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11. Posted by koalabear (Full Member 121 posts) 9y

I think there is alot of "small minded office politics" around people just seem to lose sight of actually having a life and get caught up in stupid pettiness, i have just started a new job and it is going horribly wrong, i have already had a run in with the guy who sits beside me as he is an aggressive arrogant wan**r and he went mental at me the other day because he was talking to me and i was't looking at him and he flipped, the reason i was't looking at him was because i could see he was annoyed and did't want the confrontation then he dragged me into a meeting to tell me i should be more involved with the "team" it's nightmare.

I'm just in a real dilemma over it as i have only just started but i am so unhappy and i promised myself that i would not get involved in this kind of crap as live is too short, so samsara i'm with you on giving people a good shake to wake them out of their drone like form, i want to shout at them that there is more to life then tapping on a computer all day and getting upset about someone not "looking at you" or not "getting them a cup of coffee", it really is head wrecking. I think travelling does change the way you think about things, i think it makes you realise that there are more important things then stupid office politics.

12. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Quoting samsara2

Do you think that travelling can have a positive part to play in how you interact with other people?
Do you think that people are this petty because they've never travelled?

I think, u had better put on blinkers, and ignore the office politics, unless it involves u. If it ever does involve u, u have had a good example of how not to react, to it.

Yes, I think traveling can have a positive....
It can open ones mind to different types of people. It has shown me, that I can find people from all cultures interesting. Before traveling, a lot, I tended to seek out people from my own culture, thinking I would have nothing to talk about, with people from other cultures.
I dont know exactly why people are petty. Maybe, they just dont know how to let things lie, instead of making a fuss.

13. Posted by Ahila (Inactive 1529 posts) 9y

Quoting samsara2

Why is it that people's relationships become so fraught with pettiness and tension in their ordinary day to day living?

Do you think that travelling can have a positive part to play in how you interact with other people?
Do you think that people are this petty because they've never travelled?

I guess when anyone gets stuck in one place for some time, they get caught in the small world they live in and hence everything becomes an issue in their ordinary day-today living, especially in the office.

Travelling does indeed open up a broader world for the traveller which helps one to see a slightly picture than what they were used to in their immediate home/office environment.

I find that whenever I travel, it has been a good method for releasing all my frustrations and stress at work and I come back rejuvenated and am able to sustain cheerfully the office politics for a certain time period, which varies on the intensity of the ongoing dramas. If I don't travel due to workload, when I should, I find myself becoming slightly depressed and also getting caught in the office politics.

14. Posted by Petra M (Budding Member 65 posts) 9y

Unfortunately "office politics" seems to be the norm in every company in every country. It's amazing how so many people take everything in their lives so seriously, how everything is so "black and white" to them - "it's my way or the highway!". I work in Human Resources for a very large company and I see and hear lots of gossip, rumours, tension between co-workers, misunderstandings, fueds, etc. But I have learned not to take sides, never take anything seriously or personally, and to laugh and admit to my own mistakes, and developed lots of patience, understanding and empathy. I firmly believe that traveling does help with understanding the complexities of human relationships. It also helps to learn so much about yourself as well - your own fears, shortcomings, etc that you need to work on. Traveling broadens the mind and soul in so many ways.

Cheers,

Petra M, Vancouver

15. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Quoting samsara2

God, i jsut reread that and realised that I sound like an episode of Sex and the City! I'm off to shoot myself.

Maybe, u are just having a bad week, Samsara.
Fantasize, about your next traveling trip. That should make u feel better.

16. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 9y

Quoting Mel.

Quoting samsara2

God, i jsut reread that and realised that I sound like an episode of Sex and the City! I'm off to shoot myself.

Maybe, u are just having a bad week, Samsara.
Fantasize, about your next traveling trip. That should make u feel better.

Fantasizing always makes me feel better

17. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Quoting Purdy

An office full of women - is reciepe for disaster! I much prefer working with men - who you can tell to f*** off and they speak to you the next day!

What a strange thing to say, Purdy.
I would think, that same sex people tend to understand each other better. I think cross gender communication creates more misunderstandings.;)

18. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

I have to smile, when I read all the horrendous accounts of office politicis above. Smiling, because of all the mothers I know, who had babies young, and did not have careers. My daughter was born, when I was 31, and then I stopped working(6 years ago). The young mothers are astonished, that I am not dying to get back to work, and pursue my career further. I spent a number of years, in the work place, and know the types of situations people on this thread are talking about.

Mel

19. Posted by Pardus (Respected Member 2356 posts) 9y

Quoting Mel.

Quoting Purdy

An office full of women - is reciepe for disaster! I much prefer working with men - who you can tell to f*** off and they speak to you the next day!

What a strange thing to say, Purdy.
I would think, that same sex people tend to understand each other better. I think cross gender communication creates more misunderstandings.;)

Men are easier to distract in any case. The average man's attention span is directly proportional to the size of the breasts of the woman he's talking too. And if it's a man, things are different. The rule is that you can only talk when the other guy has the drink up to his mouth. When he's finished you shut up because he might be on to something. And that means that you can't really take anything in because your head is filling up with fluids.

And our memory works in different ways. We need all the available capacity to remember the names of famous sports people. That's why we tend to forget about birthdays and anniversaries and the likes. But additionally a lot of memory space is then used to remember those dates and the punishment endured for forgetting it. (Usually the punishment weighs much heavier hence forgetting a different important date.)

20. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Quoting Pardus

Men are easier to distract in any case.

Well, that is certainly true.

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