just stumbled across this site when I typed "I quit my job" into google. I work with computers the job I have is pretty good, and I've done a bit of traveling. but for some reason part of me is very unsatisfide with life (the other part is quite grateful for what I have). my 26th birthday is coming up don't know if I want to go back to school, go travel,and or do some volunteer work overseas, blow up my appartment and start up and under-ground boxing club like Tyler Dirden (haha), or stop being such a whiner and just take some time off when I can. Anyone else go through something like this, or am I just being a big baby who should be happy with what I have. I would realy like to hear from people who've been in similar situations.
why would you think you are being a big baby just because you feel a little unsure at the moment? Most people I know have been thru just the same and believe me age has nothing to do with it. Sometimes we sort of reach an impasse - our lives our good, there's nothing really to complain about and things just tick along don't they. But for some of us, and you are one I think, that's not really enough is it, and you start to question what you are doing, where you are going, and what you want. These are very difficult to answer, because it's not as if your life is really bad, but more is needed. I was where you are now a little while ago - for all sorts of reasons - and so I thought about all the reasonable options open to me and which of them I would feel most comfortable with. But what I mostly did was sit down and just re-evaluate my life, my friendships and in particular, what I was and wasn't prepared to put up with. I deliberately cut away all the dross in my life - which was very hard to do and somewhat painful - but I'm a happier person for it and have learned to accept people for who they are and accept no substitutes. I had several options open to me and all of them very different. I tried to imagine what it would be like for each one of those options about 5 years down the line and was it likely to happen and make me more content? With most of them the answer was no, so I finally settled on the idea that in essence, we can't predict what will happen to us and there are no guarantees when we do. You are only 26 and have so much time ahead of you. don't let yourself be weighed down too much with this. You'll know instinctively when something is right and you'll do it. We don't know how long we have in this world, so it's up to us to decide what to do with the time we are given. We'll make mistakes, have regrets and generally mess up sometimes! And you know what? so what if we do.
I had a pretty rough couple of years from 1999 through 2001. My mother died, I hated my job, I got a new job which I hated even more, I had a relationship totally fall apart, I put on 20 pounds and then a couple of planes hit the World Trade Center and I kept thinking "god, I would hate to die at work." So I know how you feel - kind of like your life is passing you by and you are just a passenger, not an active participant.
I think Shopgirl has some great advice. You have a bunch of options. Time to put some serious thought into what you want to do.
For me, it was re-focusing my life on what was important to me - my love of travel, my friendships, my personal relationships. I took 3 months of work, and I must admit that I came back more re-energized and excited about work than I had been since I first started working. For me, it's not that I hated my job, it's that I hated doing it for 8 years straight. A little break gave me great perspective.
Really sorry to hear about all that. especially the loss of your mother. My father died just before Xmas last year, so I know what you went thru.
But something kicks in doesn't it - just when you think you could never cope, you do. You just keep on going because we have 2 choices in our lives, we can either make the most of it and fight against and deal with and conquer whatever it throws at us, or we can just fold, and give in and never try to improve our lot. I choose the former, and altho' it's been hard, I would never have it any other way!
the road will always rise up to meet us!
Indeed we do have two choices.....
Or Not to Travel
well im at the same place also.
i was phobic for the past few years so i isolated myself
and have no job not studying or anything.no social life nothing.
i just feel like going somewhere,some place...get away...
i dont know what i want to do with my life...
i have nothing and have done nothing for the past 7 years and im 23 almost 24.
i feel empty. i dont know what i want and who i am to a certain extent.
i dont feel emotions or like im alive.its not permanent but my current(isolated)situation is what makes me like this.
going some place seem like the best way of breaking the pattern and even forcing changes to occur but like i said im very anxious phobic and dont have much social skills and even if id find the strenght to travel i dunoo where id go and i would like to go with someone and dont have anyone.
maybe i could just go in some country for awhile and study or do volunteer work.
i dont know.i looked on it on the web and cant seem to find anything anyway.
good luck with your quest.
