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Anyone good at helping, with friendship problems?

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21. Posted by kruzinkiwi (Budding Member 152 posts) 9y

She needs to get a hobby,thats all the problem is,I was exactly the same at a period in my life till I found one thing that I enjoy doing, and spend all my free time on.I was told by doctors I had anxiety,depression,but the real problem was I was bored ands once I found it I was suddenly allright,The way you talk about her thats what I think.The reason she tells you all her problems is because shes got nothing better to do.boredom.Help her find a hobbie.hope this helps

22. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Thanks guys :)

Herr Bert, I suggested she talk to a professional, a few months ago, but she did not want to. Hopefully now that I no longer want to listen, she will think about talking with some type of counsellor. At least I hope that will be the result. She has to talk with somebody, doesnt she?

Kruzinkiwi. She keeps telling me that she has searched and searched for a hobby that interests her, but cant find one that she does not find meaningless. Its wierd. I though everybody has things they are interested in.

Mel

23. Posted by Herr Bert (Moderator 1384 posts) 9y

I can imagine your friend reacted negative to your advise, because a lot of people think that psychologists are only for people who are nuts, but that is not the case. I know a few people who did see a psychologist for a couple of sessions, and it helped them, to become more aware of who they are, and what they can do.

24. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

I think they are great Herr Bert.:)
Well counsellors, rather than psychiatrists.
Whenever I have a relationship problem or a childcare problem, I ask a professional.
They really can pin point the problem, right away and offer a solution.
It just costs 14 Euros to ask them a question by email
One can phone them too, but I dont feel comfortable talking on the phone with a stranger about personal stuff.
It is so much better than wasting time worrying about problems.
I recommended the same people to my friend.
She is just not interested. I think she would rather complain to me. But the complaining is endless. It is like some kind of unhealthy addiction. A person can get addicted to complaining, cant they? She says she is just venting, but I dont want to be on the receiving end of it all the time. I introduced her to a mothers group I am a member of on the internet, so they could listen to some of it. She unjoined after a while, saying she does not have time for it. Yet she has time to send me over 50 emails per day, to complain about her life.

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