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11. Posted by kombizz (Full Member 1416 posts) 9y

Always use your common senses, nothing else !

12. Posted by 1337Greg (Budding Member 5 posts) 9y

Thanks so much everyone.

Another thing that bothers me is I have noone to go with.

Do you think going alone is smart? I mean i dont really speak any other languages.

I just wonder if I can meet up with people at Hostels and such..

Also i dont know if i should plan my trip ahead of time as i have no idea who i might meet or end up... the only thing i do know is i should pick up a Eurail pass.

And also im thinking Flying From Pittsburgh directly into Paris.. And take the train to london a few days.. then come back into paris and use the Eurail to get me around then just end back in Paris.

Are there direct trains to each country? Or must you make lots of stops?

13. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Greg

U will meet lots and lots of people in hostels. I always do.

I often travel, in countries, where I dont speak the language. Of course speaking the language is an advantage, but u will get by. And many people in Europe speak English as a first or second language.

The train network around Europe is extensive, so I think u will get to just about anywhere on them. Some trains stop a lot and others dont. I dont know which types of trains your Eurail covers. When I am going on a long journey, I usually travel over night, so it does not matter how much the train stops. U dont need a sleeper ticket, if u dont mind being a little less than comfortable, for a night.

About making a plan. Make a loose plan, and change it, when u meet people or when somebody recommends someplace better to go.

Mel

14. Posted by bennnn (Inactive 93 posts) 9y

Hi Mel
If you don't mind me asking, what is your current career? And your boyfriend's?

What I'm curious is: how does someone who travels so much, and not worry about a future career (where they see themselves financially)...

My brother is constantly telling me: "You have 2 options; 1) Have fun now, but be wary of your future, make sure you don't jepordize your career. Or 2) Work now, earn, save, get a good position, THEN you can travel as much as you want with finance not being a burden."

Ben

15. Posted by boreal2673 (Respected Member 345 posts) 9y

Yeah I would not worry about meeting people at all. I was in Peru alone and I always met people to go out with, have dinner, or take day trips. It was harder to find time alone than anything else. I would also have a rough plan of what you want to do and where you want to go. Your travels will probably change along the way so do not book to far in advance.

Also Ben. The thing about traveling and work is you can't really have both. Either you have the time and no money or vice versa. If you get settled into a career early and save your money, you are more likely not going to leave it because you have worked hard to get there. Also you may begin to have other obligations like a mortgage that can prevent you from travelling. I say travel early because in the future you can always get into a career. People change careers late in life all the time. Unless of course you want to be a lawyer or a doctor.

You can't live in the past and you don't know what the future holds, so live only for the present. Thats my motto.

16. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Quoting bennnn

Hi Mel
If you don't mind me asking, what is your current career? And your boyfriend's?

What I'm curious is: how does someone who travels so much, and not worry about a future career (where they see themselves financially)...

My brother is constantly telling me: "You have 2 options; 1) Have fun now, but be wary of your future, make sure you don't jepordize your career. Or 2) Work now, earn, save, get a good position, THEN you can travel as much as you want with finance not being a burden."

Ben

Hello Ben

Your brother sounds like my sister.
One can be overly cautious. There is always a reason to put off traveling. Something always has to be taken care of. If it is not education, it is your job. Next it will be your children, that will cause u not to travel.
I think it is better to manage your money and your life, instead of waiting for there to be no responsibilities.

I used to work, for a computer company, before my daughter was born.
My boyfriend still works, for a computer company.
While I still worked, I used to earn time off, by doing a lot of overtime. I worked for 10 to 12 hours per day, and then I got to go some place, for 2 to 5 weaks, every 2 or 3 months.
While I was still a student, of course I had a lot of time off, every Summer. I would work a bit, and travel a bit in Summer time.
Now, because 3 of us live on one income, we are careful, with our money. We prioritise what we want to do most, and spend very little on other things. We dont have a car or a TV, and we have an appartment which is not fancy, and just big enough for us. We dont buy expensive clothes, either.

Maybe your brother thinks traveling costs more than it does. I spend as much on traveling as many people would on going to bar and clubs. I actually did an experiment, with some of my ex colleagues, to find out if this is true. I asked them about how much they spend on going out. It added up per year, to be almost as much as I spend on traveling.

Mel

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 15, 2007, at 11:00 AM by Mel. ]

17. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 9y

Quoting bennnn

Hi Mel
If you don't mind me asking, what is your current career? And your boyfriend's?

