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How Long Before It's 'Living'?

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1. Posted by corneggs (Budding Member 26 posts) 8y

Yeah the title is pretty bad...are there any suggestions for a title change?

Anyway, I'm always confused about what it means to have "lived" versus traveled in a place. My roommate considers being in a destination for one month considers having lived there. Alternatively, someone else said if it's long enough so that you have to put away and fold your clothes and do laundry more than once, you've already lived there.

What do you think? What length of time does it take to have lived in a place?

2. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 8y

A good question, though a tricky one - I know what you mean, and there is no fixed definition, and i would say that most people will probably have their own definition.

I kind of think that if you are still staying in a hostel/hotel, you aren't living there (unless you are still there after 3 or 4 months, perhaps). As soon as you are staying somewhere "private", it counts as living there. But again, that's not a fixed, and anywhere where you haven't been for, say, at least a month i would instantly discount.

Alternatively, someone else said if it's long enough so that you have to put away and fold your clothes and do laundry more than once, you've already lived there.

If i used that definition, i would probably count as having lived in 50countries+ in feck knows how many towns/cities/Fields/hedges/tents. But then I don't carry much when I travel, so will perhaps do laundry more often than average. Also, The average family going on holiday for 2weeks will do laundry more than once and fold their clothes, but they wouldn't say they lived there.

3. Posted by sapphyre (Respected Member 418 posts) 8y

I'll consider it living if I have to settle down in a place for a while with a job/to study, having to open a bank account etc

4. Posted by Sander (Moderator 4809 posts) 8y

I've come up with half a dozen rules for this, but I've discarded them all almost immediately, as it's easy to imagine people/situations to whom those rules wouldn't apply.
I think the best I can do with generalizing is:
When you have developed routines that are unique for that place.

5. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 8y

Hello Corneggs :)

I consider it living in a place when I do living in a place type things rather than travelling in a place type things while there.
I say I lived in New York for 3 months because I worked there and had a permanent type place to live.
I say I travelled around Europe for 3 months because I stayed in hostels and moved from place to place.

Mel

6. Posted by corneggs (Budding Member 26 posts) 8y

Quoting Sander

I've come up with half a dozen rules for this, but I've discarded them all almost immediately, as it's easy to imagine people/situations to whom those rules wouldn't apply.

I want to know the other "rules"! Don't worry if they don't apply. The more ideas the better.

[ Edit: Edited on Feb 17, 2008, at 4:25 AM by corneggs ]

7. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 8y

Quoting Sander

When you have developed routines that are unique for that place.

I always end up in some sort of routine--even after a few days. Sometimes it's just stopping at the same place for a coffee or to pick up supper every night.

I think there's no real way to define it. Some people live in a country for years and never venture out of the small ex-pat community where they live. Would they really know anything about the people or the culture? Yet they could still claim having lived there. I'd guess we all try to define "living" in such a way that lets us claim having lived somewhere else!