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21. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 9y

Don't tell them - Just send them a postcard when you are in Europe and it's too late for them to do anything about it.

Parents worry. It's what they do. The less they know (especially on the specifics & details) the less they have to worry about.

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 18, 2007, at 6:17 AM by Gelli ]

22. Posted by flo jo (Respected Member 414 posts) 9y

I train my parents with internet (emails) and open them an hotmail account. I promise to write them as much as i could. They got a bit better knowing they could contact me and I could contact them.
Show them you have prepare your trip very well, It had work with my parents.

23. Posted by Galskygge (Budding Member 6 posts) 9y

Quoting oslaue

but there is so many weidos in the usa.
i mean its legal to carry a gun with ya in a lot of the states and its easy to get a gun.

It's legal to carry a gun in a lot of states O.o? I didn't know that. Perhaps it's because I hate guns -.-. Three points for me not actually knowing something about the country I'm from! lol.

24. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 9y

Quoting Galskygge

Quoting oslaue

but there is so many weidos in the usa.
i mean its legal to carry a gun with ya in a lot of the states and its easy to get a gun.

It's legal to carry a gun in a lot of states O.o? I didn't know that. Perhaps it's because I hate guns -.-. Three points for me not actually knowing something about the country I'm from! lol.

Jennifer, you didn't really learn much from that post. If you want to know what is legal and what is not, look at "A State-by-State Look at Gun Laws in the U.S". You can click on each state and see what are their permit requirements.

It may be easy to obtain weapons in the US, but isn't that why firearm legislation is being discussed and debated regularly? Change does not come quickly nor easily, but the majority of gun-related crime does not involve the average citizen who owns one. They don't seem to target visitors to this country either.

It's easy to throw stones and make broad unsubstantiated statements from thousands of miles away. Looking at the stats for the number of murders in the Republic of Ireland last year alone, it seems they prefer the close in approach of stabbing people to death. Also consider the population of the UK and the Republic of Ireland (combined) is 64.8 million while ours is 298.4 million. Rather like comparing apples to oranges.

25. Posted by carosterns (Respected Member 159 posts) 9y

You can walk out your front door and get hit by a bus now. You can't spend you life wrapped in cotton wall hiding from danger, it is all around you. If you want to experience life you have to take some risks.

26. Posted by fuzzypuppy (Budding Member 62 posts) 9y

Explain to your parents that the best time for you to travel is now, before the global apocalypse comes, rather than during it...with all those zombies craving brains and whatnot.

In all seriousness, I'm 22 and I had a bit of trouble convincing my parents that my trip to London (soon after the tube bombings) was wise. After a while it was all I could do to shut my dad up about train safety. But anyway, here a quick overview of the speeches/reasons I used to convince my parents:

Ignore the risk side of the equation for the moment. While you're young is the best time to travel. You still have your health and your mental capacity. You have no familial obligations, no mortgage. If you wait 5-10 years you'll (maybe) be married with kids who need school books and new clothes and dental work and quite possibly the farthest you'll ever get is Disneyland. Then, if you wait until you're retired you run the risk of not being able to pursue your dreams. You'll be older and your health may not be the best, you may not be able to move around very much, you may need prescription drugs that eat up all your spare income. Or worse, you may not live long enough: My grandfather dreamed of one day seeing the Holy Land. He had been saving up so that he could go after he retired. Six months after retirement he died of a heart attack.

Then there's the risk-reward side of the equation. Every single thing you do in life carries an element of risk. This risk is always there. It doesn't have to be physical risk. It can be financial risk, mental risk, career risk, anything. Sometimes the risk is worth the reward: your college tuition is probably costing quite a bit when you could head to Wal-mart right now and get a job. Why are you doing it? The reward of a possible college degree is worth the risk of spending all that money on an uncertainty: You could fail all your courses. Well, they point out, not if you study hard. Exactly, by studying you are mitigating the risk of failure. When traveling, you never go unprepared, you learn about your destination: the dangers, the safety measures, the culture and customs. Thus, while travel abroad carries some risks, the personal rewards and the steps you take to mitigate those risks make it worth it.

Hope that helps!

27. Posted by 1337Greg (Budding Member 5 posts) 9y

That last comment was so well put

Thanks

28. Posted by diptinp (Inactive 3 posts) 9y

Just tell them that you will take care of youreself and keep on mailing them. They wont worry.

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 26, 2007, at 3:26 AM by diptinp ]

29. Posted by damon75 (Budding Member 14 posts) 9y

im heading into europe this summer and im 17 dude if i can make it round there im sure a 20 year old can ;) But i guess im a little more aware of europe as i live in UK.

30. Posted by tany33 (Budding Member 14 posts) 9y

I have the same problem with my mum. When i told her i was seriously thinking about traveling the US for a few months she was worried, when i told her I was probably going alone, you should have seen her face!: But she see's I'm making sure I'm prepared and is trying to be supportive. I think she is scared I'll just never come back - she asked for a rough figure for how long I'd go, i said 9 months and she burst into tears!

I know a lot of people here have said just go and your parents will just have to deal with it, but my approach is the total opposite. By keeping her updated on how the planning's going and promising to stay in touch as much as i can i think she feels better about it all, like she's involved. But then i guess you need different approaches to different parents. Think about what it is that's making them see this as a bad thing and change their point of view on it. You can't stop them worrying but you can give them less reason to ! xx