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1. Posted by Trace88 (Budding Member 26 posts) 7y

I met a guy while travelling who was also travelling. He lives in Oz and I in UK. We kinda got together...not to be too open but what should have been a one night stand ended up with us being a couple. It was only for two weeks but I have strong feelings for this guy. We recently said our goodbyes as he went back to Oz while I carried on travelling...I think deep down it isn't going to work out (even though I want it too!) But are there any travellers who met while travelling and it has worked???

TrAce

2. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7274 posts) 7y

Yup! I met my boyfriend in Paris about 4 years ago. He was on vacation from Belfast, and I was visiting from Montreal. We didn't know if or how it was going to work out, but he came for a visit about 7 months later, then I went to see him, then he moved about 5 hours from me for school for a year - and after a few more back and forths he'll be here for good this October.

It's hard, but you have to never let it get too hard. There's lots of good to be found in being so far apart, too - like knowing how much effort you both want to put into the relationship. Just be open, honest, patient, and understanding - and always have a next step in the works. Makes for lots of travel plans, which is always a big plus!

Good luck! You're far from alone.

3. Posted by beavis (Budding Member 177 posts) 7y

Yes I think its very possible.. But is hard when there is an Ocean between 2 people. But it does give yo time to get to know the person in other ways.. Even things like habbits, lifestyles, friends...etc.

Hope it works for you.

4. Posted by AndyB24 (Respected Member 167 posts) 7y

Yep!! met my partner in Cairns, she's from the USA, i'm in OZ, been apart 7 months now, it's hard at times, but we've gotten to know each other a lot better. leave in 2 days to meet up in Peru for a years travel :)

5. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 7y

Hello Trace:)

My boyfriend and most of my exs are not from the same country as I am. I met them, while travelling, while they were travelling or working in Ireland, or while I was working in their countries.
In my opinion, long distance relationships suck. There is more attraction/chemistry, if u are with a person, from another country, but
it is so inconvenient and expensive seeing them if u do not at least live in the same country. But at least there is internet these days, to talk.

I think, if u have a deep feeling, that it will not work out, then it probably wont. When u meet the "one", I think u will get a feeling that u are meant to be together, even though u wont know exactly why. The why will be something u discover, over time, while u are having a relationship together. So, keep him as a friend, if u like him, and leave yourself open to meeting lots of other guys.

Mel

6. Posted by Trace88 (Budding Member 26 posts) 7y

Hey All

Thanks for your replies, it is good to know that long distance does work. We have been emailing each other but it feels like we are so far apart, we have both said that we are loking forward to June so fingerscrossed. Will update you of the news!!

Trace

7. Posted by miromar (Respected Member 175 posts) 7y

Quoting Mel.

Hello Trace:)

My boyfriend and most of my exs are not from the same country as I am. I met them, while travelling, while they were travelling or working in Ireland, or while I was working in their countries.
In my opinion, long distance relationships suck. There is more attraction/chemistry, if u are with a person, from another country, but
it is so inconvenient and expensive seeing them if u do not at least live in the same country. But at least there is internet these days, to talk.

I think, if u have a deep feeling, that it will not work out, then it probably wont. When u meet the "one", I think u will get a feeling that u are meant to be together, even though u wont know exactly why. The why will be something u discover, over time, while u are having a relationship together. So, keep him as a friend, if u like him, and leave yourself open to meeting lots of other guys.

Mel

Hi!

Mel, can I just say reading your post just made my day?? I have broke up today with someone I have been seeing for little over a month, the main reason being I am leaving for south america in a month's time and when i made my decision to go travelling (way before i met him) I also decided I would not commit to anybody under any circumstances before departure. Like you, most of my ex's were living in another country, or they were about to move to another country. And it didnt work for me. I can see it works for other people, but totally agree with you: IT SUCKS. I missed that other person constantly, and I realised the little times we had together didnt compensate all the time apart. And for the first time in my life im leaving eveything behind to go travelling, the idea of missing someone constantly whilst im on a boat in the Amazon it is not appealing. At all.

But im not sure this guy understood, I think he was kind of surprised . Therefore im feeling shit . Big time. And Im supposed to pass 4 exams, 2 group projects and 3 presentations in university in less than 5weeks. And leave my current job which is quite scary. And finish all the arrangements for my first time of travelling solo for months. And prepare my family to cope with it.... Not the right time at all for a relationship or for a break-up, for that matter.

So anyway, after telling you all my shit (thanks for reading ) i just want to say, thanks Mel, for remind me that im not a weirdo for thinking with the head instead of the heart. For making me feel im not the only one that believes that the "one" it is not only one person: it is that person plus his circumstances and my circumstances... When all of that comes together, and it feels right... well, so be it! If not.. the world is inmense and full of people...

Said that, good luck Trace, if you dont try, you wont know...;)

x x Miromar x x

8. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 7y

It can work, and can work fine or for long periods. It all depends on the people involved, and also being realistic about your relationship and how you develop it (out of neccessity). Things have to be different, but different isn't neccessarrily bad.

I've never actually had a gf who's lived in the same country as the one I was, and all have been met when I was travelling for different reasons*. Actually, I haven't the faintest idea how (or even if) I'd cope with a gf who I would see everyday

*You can read into it that whatever you want, about the fact that i'm currently single

9. Posted by JoCush (Budding Member 6 posts) 7y

Hi Tracy,
I wanted to give you some hope in telling you that yes you can find love while traveling and it can work out, if you both want it too. I met my boyfriend in fiji three years ago. He is from America and I am from Ireland. We were both coming home from traveling and fiji was both of our last stop. We were only on the island together for 5 days. Turns out we were on the same flight from fiji to LA and then we said our goodbyes. It was hard cause it felt so natural being together, but I didnt think we would see each other again, seemed too good to be true. After that 6 months went by, we spoke on the phone, but were just getting on with our lives. He then came to visit 6 months later, then I went to see him in USA. I then had to go study in Melbourne, something that I always wanted to do, It was hard, the time difference sucked, but we got through it. To sum up we did the long distance thing up until last April, I moved over for a year and we are now organising selling the house, and packing up to travel the world together for a year. People told me it wouldnt work, and told him, but if it is something you both want, it can happen. Trust is the most important thing, have that and some faith, and your set. I know he is the one, I knew when I met him, I just had to go to the other side of the world to find him, and I couldnt be happier!

10. Posted by JoCush (Budding Member 6 posts) 7y

P.s
Going on what tway said, yeah having plans to meet up again, before you leave each other, makes the goodbyes a lot easier, so you can count down how long it will be till you see each other again.
Good luck.
Jo