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Not sure if I should travel

Travel Forums General Talk Not sure if I should travel

1. Posted by Matt19849 (Budding Member 33 posts) 8y

Hi,

I was just after a bit of advice - maybe someone is in the same position as me and could help!!
I really want to travel and see different places, i've been to Australia and travelled all around there and loved it. The only problem is i'm in a long term relationship, I dont want to have to leave my partner behind again and she doesnt want to do the whole travelling thing!
Just wondered if anyone had any advice on what I could may be do - i've been trying to rack my brains around different ways I could travel and still see my partner but im not getting anywhere

2. Posted by Rubymurray (Budding Member 62 posts) 8y

Time for a bit of soul searching Paul

I left my girlfriend a couple of months ago so I could go travelling and haven't looked back, it may sound a bit harsh but I came to the conclusion that if I stayed for her rather than go travelling which has been a life long goal, then I might end up resenting the situation I was in.
Obviously all relationships are different and I'm not for one minute saying you should break up, just think long and hard about what you want.
On the other hand you don't have to leave for years on end which would probably spell the end of your relationship, maybe you could try going for two or three months and play it from there.

Hope this helps a bit mate Ruby

3. Posted by hey_monkee (Respected Member 430 posts) 8y

Maybe its long-term travel that your partner's not so keen on?? Everyone likes to take a holiday, so why not "market" a travel plan to her that way ;) Compromise is key in a realtionship where values don't quite match up, but that means she has to compromise too!! Maybe she'd like to do some island hopping around the Pacific for a month or so?? Or a cultural trip through some European countries?? Or maybe she'd even be keen to take a working holiday somewhere? Then you'd both be able to experience an exciting new place together, with a bit more stability than a RTW backpacking trip

4. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 8y

Hello Matt:)

I am in exactly the position u are.
How I deal with it is go on short trips often so I am not away from my boyfriend and daugher for a long stretch each time. These trips last anything from 3 days to 1 month.

Mel

5. Posted by hobo1985 (Inactive 52 posts) 8y

travelling is a passion, if somebody stifles that passion i dont think it would be something you can deal with positively in the long term. I had alot of trouble when i first started travelling with relationships, but you need to love yourself and your own life. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Go with whats in your heart, only you know what the right thing to do in the long run is!

6. Posted by sradwxi (Budding Member 82 posts) 8y

looking purely at your question
is there any way i can travel and still see my gf
video phone
msn
yahoo
take her with you
if you value the relationship then you will back down a little
if she values the relationship she will back down a little
if you both back down a little, you come to a compromise
which means taking lots of package holidays, or you taking short trips and doing your best not to miss her
im in the same boat
its hard to get what u want, to work properley,
ill let u know in a couple of months how i got on lol
good luck
short trips do work as a couple of people have suggested
id love to do the year long one, if i could i would
but sadly i cant, simple as that
carl

7. Posted by SoulAsylum (Budding Member 20 posts) 8y

Hmm that is tough, what you should do is have a long talk with your girlfriend, and if she wants to hinder and restrict you then I'd get out of there and just go travelling, if somebody wants to stop you accomplishing something you've wanted to do then I wouldn't want to be with them.

Surely there must be a compromise in there somewhere? You could go travelling and she could come out and meet you on holiday for a week or so...

I don't know it is pretty complicated situation, this might be a tough question, but is she really worth staying for?

8. Posted by twinsing (Budding Member 38 posts) 8y

Ah, so much sense. Where do you guys live? I have obviously been dating all the wrong people. *Kidding*

anyways, if a relationship stifles you, you shouldn't be in it. On the other hand, if it is just a matter of preference, maybe you can make some compromises and she can too.

Good luck guys, make it work if its worth it:)