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161. Posted by Araluen (Respected Member 346 posts) 8y

Quoting kombizz

A good friend wrote me this response:

"It's down to basic biology and supply and demand - the man is looking to get his end away, and the woman has the equipment he needs for that. She, on the other hand, doesn't have the same urges, and so can afford to wait. So, she's got the supply, you've got the demand --> you have to "pay" to get in the game. It's all down to your statement:

I did not argue as I wanted to make a good impression.

She wasn't as worried about making a good impression, she didn't need to.

Obviously the above is a gross oversimplification and generalisation. In the end, though, the right person will not want to fleece you out of your hard earned dosh just for you to enjoy the presence of their company.

Amazingly, in Holland, going Dutch is usually the norm - it's because it keeps the relationship equal, and the woman isn't "in debt" to the man for dinner -- any after dinner fun and games take place on equal terms ."

I dissagree with that statement. It makes women sound like they are up for sale in a cattle market. As if her body's up for sale to the highest bidder or any bidder for that matter.

If a bloke asks a lady out for dinner, he should pay for that dinner, and I don't believe there should be any expectation of getting a "reward", or to put it bluntly getting "laid." That's a terrible idea and only a jaded cynic or someone with low morals would have such low standards.

162. Posted by Piecar (Travel Guru 894 posts) 8y

Well, it's a different world everywhere. First I will tell the story and then give my opinion

I lived in Cartagena for all of 2007. I speak Spanish pretty well and met a few women... I asked several of them to dinner. Of the women I asked to dinner, all but one led me to a couple's hotel (families live together for a long time...and some need privacy....If you've been out there, you know) I thought I was the most suave man on the planet....

But a fella I was working snapped me to the fact that, in Cartagena, a woman accepts a dinner invitation, she accepts the unspoken add on. I was aghast. Fine, I was also slightly pleased with myself...and aghast at that too....so one pleased, two aghast. I think I come out like a decent guy.

A dinner is a dinner. There should be no strings attached. But this means that the woman should occasionally pony up. If I am always paying, it means that you are auditioning. Paid, CHECK! Funny, CHECK! Bad Shoes, X! Chive in tooth, X! Far too many women work this as a free meal and a reason to call their friends to tell funny stories. This is in kind, but no where near as cynical, as chicks going to bars with no money and making eyes at dudes in order to garner free drinks. Don't even pretend that this doesn't happen.

But again, I ask you to come out, the tacit understanding is I want to show you a good time. I will pay.

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