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41. Posted by opospa (Travel Guru 1836 posts) 8y

Quoting arif_kool

Quoting james

Quoting arif_kool

Quoting Herr Bert

Well some people will already know it from other topics, but I am bisexual.

I would love to be a bisexual, but still looking for that ideal guy who would show me the way

arif, I'm your man.

ARIF, ARIF!

I am looking for a guy who is a gay and not a bisexual;)

Ohhh....Too bad i'm too straight

42. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 8y

Quoting arif_kool

Quoting james

Quoting arif_kool

Quoting Herr Bert

Well some people will already know it from other topics, but I am bisexual.

I would love to be a bisexual, but still looking for that ideal guy who would show me the way

arif, I'm your man.

ARIF, ARIF!

I am looking for a guy who is a gay and not a bisexual;)

George Michael?

43. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 8y

Quoting james

Quoting arif_kool

Quoting james

Quoting arif_kool

Quoting Herr Bert

Well some people will already know it from other topics, but I am bisexual.

I would love to be a bisexual, but still looking for that ideal guy who would show me the way

arif, I'm your man.

ARIF, ARIF!

I am looking for a guy who is a gay and not a bisexual;)

George Michael?

I will check with him

44. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 8y

I'm not sure James is going to be willing to share George Michael with you, Arif, as he's pretty protective of his boy-toys. You may have to contact Boy George instead. I hear he's out of rehab and has finished his community service so probably has time on his hands...

[ Edit: Edited on Jan 4, 2008, at 12:08 PM by Isadora ]

45. Posted by Lily... (Budding Member 106 posts) 8y

Quoting "arif_kool"

I was wondering what drives a person to embrace gayism and lesbianism

Here are some of my life experiences and opinions

Me:
I believe that all through the years growing up being thought of as a lesbian got to me that's why I got some things mixed up. There was a very difficult time in my life where I thought that maybe I am indeed a lesbian (the story is far too long to tell and I've decided not to because it'll just make things longer and more confusing). But I have come to realize that I'm just a straight girl who just so happened to be boyish. That's it. I've learned that there will be people who are quick to judge, but there are those who love me too so I'd rather focus on the ones that benefit to my well-being and not mind the others.

My friends:
My best friend thinks he became gay because he was molested as a child by his uncle. Another believes he became gay because his mother wanted a girl so badly she made him girly (bought him Barbie dolls and the like, siiick! I know!!). I have another friend who thinks she became a lesbian because she never really got to know her mom who ran away with another man and left her with her father along with her 3 brothers. And one feels that he was born gay because the world needed some excitement. Of all my friends, there wasn't really a specific cause as to why they decided or just became lesbian/gay...actually what it all comes down to is that if they have been good people. They are my friends and I love them...it just so happened that they are gay/lesbian. Kind of like skin color...or what kind of ice cream one likes...

Quoting "arif_kool"

2. Is it burden of commitment which is relatively less in such relationships.

Actually I have been told that the burden of commitment in lesbian couples is a bit more tiresome...as the "guy" in the relationship must work harder to keep the "girl" interested and not want to go back to the d*c* or another lesbian frankly speaking. My friend who told me this actually agreed to talk to anyone regarding this matter, all you need to do is pm me for her contact information. (uhm TP mods is this allowed?) I'm currently still trying to get her to sign up so she can give her opinion on this matter herself but she's just that lazy (Hi Lains! this is a subtle hint! ;))

3. Is it the thrill of experiencing something different?

On this I can say I kinda tried it because I wanted to make sure what I am...and it really helped me decide. For my best friend, he did have girlfriends a while back but he swears he did love both of them, only not as much as he loves his boyfriend now. *shrug*

There may be a chance I've understood some things incorrectly, as English is not my first language. If I have please just tell me okay? But on the other hand, that's how my friend understood it as well...but who knows? It took me while before deciding to actually post this as this would include me actually admitting something so please be nice kay?

46. Posted by Lily... (Budding Member 106 posts) 8y

Quoting Isadora

I'm not sure James is going to be willing to share George Michael with you, Arif, as he's pretty protective of his boy-toys. You may have to contact Boy George instead. I hear he's out of rehab and has finished his community service so probably has time on his hands...

Boy George is actually a bit prettier...

47. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 8y

Quoting redhaze

Quoting Isadora

I'm not sure James is going to be willing to share George Michael with you, Arif, as he's pretty protective of his boy-toys. You may have to contact Boy George instead. I hear he's out of rehab and has finished his community service so probably has time on his hands...

Boy George is actually a bit prettier...

I agree - the guy's a stunner http://farm1.static.flickr.com/219/477880321_fe87b5d235.jpg

48. Posted by Erik85 (Respected Member 274 posts) 8y

That's a great insight redhaze, thank you for being brave and posting!

It is true that there seems to be many different "reasons" for gayism/lesbianism as you've said with your friends. Sometimes it can be just a phase one goes through or transition period, but other times its there from the start and forever.

If people try think of it with a rigid logic they will do their head in, because there's no real evidence to support a "reason". I don't think people should probe into it that much, but us straight people probably do because it can be difficult to understand from the straight eye, so to speak :)

Erik

49. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 8y

I agree, Redhaze did a commendable and brave job in meticulously detailing her experience. the reply to point no 2 was a brilliant one.

Quoting redhaze


Quoting "arif_kool"

2. Is it burden of commitment which is relatively less in such relationships.

Actually I have been told that the burden of commitment in lesbian couples is a bit more tiresome...as the "guy" in the relationship must work harder to keep the "girl" interested and not want to go back to the d*c* or another lesbian frankly speaking. My friend who told me this actually agreed to talk to anyone regarding this matter, all you need to do is pm me for her contact information. (uhm TP mods is this allowed?) I'm currently still trying to get her to sign up so she can give her opinion on this matter herself but she's just that lazy (Hi Lains! this is a subtle hint! ;))

Lets hope ur friend joins TP and shares her thoughts with us

Arif

50. Posted by arif_kool (Travel Guru 1757 posts) 8y

Quoting Isadora

I'm not sure James is going to be willing to share George Michael with you, Arif, as he's pretty protective of his boy-toys. You may have to contact Boy George instead. I hear he's out of rehab and has finished his community service so probably has time on his hands...

Great news Isa

Was he a victim of drug overdose??