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11. Posted by claireh (Respected Member 318 posts) 8y

After having spent over 2 months in India (alone), I totally agree with pretty much everything Angela says. Stay safe by not walking around in the dark/deserted places alone, dress appropriately and generally use your common sense and intuition. If you need to travel at night, try to use the train, or a bus company recommended by a popular guide book (hence mainly westerners travelling with them). As with anywhere else in Asia, it's easy to meet people in India, so if you feel uneasy somewhere, just hook up with some other travellers!

India isn't 'unsafe' as such, but men there do have a warped view of western women, so avoid eye contact and don't give them anything to look at (but, no doubt, they'll find something). I did have a few incidents, one where I was groped (made me furious, but harmless) and I was also followed in a hill station (there was nobody else around-big lesson learnt there).

There are so many women travelling solo in India. The best advice is just to be prepared.

12. Posted by Buttfish (Respected Member 298 posts) 8y

Quoting angela g.

hi!

i am a women who was travelling alone for 4 months in india (and with my boyfriend another 2 months). and as you can see, i am still alive! :-)) my experiences: 1. india is quiet safe as long as you use your common sense, even travelling alone. indian men are not dangerous, they are just idiots. they dont accept women as an equal human beiing to the men and they let you feel it all the time. it can happen that they tell you women are not more worth than the dirt on the street. 2. indian men think you are in india for having sex with them. therefore you will receive many offers. my favourite: "do you want to make love with your mouth? i'll give you 30rs...". in buses and crowds they will try and do touch you. dont be shy, hit them and shout at them. this is the only language they understand. anyway, dont be too polite, you have to fight your way through india. 3. appropriate clothing (long skirts, long pants, never ever show your shoulders or knees) helps a bit. but if you wear a short skirt or a top you will loose evey respect within seconds.
i know this sounds horrible and i have to admit that i wont go back as long as indian men are living in this country. BUT, it was my dream as well. i waited almost 10 years before i could visit this country. the landscape is breathtaking, the smells unbelievable, the colours stunning. india is an extreme in every direction and definitely worth a visit. so go to india. open your eyes, ears and nose and feel it. you will hate and love india... dont worry. nothing will happen as long as you are prepared with the worst! and you will find other travellers all over the country. if you want you can always travel with someone. have fun!

angela

i had to laugh outloud to that quoted pick-up line! it's amazing that it exists...what in the world?!?

you painted a nice visual picture, which helps understanding. i have good common sense, i will dress accordingly, though i don't like having to resort to violent words or actions (though i can do so very well, if need be). though the extra concentration of manly jerks won't be so much fun...but i think i'm already used to some of their bizarre behavour, so it shouldn't be too bad, i think. it will definitely be an experience. even more so, i am very glad you did it alone! no matter how many times i say it, it still stands. it's great to hear that it's doable when alone!

thank you for sharing your experiences and advice!! they're most useful!

kat

13. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 8y

Hello Latarina:)

While u should certainly take safety precautions, I think your friends are exaggerating with the comments about u being sure to be killed or raped.
I travel alone most of the time, and have been doing so for 20 years. I went to India 10 years ago.
Read all the safety instructions in the Lonely Planet, Rough Guide or Lets Go, especially the section concerning women travellers.

Mel

14. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 8y

Quoting Mel.

Hello Latarina:)I travel alone most of the time, and have been doing so for 20 years. I went to India 10 years ago.Mel

Mel, im eager to see u in India once again:)

15. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 8y

Quoting arif_kool

Mel, im eager to see u in India once again:)

India is on the list Arif.
But there are so many countires on my list and it keeps growing as I talk with more travellers and hear their tempting suggestions.
I wish I had 10 of myself so I can get to see them all at once.

Latarina, there isnt really any need for violent actions(unless u are trapped and it is a last resort. Avoid situations where this could happen). Just move towards a group of travellers or Indian women. I dont think Indian women like sexual harassment either, so they will likely stand up for u.

[ Edit: Edited on Nov 2, 2007, at 2:38 AM by Mel. ]

16. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 8y

Quoting Mel.

Quoting arif_kool

Mel, im eager to see u in India once again:)

India is on the list Arif.
But there are so many countires on my list and it keeps growing as I talk with more travellers and hear their tempting suggestions.
I wish I had 10 of myself so I can get to see them all at once.

thats true Mel, the world is so diverse and there is so much too see, that u feel that a lifetime is not enough to explore all the beautiful places of the world. Anyway hope u make it to India once again:)

Arif

17. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 8y

Quoting Mel.

Latarina, there isnt really any need for violent actions(unless u are trapped and it is a last resort. Avoid situations where this could happen). Just move towards a group of travellers or Indian women. I dont think Indian women like sexual harassment either, so they will likely stand up for u.

Latarina,

i agree with what Mel said. just follow the general precautions and we will enjoy ur trip to india

1. If ur lost avoid seeking help from young or middle aged guys, lookout for ladies or elder men for guidance.
2. Dress modestly
3. Avoid eye contact with attention seekers
4. Dont venture out very late in isolated places
5. Dont trust some of the cheap guest houses in tourist places.
6. Buses and trains are generally safe for travel as they are quite crowded most of the times

Have a nice trip:)
Arif

18. Posted by helsbells1 (Budding Member 70 posts) 8y

This forum has been really helpful!
I am off to India on 15th Dec with a female friend so I was quite concerned about the attention we were going to recieve.
I'll bare all the advise in mind, Thank You!!

Kat, I hope you have a great trip and I look forward to hearing about it when you get back.

19. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 8y

hi helsbells,

you have chosen the right time to visit India as December would be really cool.

But most of the Indian schools have holidays during the period Dec22---Jan3, so domestic tourism will also be at a peak during this period. Hope u have made the necessary bookings as hotels and trains, buses get full very soon during this period.

Do let me know if u need further info

have a nice trip
Arif

20. Posted by Buttfish (Respected Member 298 posts) 8y

thanks everyone!! your comments and advice have been REALLY helpful...i'm incredibly grateful! i'll remember all your advice - things don't seem so impossibly sad anymore! i'll write to tell how it went!

happy travels!

kat