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1. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Where should I draw the line, between friendly and what would be considered indecent and/or unsafe behaviour, with men, while in Iran?
I will be travelling alone.

Is shaking hands acceptable?
If a man tries to put his hand on my shoulder or any part that would be OK here in Europe, is it OK to step away, or how should I handle it?
If a man invites me to have a coffee, in a cafe with him, is it OK, to accept?
If a man offers to walk back to my hotel with me, is it OK to accept?
Is it OK, to allow a man into the restaurant of the hotel I am staying at, to have coffee with me?
Do u have any other advise, about what might happen, and what I should do, in the situation


2. Posted by flynn (Inactive 140 posts) 9y

Hi Mel.

Havn't been to Iran, but to Pakistan, so please take this as personal assessment ;)!

There are probably differences in behavier between big cities and small places, so adapt own behavior accordingly.

Regulations about social conduct are quite strict, better do abide.

Islamics etiquette prohibits men to talk to, look at and especially touch foreign women. Women are exspected to wear a head scarf. You should be treated with respect by iranian men if you do so as well.

I wouldn't expect a man in rural parts of the country to touch you, invite you or pester you. If he does, act indignant. Complain loudly about his behavior. Feeling insecure travelling alone you might try to join a group of women.

You meet some nice guy in say Teheran you like to have a drink with go ahead. Just try to keep to places where 'western style socializing' is accepted.

Hm, that helpful? Hope so ;)!


3. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Thanks Flynn.:)
It is helpful.

I want the local women to think well of me, and so include me in their group. It makes travelling much safer, in Islamic countries.
I discovered when I was in Egypt, that one way to be alienated from the local women is to give them the impression that I am a "whore". And it is surprisingly easy to give such an impression, in Egypt. Maybe even easier, in Iran. Thanks for your help.;)

4. Posted by wotthefiqh (Inactive 1447 posts) 9y

Stay clear of Evin prison.
Don't do a Zahra Kazemi

5. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Yes, I will steer clear of Evin Prison. In fact, I will avoid all crimes punishable by prison sentences, beatings and a rape thrown in for good measure. I wont show my ankles, I wont discuss the advantages of democracy in the tea house.....

[ Edit: Edited on Jul 16, 2007, at 12:53 AM by Mel. ]

6. Posted by flynn (Inactive 140 posts) 9y

Hey Mel.

Have you read djrkidd's blog 'Kiwi's Don't Fly!' - 'Kidnapped in the Axis of Evil'?

He's a guy, but still... ;)


7. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

That sounds scary Flynn.
I will check it out.
Would u mind pasting a link to it, in this thread.

[ Edit: Edited on Jul 16, 2007, at 7:58 AM by Mel. ]

8. Posted by flynn (Inactive 140 posts) 9y

sure :)

sounds scary, is funny

9. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Thanks Flynn!!!:)
Something for me to read, tomorrow morning.

10. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Cool stories, by djrkidd.

That reminds me.
How am I going to explain that I am a vegetarian, to anyone, in Iran, who insists on feeding me?