What I'm curious is: how does someone who travels so much, and not worry about a future career (where they see themselves financially)...

My brother is constantly telling me: "You have 2 options; 1) Have fun now, but be wary of your future, make sure you don't jepordize your career. Or 2) Work now, earn, save, get a good position, THEN you can travel as much as you want with finance not being a burden."

Ben

I don't mean to be rude, but I think you're brother is giving you terrible advice. I spent a while living down in New Zealand waiting tables (I was 27 at the time) and I can't tell you how many "older travelers" I met who told me how much they envied me. One quote that still sticks with me is: "We have all the money in the world but no time to enjoy it. You have little money, but all the time in the world to enjoy what you have". Basically, the more you get, the more you want and the more committments you have tying you down. Besides, would you rather have fun in the prime of your youth, or when your idea of fun evolves to watching Matlock with the other old cronies (sorry if that doesn't translate). I'll take the late nights, the bungy jumping, the random encounters - thank you.

Less sarcastically, I think the key is to find a job that lets you have both. I've been reasonably lucky with my situation.

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 15, 2007, at 5:24 PM by john7buck ]

18. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 9y

I would have to say that travelling alone has been the best experience of my life. The worst bit before you head away is just imagining all the things that could go wrong and how you would cope with them alone. But very few things do go wrong and when they do you cope just fine, better sometimes I think than if you had someone with you.

My parents were here in NZ for Christmas and we travelled all over the country. My Dad just kept saying to me "I wish I was younger and fitter so that I could do what you're doing".

I'm 27 and my parents were just as worried as yours when they heard that I was heading away for 2 years. Something you could do maybe is to promise them that you'll keep a blog of your travels. I did that for my parents and they read it every single day. It meant that they felt reassured about where I was and that I was safe, plus it meant that I didnt have to waste money ringing all the time to allay their fears.

A couple of months into the trip, your parents just relax and accept that you'll be fine. It doesnt matter what age you are, your parents will always worry. So just go for it. You wont regret it. (And on the very slight offchance that you do, then you can just come home and at least you'll have given it a shot).

i just wish I had done it when I was a few years younger too! :) Then I wouldnt be such an old 30yr old hag when I get home and have to start thinking about WORK N STUFF!

19. Posted by annaabroad (Budding Member 2 posts) 9y

Tell your parents that they raised you well. Thanks to them you are a responsible adult who knows right from wrong and how to stay out of trouble. Don't promise that you'll e-mail everyday, because when you don't they'll freak out. Do e-mail them once in a while, and bring them back something nice.

20. Posted by t_maia (Travel Guru 3289 posts) 9y

Well, the way I broke the news to my mom:

I talked about going to see London from Germany for years on end.

The year I turned 18 there was a school trip to London looming at the horizon and I mentioned that I wanted to go. Then I decided that a school trip wouldn't really let me see the things I wanted, so I started to organise a trip to London by myself. I was still in highschool, so I decided to go for 10 days during the winter hols in February.

All the time from November on I talked about going to London, taking the Eurolines bus and staying in a youth hostel. I did mention once or twice going on my own - but for some reason my mom must have missed it.

Until the morning of the day I was leaving, she was suffering from the delusion that I would be travelling together with my idiotic classmates and my utter cow of an English teacher. When she realised that I was going alone, she pitched a fit. I simply looked her into the eye and said: "I am 18, there is nothing you can do. The hostel has been booked and the bus tickets have been paid for. If you want to do me a favour, have Dad take me to the Central Bus Terminal in Hannover. I'll be back in 10 days."

I will never ever forget her face! :

The news that there was no way to stop me short of looking me up was a big shock for her. She immediately got from my behaviour that I would not stand any attempts to stop me. I had been 18 for 3 weeks, if she locked me up I would find a way to call the police and then leave home forever. That I would be back soon sort of consoled her. (Ha, I was just giving her the poison in little doses! I already knew that if I wanted to go away for longer I needed to start small!)

One year later I announced that I would be going to the US for three months, working at a summer camp. (That was an even bigger fight.)But since then, I have been on lots of other trips, everytime going solo to places like Ukraine, Israel, Egypt and Iran. By now, all my mother says is: "Be safe and come back home soon and healthy".

Mothers!

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 16, 2007, at 3:12 PM by t_maia ]