Well here is the situation I go a job offer in Houston Downtown with a pretty big clinic will a good pay rate 2.00 dllars more what i make in my current job and health benefit and i dont know how to the my boss that im quiting. I feel bad because my current boss its been really friendly are realtionship is more a friend basis and she been really nice to me for Christmas she gave that watch i always wanted and much more like she will take me to lunch, to dinner me and my husband. It just really hard to tell her i'm leaving after all she is done and i'm just confused. Were i work there is no opportunities to step up , get a raised or health benefits and i have son. What should i do?
[ Edit: Edited on Jan 11, 2008, at 12:37 PM by jessyrdz ]
Be honest with your boss. Yes, she has been a great boss but you also have to consider your own wants and needs. If the Houston job offers you a better salary and chances for advancement, then take it. When you go in to speak with her, since you have a good relationship, include the things you have just mentioned here - no advancement, pay increase or benefits and you do have a child to take into consideration. If she is truly the type of employer you state she is, she will accept these things and understand your need to provide more for your family.
Realize that, occasionally, when an employee comes in to say they are quiting and lists the reasons why, the current employer will "sweeten the pie" (so to speak) and offer a similar deal. Regardless, walk in with self confidence about why you want to change jobs and just tell her. It also never hurts to say thank you for being such a good boss. Not only does it ease the sting of your leaving but also leaves the door open in case you need her as a reference down the road.
If she is goood friend of you, she can give some suggestion for your carrer
All d best!!
From the sounds of it, where you work now is a small business, right? Just a handful of people? If so, then whichever way you tell your boss, I'd do it as soon as possible; give her as long as possible to find a replacement and have you train that replacement. This will be more valuable to her than waiting for the right moment or the right way to tell. She's going to lose a not insignificant percentage of her workforce, and she's going to need to be able to anticipate on that - to get as much work done in advance and such.
In the end, any boss knows they have a professional relationship with their employees, and that those employees can disappear at a moment's notice. There really should be no hard feelings over that.
Also, if you give her enough notice, she might go over her finances and maybe discover that she might want to make you a counter-offer that'd make you consider staying on with her after all.
That sounds like a great boss. Wish I could say the same about mine
I agree with some of the other people on this post. Give her as much time as possible to look for a replacement. You don't want to end up quitting a few days before you leave for Houston. That wouldn't be nice. From your description of your boss, it wouldn't surprise me if she attempted to make a counter offer, even though you say there is no possibility of a raise/advancement. With all this being said, unless you get a deal from your current boss that's as satisfying, you should definitely take the new job offer. When you have a child, having health benefits is very, very important.
Most bosses prefer to be told ASAP in order find a replacement and keep the company running smoothly.
If you're on friendly terms with her, she may even appreciate that you don't come to her with a fait accomplie - a done deal. Perhaps if you present your arguments to her and let her know you'd only be leaving for the financial security, she may - as Isa mentioned - offer you a similar package to stay. It's your right to quit and find another job and - no matter how close you are with your boss - a business will do what it takes to stay afloat, and so to must employees do what they need to do for their own security and long-term benefit.
If you do leave, tell her how much she meant to you and how much she helped you to learn and grow. Maybe give her a little something, a card or flowers, say, to extend your gratitude. I'm sure she'll understand that you're thinking of your family, and appreciated all she's done.