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1. Posted by anela1986 (Budding Member 13 posts) 12y

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i realized something last nite that had me awake for hours. i thought about people i met in my life especially those who were my friends which they still are. i wondered if i will ever have another chance to meet them again. i wondered what they were up to and where they are now. i'm sure everyone had these thoughts. what i really realized last nite was that wherever i go it's much harder for me to make friends than to say goodbye. don't get me wrong i have a lot of friends in my life. i just think to most people it's harder to say goodbye to friends than anything else. i also think it's tough letting go so i think saying goodbye is much harder than making friends but then i don't know. i say this becuase i am always moving around. i can never stay in one place for too long and this is hard becuase whenever i make friends i leave them. i always have to start over meeting new people and eventually making good friends. i don't know why it's getting to hard for me to make new friends? do you think i deeply think or feel like i don't need anymore friends since i have plenty already? i hope not. well, do you think it's harder to say goodbye to friends or are you just like me?

im new so my bad if this was already talked about

2. Posted by travelover (Respected Member 494 posts) 12y

Hey Anela!

It is always hard to leave friends and lose touch, but thanks to the internet, communication is much easier these days. But the thing about friends is that you don't even need to move away from them to lose touch. That's why keeping in touch is important. Also, I think that if you keep communications open with friends from another city, then it might get easier to look for friends in the new city. Don't despair because finding friends will happen sooner or later. It's like going to a new school where you don't know anybody. You might be alone for a few weeks/months but inevitably, you'll find a new group of people to hang out with. I've been through that situation twice (changing schools twice and not knowing anyone) and it wasn't easy for the first few weeks but keeping in touch with my old friends did help because they made me feel like I still had friends out there. It's not the same I know but the idea's the same. As for saying goodbye, that I definitely agree with you. It is really hard because you know that no matter how much you guys keep in touch, it won't be the same as seeing them whenever you want. But keeping in touch is important because that makes reunions all the more fun.

It's funny you started this thread because lately, I've been really missing one of my high school friends that I completely lost touch with 6 years ago (agh! high school was long ago!) and I've been wondering how I can contact him without feeling weird (we haven't spoken much over the years). I've had problems keeping in touch with friends in the past and he unfortunately falls under the category of "friends I have lot touch with".... I can remedy that though... call him I shall...

Tam

3. Posted by skymir (Budding Member 2 posts) 12y

Hello Anela,

My name is Vladi and I thought your post was very true. I also have this problem of saying goodbye, I think a pretty universal experience. As I get older, I am 33, I see more and more of my friends less and less. Some I haven't seen in years and they flicker in my thoughts throughout the day. Life as it seems as taken us in all different directions. I have a particular problem saying goodbye. Meeting friends in my travels is challenging but I have always seem to find a way to do that. But as I get older people do find a place I guess where they begin to get into a routine. I also feel that I must keep moving and find it hard to keep friendships going from a distance.

Vladi

4. Posted by mtlchica (Respected Member 922 posts) 12y

Hi Anela,

I understand how you feel. I think everyone out there has been in a situation where they had to make friends, and where they had to say good-bye to really good ones. The great thing is, you can always stay in touch (which I know isn't the same as seeing them every day, but it's still something great :)). If you make the effort to stay in contact with the friends you lost touch with, I don't see why you wouldn't be able to meet up with them again.

Like I said, I understand how you feel. Just from travelling I've met so many interesting people that I wish I could have gotten to know better, and it was hard leaving the good times we had, but the ones I really connected with I still email (albeit every few months). What's great about staying in touch with people you meet while travelling is that in 10 or 20 years, you can look back and realise you have friends all over the globe! :) Now at home, everytime I started a new school I had to introduce myself to a whole new crowd and get to know people again. Both in high school and university I either knew very few people or none at all, and it forced me to go out and make friends. I find the experience, as rough as it was, really make me grow as a person and makes me get to know myself more. Plus I got some really great friends out of it!

Now that I'm out of school, I'm finding it tough to keep in touch with my friends which I've vowed to talk to more regularly. Analysing it now, I think it's because I'm still trying to find a job and have lots of time on my hands, therefore more time to speak to people. Problem is that a lot of my fellow recent-grads are busy (either working or away) so I have more time and less people to talk to. Which makes me feel like I'm on a friends-making/talking-to plateau. I know it's a natural thing, but I understand how you feel.

I hate to admit it, but I'm really bad at keeping in contact with people because I used to be really busy (lol, remember those people I emailed every few months? Those weren't only people I met while travelling, but some of my old high-school buddies that live only a few streets away from me as well ). So now I've actually started to contact friends I haven't spoken to recently because I missed them and realised that it sucked not having them in my life anymore. I don't want to babble on too much more, but I hoped some of this babble helped in some way. I send you HUGS! :)

Cheers,
Katie ;)