho, but they think all Australian men are macho. They thought my travelling would prevent me from becoming the daughter of their dreams (looking like an air stewardess, with a nice job, husband who is a teacher or works in a bank and a couple of perfect children, house in the suburbs....). Tell your parents, I did not turn out so bad. I dont even own one tie dyed item of clothing.

And if your parents are not as computer phobic, as mine are, u can email them, everyday, while u are travelling, and telll them u are visiting museums, and healthy activities like that.


9. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 10y

Quoting Mel.

pregnant hippie

is that all? my parents are convinced that i will come home in a body bag!!!

10. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 10y

Tell'em to switch from FOX News to MSNBC. It'll work wonders.

In all seriousness, I think you just have to tell them that you are over 18, old enough to make this sort of decision and that their support would be a lot more helpful than their condemnation. Especially if they are not funding the trip, it seems to me they have no choice.

I've really stepped up the travelling in the past few years since I did a summer in Europe around your age. I'm a fair bit older than you now and it still drives me nuts trying to convince my parents that unless provoked, I have yet to meet a person here or abroad that truly wanted to kill me.

Then again, bad things happen all the time everywhere, so just tell them you'll be as careful as you possibly can.

Good luck.