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12. Posted by marafu (Budding Member 14 posts) 9y

Hi everyone!
thanks a lot for your help!!! I'm sure i'll visit India this summer!!
Thanks again!!
Mara

13. Posted by traveler1 (Full Member 190 posts) 9y

cheers! have great trip

14. Posted by NanaBr (Budding Member 2 posts) 9y

Hi, Mara,
I spent one month travelling ALONE through India last March and didnt have any harassment trouble. It really depends of your behavior, I mean, men will go after you if you encourage them for that. Of course it is necessary to take a reasonable care, like not going out alone at late night. Dont be scared about travelling alone, India is quite safe.
By the way, I spent one week in Delhi and the rest travelling around Rajasthan (Jaipur, Bikaner, Jaisalmer, Jodhpur, Ajmer, Pushkar and Udaipur), besides Agra, Khajuraho and Varanasi... after that I went to Nepal where I stayed for 12 other days. It was an amazing experience!
I hope to be helpful. Have a nice journey.
Nana.

15. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Quoting NanaBr

It really depends of your behavior, I mean, men will go after you if you encourage them for that.

I think, the encouragement we give them, is in their imagaination. We are even posting threads like this one, to find out if it is possible to avoid getting their attention, at all.

16. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 9y

I have heard of some colourful stories from interior Rajasthan. It is said that many single and older women particulary from the States come to this area, stay their for months and even have kids with the locals there.

Dont know how much true this is.....Have u guys heard anything like this?

Arif

17. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

It may be true.
Why wouldnt it be?
Those women met men they like, and stayed with them.
But I hope u are not suggesting that these stories give Indian men reason to harass foreign women. I think even the women u refer to would have fallen in love with certain Indian men, but that would not mean that they or other foreign women welcome sexual harassment.

Anyway, regardless of whatever some women do or dont do, it is no excuse for the general sexual harassment we suffer, when we visit India.;)

And to those who say that we behave badly, thus causing the sexual harassment, well, that is just idiotic. The men who harass women should be responsible for their own behaviour. All people over 18 should be.

[ Edit: Edited on May 17, 2007, at 7:21 AM by Mel. ]

18. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 9y

Quoting Mel.

Anyway, regardless of whatever some women do or dont do, it is no excuse for the general sexual harassment we suffer, when we visit India.;)
And to those who say that we behave badly, thus causing the sexual harassment, well, that is just idiotic. The men who harass women should be responsible for their own behaviour. All people over 18 should be.

Hi Mel,

I was just referring to the stories that i heard from Rajasthan and i would never suggest that it is an excuse for indian men to harrass foreign women.

I fully agree that sexual harrasment is a major problem that prevents the rapid growth of tourism in india. Did u experience such a problem in smaller areas or larger cities? Maybe it has more to do with lack of education and also because Sex is treated like a taboo in many areas. Even the very mention of the word "sex" creates curiosity in most men as they have lived a closely guarded life. In smaller areas people have large families and sometimes they have a single room to live in. In such a scenario even the married couple hardly have any freedom to be open about sex, maybe this leads to a lot of curiosity which in turn leads to the harrasment.
This surely needs to be stopped, the sooner it is the better it is.
So Mel, when r u coming to india next. If u happen to visit mumbai, just let us know, me and my wife would be happy to spend some time with u.

Arif

19. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Quoting arif_kool

I was just referring to the stories that i heard from Rajasthan and i would never suggest that it is an excuse for indian men to harrass foreign women.
Arif

In that case, I think it would be a good idea, to start a thread, about this topic. If u put it in this thread, which is about touts and sexual harassment, people may get the wrong impression.
Even though the sexual harassment is indeed an annoyance, I think it does not put many of us off, travelling to India. We(well many of us anyway) love India, because it is so different from Western countries. Many say experiencing India changes ones way of looking at life, forever. I can confirm, that this is true. Sexual harassment and touts are a small price to pay, for this. But yes, it would be a bonus, if the sexual harassment stopped. In some countires advertisements to educate people about this have been very effective. For example, there is one in the Netherlands, where a little dog follows a man around rubbing itself on him, and peeing on his feet. They tell men in the advertisement, that this is how sexual harassment feels for women.
I spent most of my 2 weeks in India, in Mumbai. Most of the sexual harassment was there. I dont remember any happening, when I went outside the city.
Unfortunately, I dont know yet, when I will visit India again. This time, I want to fly into Delhi, because last time, I flew into Mumbai. Now, that u have reminded me, I think I will look for bargin flight prices, on the internet. If I find a good one, maybe I will buy it. There was a good one, for last April, but there was also a good one, for Estonia. I choose Estonia, because I have never been there. ;)

20. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 9y

Quoting Mel.

In some countires advertisements to educate people about this have been very effective. For example, there is one in the Netherlands, where a little dog follows a man around rubbing itself on him, and peeing on his feet. They tell men in the advertisement, that this is how sexual harassment feels for women.
I spent most of my 2 weeks in India, in Mumbai. Most of the sexual harassment was there. I dont remember any happening, when I went outside the city.

I dont think such methods as the one adopted in Holland would work in India. Many of the men wont even understand what message is being conveyed. Education is the major issue in india and once we achieve 100% literacy, such methods may work.

I am indeed surprised that u faced the maximum harassment in mumbai. For the local ladies mumbai is considered the safest city to live in.

Have u been to Kerala or the hill stations of the North and leh?

Arif