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1. Posted by Kathi20 (Respected Member 270 posts) 9y

Some of u might remember...

in April I told u about the 2nd TP member we were going to meet in person, about our excitment and the 'will he be as nice and fun as in his emails?'....

well... yesterday he left again...after 3months...

all I wanted to say was:

why does it have to be the nicest, funniest etc. people we meet, who are not living here and have to leave after some time again? why do we always connect and get along with those people so well?

is it because they enjoy travelling as much as we do and therefor we 'click' so well, or is it this 'reason, season, lifetime thing?'

is it just another 'life experience' we have to make and be happy about the good times we had?

well, whatever it is, we had a 'blast' and are really going to miss him...

wish I had those type of friends here in Austria..

2. Posted by Hien (Moderator 3906 posts) 9y

I think you're scaring them away...

3. Posted by Kathi20 (Respected Member 270 posts) 9y

I'd usually find funny what u r saying, but at this stage I really would love to have friends here, that accept us the way we are, people who we can rely on and know, that we can trust them.

I don't know if u have ever been in this situation- living in another country, having to leave good friends behind- going back home- finding it hard to connect to people- but the worst: people having a problem with you being married at a young age, having a problem with your husband being a 'foreigner'- not to talk about them, not having the patience to talk slow German to him... I could go on for ages, but I won't as I don't want anyone else to make fun of it.

All I tried to say was, that it's sad to see someone go, who became such a close friend...

and good friends is something I don't take forgranted...

4. Posted by Kathi20 (Respected Member 270 posts) 9y

plus: people are usually interested, when someone had the chance to meet up with another TP member and I thought I share my extremely positive experience...

5. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 9y

I understand - I got to meet a TPer on my last trip for a whole 2 hours. Neal and I got along with him great, so we were sorry to see him go. BUT! It's a blessing to have such nice people come in and out of your lives.

You seem to be kinda stuck in a rut there at home. I know it's never nice to hear, but other people won't change, no matter how much they frustrate you and you try to convince them to see the error of their ways. In the end, you have to make the most of what you have and find your own path to happiness. Friendship is a two-way street - you have to find people who give back in equal amounts to what you give out. Good luck!

6. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 9y

Ive met a few TPers and they are a great bunch - all kindred spirits! Awh Kathi you are feeling down but remember now you have a great friend who you can go and visit some where else in the globe.

But they really do like to booze these TP lot!

7. Posted by Hien (Moderator 3906 posts) 9y

I know what you're feeling. I've read all (I think) your previous posts and the hardship that you've gone through (and probably still going on). I've met many TP members myself. Although the times we spent together were very short (just a few days) compared to yours, we've have had great time and the experience is positive like yours too. I still keep in touch with almost all of them, and I'm hoping that some day, I will be the one visiting, which most of them are already expecting me to. :)

I'm actually heading your way some time next year. I have been planning to contact you on this only when it's closer to the dates (which are yet to be confirmed), but since we're at it now... When is the best time to visit Austria? :)

8. Posted by Kathi20 (Respected Member 270 posts) 9y

I'm not trying to convince anyone here, that the things I did and the life I've lived so far is the way to do it- not at all!

Everyone is different and I let everyone do their own thing. i.e one of my old classmate who left school, started working in this tiny village where she's been living since she was born, has been dating the same guy since the age of 14... if it makes her happy, she can do it- that's her choice.

The only thing I don't like is, people with prejudice.... but that's another story...

I just find it interesting that it is always so easy to meet people while u r travelling. of course u meet a bunch of weird guys, but most of them are so easy to get along with and u have so much fun...

I don't know... I think I'm also upset because some people at my husband's work treated him like shit again last night... in general people are funny with foreigners here...

that's what I don't get: why do they expect to be treated nicely on their holiday in Greece/Turkey etc. when they treat those people like shit here in Austria? and then they come back and say: those Greek/turkish people are unfriendly...

f... I'm so frustrated today...

9. Posted by Kathi20 (Respected Member 270 posts) 9y

what I forgot: yes, now we can got and visit him at least. We also got to know a guy in Ohio, so we might as well have to go to the US, if we've got some places to stay now...

the best time for Austria? depends what weather u liken and what u like to do... at the moment it is sooo hot here and we go swimming at least once a day... winter was way too warm and there was hardly any snow... the climate is definately changing...

what area/cities do u wanna visit?

10. Posted by Hien (Moderator 3906 posts) 9y

Quoting Kathi20

the best time for Austria? depends what weather u liken and what u like to do... at the moment it is sooo hot here and we go swimming at least once a day... winter was way too warm and there was hardly any snow... the climate is definately changing...

what area/cities do u wanna visit?

No definite plans at the moment. Just some rough ideas on which countries to go, who to visit. I'm open to suggestions. I think it's best that we discuss this in PM so as to not go off-topic. But then, I don't think it would be, as I'm one of the nicest people too, so I'm told. <shameless plug>

[ Edit: Edited on Jul 18, 2007, at 11:37 AM by Hien ]