Oh, James, I think you have answered your own question!!
[the blue Mitsubishi that screams "I'm an accountant with a young family and live in the suburbs"] Maybe the infant seat blends better in the BMW so not as well noticed. [BMW is silver and has nice wheels and is very slick.] See, you did answer your own question.
"You love your women" was not directed toward you personally, but rather a generalization.
[Personally, I think colour has nothing to do with it.] Color counts. It may not be at the top of the list, but it does count. Consciously or otherwise, color has an influence on almost every part of our lives. Hypothetically, consider this - you wear a gray t-shirt or you wear a Hawaiian shirt - different opinions are going to be made about you just by the colors alone, before you verbally express yourself (remember, it's hypothetical). Your car doesn't speak so color and style speak for it - and you - and your wife.
I drive a purple ("amethyst") 1997 Neon. Great little car but what does that say about me? (And, do I really want to know...)
Turned tables - isn't that basic human nature? We like the attention from those we find appealing, but not from those we don't.
(I still think it's your car's aura.)