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1. Posted by A.J (Budding Member 15 posts) 8y

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I am a christian girl who is planning to visit iran to see my iranian boyfriend, I want to know how to over come any problems we might face while I am there. We thought to where a ring and pretend we are married. Which some people say might help. The thing is im travelling with my 2 children who will be with us. I might get away with pretending to be his wife, but doubt i would get away with pretending the children are his. What do you think. Will it be worth the visit or stay at home? I don't know what to do, i want to enjoy the trip as much as possible & i want to spend time with him. How easy/hard do you think this could be?

Any advice would be appriciated

Thanks

2. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 8y

Hello AJ:)

I think t_maia will be able to give u a heap of advise about how to handle the situation with your boyfriend and kids. She knows a lot about the culture of Iran.
Here is the link to her profile.

http://www.travellerspoint.com/member_profile.cfm?user=t_maia

Mel

[ Edit: Edited on Nov 17, 2007, at 1:45 AM by Mel. ]

3. Posted by A.J (Budding Member 15 posts) 8y

Thanks Mel :)

Btw My boyfriend is friends with the guys that run that hostel we were talking about so, thats one thing that might be easier for us!

4. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 8y

Does your boyfriends mother know about u?
I think one thing that would make it easier is if u have women in his family u can hang out with and help u.

5. Posted by A.J (Budding Member 15 posts) 8y

I pm'd you :)

6. Posted by t_maia (Travel Guru 3289 posts) 8y

Hi,

my suggestion would be that you travel alone (or better seperately) and meet at the hostel/hotel "by chance". This is much safer for both of you. Make sure the friends are absolutely trustworthy.

Pretending to be married is illegal in Iran could get you into serious trouble. A German business man who slept with an Iranian girl was given the death sentence in 2006 for engaging in extra-marital sex while in Iran. With your children in tow you absolutely do not want something like that happen to you. Be just the typical tourist so that if the issue comes up you and your boyfriend can both deny that you have known each other previously.

And while I think that Iran is an absolutely beautiful country and well worth the visit, I would feel better if you were not travelling there to see your boyfriend or if you were not taking the kids. If you were just visiting your bf - fine, especially with the above method. If you are just travelling with the kids - fine too. The combination of both calls for trouble IMO.

As a European with kids in tow you'll stick out like a sore thumb and will be subject to scrutinity. While tourists are a common sight in Esfahan, Shiraz and Yazd, they usually do not take their children. (Only Iranians do.) You'll attract interest in your comings and goings and in "why are you here", which is totally unwanted considering the situation with your bf.

7. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 8y

Quoting t_maia

A German business man who slept with an Iranian girl was given the death sentence in 2006 for engaging in extra-marital sex while in Iran.

What actually happened to him in the end Maria?
Did they let him go after a couple of years in prison or did they go through with the execution?

8. Posted by A.J (Budding Member 15 posts) 8y

Iv been told recently to hang out with female relatives my boyfriend has there as it will be more accepted to be in his company. The thing is he only has his mum and she cant speak english apart from one or two words & I know she won't want to come everywhere with us.

Can someone tell me why it is such a big deal/so bad to walk about/visit places. I really don't understand it.

Also Iv read that male foreigners can hang out with Iranian girls? So where is the difference.

My iranian boyfriend told me that over there it is acceptable for iranian girls/guys to hang out together so why is it different for me since im a foreigner in there country?

Someone please answer my Q im so confused by it!!

Thanks

[ Edit: Edited on Nov 19, 2007, at 3:13 PM by A.J ]

9. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 8y

Quoting A.J

Also Iv read that male foreigners can hang out with Iranian girls? So where is the difference.

It is not quite acceptable for Iranians of either sex to hang out alone with foreigners or Iranians of the opposite sex in Iran.
I am not sure what the person who told u this meant by hanging out. It is OK to stop and chat with somebody(male of female) on the street who would like to ask u about your country or your family. Men and women dont even sit beside each other in Iran, unless they are members of the same family. A girl of boy can be alone with a member of the opposite sex who is not a family member but this involves taking risks with their safety.
It is possibly OK for u to sit and talk with an Iranian man in public so long as u keep a few feet of distance between u physically. Even in that situation Iranians will look on curiously to see what happens next, because u are a foreigner. I think they would give the same or even more attention to the situation if the woman was Iranian and the guy was a foreigner.

Mel

10. Posted by kombizz (Full Member 1416 posts) 8y

Dear A.J.
You could go as a visitor to Iran with a tour. You would say that you are visiting your friend. Then you give the address of your boyfriend's mother. I do not think there would be any problems to accompany your children.
It would be advisable to be honest with the Iranian authority and tell them (if they ask you) that youy would like tovisit Mrs Jese Doe. Also you could get a letter from your boyfriend's mother for invitation.
You should have an address for staying.