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1. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 9y

I started thinking recently about what effect the mundanities of life can have on your spirit, psyche..etc.

Why is it that people's relationships become so fraught with pettiness and tension in their ordinary day to day living?

This last year has been an unfettered, carefree existence and those people that I met along the way seemed to be extremely broad-minded and tolerant. Travelling and interacting with people like that did wonders for me. I really felt like my mind was growing the whole time.

Now, suddenly, I find myself bogged down yet again in small-minded office politics. In the past, while this kind of stuff was mildly irritiating to have to put up with at work, now i find myself feeling really unhinged by it. I feel disturbed by the needlessness of what I see happening here at work every day.

Of course, it's a big long saga involving two crazy menopausal females. But it has gone so far now as to result in a constuctive dismissal suit which is making life very awkward for the rest of us in the office.

I want to stand up and give everyone a good shake. What started out as a fairly harmless comment developed into a full blow row between two really stubborn people and it has been allowed to fester.
The nastiness that has developed is unbelievable!

I cant wait for the time when I can kiss goodbye to this again for the freedom of travelling and what that brings.

Human relationships are complex, that's no secret, but I wonder what is about everyday relationships that seem doomed to descend into this kind of silliness.

Do you think that travelling can have a positive part to play in how you interact with other people?
Do you think that people are this petty because they've never travelled?

Simplistic questions maybe, but Id be interested to hear what you all think :)

2. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 9y

God, i jsut reread that and realised that I sound like an episode of Sex and the City! I'm off to shoot myself.

3. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 9y

- mundanities
- unfettered
- fraught
- simplistic
- pettiness
- needlessness

We can tell who the writer is here, can't we?

[ Edit: Edited on Mar 1, 2007, at 7:06 PM by james ]

4. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 9y

Quoting samsara2

Do you think that people are this petty because they've never travelled?

I'd say they are like that because they are complete fcukwits

5. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 9y

6. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 9y

I think that the work environment brings out the potentially pettiness in people. You become so focused in an environment like that it's easy to lose the big picture. I know, as much as I don't like to admit it, that sometimes it happens to me.

The funny thing is how simple the solution to these problems are - usually just saying "I'm going to not worry about it any more." And yet we become so myopic that we can't see the answer is really that easy.

To answer your first question, I don't know if it's travel or age, but I am definately a lot mellower and laid back than when I was younger and never travelled.


7. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 9y

An office full of women - is reciepe for disaster! I much prefer working with men - who you can tell to f*** off and they speak to you the next day!

My experience of travel is limited in that l travel in between working but l know when l came back from a month of travelling l found it SO hard to get into the daily grind - everything and everyone seemed so well mundane! Moaning about the usual stuff that they were moaning about before we went away - it seemed petty!

Im only getting back into the swing of things now and we are back 6 weeks!

I dont know about me being mellower - lm what you would call fiesty but lm definately more open minded and try to look at the bigger picture!

8. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 9y

I think it has a lot to do with the fact that, while travelling, you can always leave and go somewhere else if you don't like the person you're with. I can't imagine having to work with some of the people I've met travelling.

9. Posted by AndyB24 (Respected Member 167 posts) 9y

I had been wandering around Australia for half a year, have returned to my home town to get money up for south american trip, and was amazed at how stuck in their mundane lives people are. SOOOO many have said, oh, i'm going to travel one day, but i'll lay money on it that not one ever will.

People get obsessed with succeeding at their job, getting promotions, this causes bitchiness, fighting... And for what? to enable them to sit on the couch watching tv after a day of yelling at workmates?

I'm over working with these people too, fly out of here on May 6th. Escaping to a far off land, not wanting to return..

10. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Quoting samsara2

Why is it that people's relationships become so fraught with pettiness and tension in their ordinary day to day living?

I often wonder that too.
I live in Bavaria, Germany. I think it is the capital of pettiness and tension. People seem to give such importance, to the the most uninteresting things.

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