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I'm going away for 4months without my girlfriend

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1. Posted by russ24 (First Time Poster 1 posts) 9y

I'm going away for 4 months without my girlfriend and i dont know whether it would be best to stay together or go on a break. i really dont know what to do. Any advice would be most welcome.

2. Posted by Savannah11 (Inactive 11 posts) 9y

I guess it would depend on how long you guys have been together, or how serious you are with her. If I were going away for that long, i would probably end it. As a woman, if we were REALLY serious about eachother, I would wait for you until you returned.

3. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 9y

Hi Russ,

I suppose if you're really serious about her, 4 months isnt a long time to wait. :)

On the other hand, if you're not that serious then now would be a good time to end things. You'll meet a lot of people travelling, and while I'm not suggesting that you'd do the dirt!, I suppose it can be tempting...

At the end of the day, only you can answer this one. :)

4. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 9y

So you're in a happening bar in an exotic location somewhere or other. You've just had a fantastic day doing some site seeing, some swimming, a bit of shopping, meeting new people and generally having an excellent time. You're feeling really good about things at the moment, the trip has been better than you ever expected. Life is great and you're on a real high. Suddenly you catch the eye of this gorgeous, tanned girl across the bar, and she comes over and you begin to chat. Those few beers are kicking in, and the music is really up beat and pumping. Her accent is so friggin hot, and she's got eyes that you want to dive in to. She puts her hand on your leg and whispers into your ear the suggestion that you go somewhere quieter, more private, somewhere where the two of you can be alone. You respond with "Sorry, I promised Kylie/Shazza/Tigerlilly that I'd be a good boy".

Enough said.

5. Posted by bentivogli (Travel Guru 2398 posts) 9y

Quoting james

You respond with "Sorry, I promised Kylie/Shazza/Tigerlilly that I'd be a good boy".

Enough said.

A statement only a married, 40-year-old accountant could make... Straight from the heart, James? ;)

6. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Russ

It depends on what u want.
Do u want to hold on to your relationship?
If so, ask her if she agrees with this, and will wait for u.
If u would rather leave yourself free, to see other girls, while u travel, maybe it is better to separate.


7. Posted by flanbos (Budding Member 24 posts) 9y

girlfriends are!!!! fre...............................e!!! lol

8. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 9y

Depends totally on you. Four months isn't that long - my boyfriend and I live apart and have gone up to 6 months between visits. All depends on what you want out of life. If what you're saying is you'd like to be free and without constraints, that's a whole other story. Best decide what's best for you both before you go. What does she think of your leaving? Maybe you can sit and have a good ol' heart-to-heart.

9. Posted by anglosurma (Respected Member 106 posts) 9y

i spent 3 months in aus away from my fiance of 5 years at the time and i behaved myself although its difficult when the temptation is there, i dont think you will really know how serious you are untill your so far away from her , then you can decide together when you both on different parts of the world , i wasent sure what to do so we both agreed to just see how it goes and how we feel for a month, and i missed her more than i thought i would , although relationships and travelling make it a whole lot harder , financialy and many other points , at your age i would say free yourself and go alone that way you have no complications.

my advice is go alone and your heart will tell you

10. Posted by angela_ (Respected Member 1732 posts) 9y

I only went away for a month but my boyfriend and I decided that we would each get one "free pass", if you can call it that.. I ended up never using mine, but it was a good thing to have in my back pocket if I would have been tempted..