I just turned 25. For the past 2 years (since college graduation) I have been stuck. I have been afraid to make a decision (out of fear of choosing the wrong way), and thus i've stood still! My life is wonderful, and I'm very grateful for that. However, for a long time, I have felt as if a lot has been missing. I originally felt guilty... who am I to want more when I have my health, a great family, decent $$$, etc.? Even though I don't really like my job, I should be thankful that I have one at all. Atleast, that was my prior thinking. I recently decided that just because things could be worse, doesn't mean they couldn't be better. And I've finally decided to be proactive towards it. I've decided to quit my job, spend a month in Spain, and then move and find a new job when I return to the States. I went ahead and bought my non-refundable plane tickets a month or two ago so that I had no choice, I could not back out! I leave in October. Every now and then I panic and think that this was a horrible idea... how can I quit my job without finding a new one first?! How can I go to Spain alone, a young female, without even speaking Spanish?! This was a horrible idea! It's because of these thoughts that I'm so glad I've already bought the ticket. Because I don't want to back out. And I'm afraid that if I had not already commited, I would back out. I think this break is just what I need. When I return I will move to a new city, find a new job, and make a fresh start. How exciting and scary.
You are not wrong for wanting more. We all deserve to find things in our life that we can be passionate about. Going back to school, traveling, volunteer work overseas, etc. are all great choices. Those are 3 of the same choices I've faced over the past 2 years. But because I wanted so badly to make the right decision, I made no decision at all. And that is why a month or two ago I sucked it up and just chose one- didn't even matter what I chose. The point, for me, was just to make a decision- because I knew that whatever I decided to do, they were all great choices.
If you feel unsatisfied with your life, please please please mix it up a bit. Quit your job. Make a decision. Try something new. (Providing you have the time and $$$ and health for it). I know that with me, had I not made the decision to leave in October- I know for sure that 5, 10, 20 years down the road I would regret it. Because ultimately I want a family, children, etc. out of life. And once I have these things, I will not be able to just take off for a month and not have to answer to anyone. At this point in my life, I have the capability to run away as I plan to do. And when I come back in November, a lifetime of work stands in front of me. It will always be there. But being 25 in Spain, alone, not speaking Spanish... I only have one opportunity for it. And that's in October.
Thanks alot for your imput guys, alot of great abvise, and interesting perspectives on this. I like the way travelnote summed it all up
Indeed we do have two choices.....
Or Not to Travel
I guess there's usualy a simple answer to everything, do it or don't, try harder or give up, go or stay, do something or do nothing (migel23).
I think I know what I gota do.
There are a lot more people than you think that aren't really satisfied with their life at the moment, those who want more. I am one of those people. Having just graduated, I feel like if I start working right away, I will miss out on some things that I won't get to do once I do start my career. So I've been looking for a job, but not as seriously as I will once I've gone through with my travel plans. I've been globetrotting in my head since I can remember (quite literally) and haven't gotten to fulfill this globetrotting dream of mine yet. So, without any solid plans regarding my destination, I will start saving up for a trip that I want to take sometime in the fall. And, like cg8tr, I hope that once I come back from my trip (which, ideally, will last for about 6 weeks), I will want to settle down in a career... that will give me about 4 weeks vacation each year so I can continue to travel! Whatever happens, I really need to travel in the fall... Having just returned from the 3rd trip I took this year (Disney World suits all that are young at heart really... I loved it!), I realized that I need more! Call me spoiled, greedy, or whatever, I need to alter my travel style. I want to explore the world of backpacking... something I've never done previously. It's nice to know that we're not alone in our travel needs, eh? It sucks to feel unfulfilled and restless, but acting on the travel bug and just throwing caution to the wind can help. Good luck to all who find themselves in this situation!
I know how you are feeling. I hav enever quite felt fulfilled and have ealways wanted to travel the world. One of the reasons I went into teaching was to give me more opportunity to travel with my career. So I chose a job that I could use abroad and now I am planning to teach abroad next year and travel the world along the way!