Do I stand at the reception and go up to a group of people and say Hi im on my own lets go out.
Or go upto someone on a computer and say Hi I'm on my own?
Should I really choose a hostel to stay at to meet them as I don't know how I can say hi in a hostel when Everyone is busy going about their own business. It was like that When I was at college I cant go upto someone I dont know in the corridor and say hi if they look busy which they usually do.
I usually meet people starting a new job but that's it
I know what you mean as I felt the same before I went travelling, but it's not the same as being at home as other people are alone too so its much easier to meet people. The chances are the people you see in groups are all lone travellers who have probably only just met too! I had to make an effort NOT to meet people and be on my own sometimes! I think I mainly met people on tours or in hostel dorms, and I never stayed in the 'party' places so its definitely possible to meet people in all kinds of hostels. don't expect that every situation will lead to making a new friend or travel buddy, but just be confident in the belief that it will definitely happen. don't try and force it, but I'm sure you will find you don't need to.
a bar is a good place. hostel dorm , tours all good
Sit back with a cup of tea or something in the lounge of whatever hostel you're at. Maybe bring along your Lonely Planet to idly browse through (don't be too engrossed in it, though). You don't even need to do anything more than that: 90% chance that within ten minutes, someone will have sat down on the couch next to you and started up a conversation.
Or walk into the kitchen; see someone cooking something that smells really good; tell them it smells really good, follow-up with the usual "where are you from, where are you going, where have you been?" Or in the lounge, overhear people planning to go on [some random day tour]. Remark on how you haven't looked into doing that yet, and ask who they're going with. Etc, etc.
It's really effortless. Especially in lounges; people don't go there to be busy going about their business; people go there to hang out and connect with the other hostelers.
Start by talking to the people sharing your room. I've met some amazing people just because we happened to be in the same room. You'll get talking, they might say they're off to see/do a certain thing and voila!! - instant company And if they've been there a few days they might know some other people and it all just goes from there really!! Its hard to go friend-less in hostels (even during those times you'd really appreciate it lol), so you really have nothing to worry about enjoy your trip
I have been sucessful at the hostel's pub or bar. It a very social atmosphere. I have always met someone.. and usually they have friends and so forth. The one thing to remember that we all having somethings in common. We love travelling and trying things a little outside the norm.
yes you just say hi pretty simple. If they don't say anything back it's probly cause they don't speak your language or they don't like you either way get over it and try again
I have a hard time with small talk with poeple in the "real world" too but for me it helps if I genuinely have something to talk about or if I am genuinely interested in what the other person is talking about.
That being said, you gotta think...everyone in that hostel is there for pretty much the same reasons: they really like traveling and they really wanted to visit that area. so right there you automatically have two things in common with pretty much everyone. and they are not just two little things, they are two things that most are passionate about. plus a lot of people have plans to do the same things later in the day or in the week, so you can make plans to go together.
just enjoy it, smile, and don't be too sarcastic or negative.