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Go, Go, Go.......You'll regret it if you don't! Besides if the love is that strong he will either agree to come with you or will be there on your return - My partner chose to come with me under the same pressures!
2 words - GO ANYWAY.
I'm 26, and I'm in australia for a year. Guess what,thats right, boyf of 6 years was meant to be here too. Was our plan for years, but some people like my ex and probably your boyf, are too scared to make the move, and end up bottling out.
You are not that type of person, you obviously love travelling, to even be thinking about going without him...and you are thinking about going without him aren't you.
So I came on my own and its freakin great!
Yes it will be scary goin on your own, but you will meet other young people in hostels, who are also on their own, theres heaps of people doin same thing.
Yes it will be amazing and will change you for the better.
Yes you will regret it, if you don't go and get a mortgage instead.
Bottom line, if you really want to go travelling, if you really do have a passion for it, then Go. Theres beautiful places in the world that aren't going to be aound forever, yur hometown and all your mates and your 'stay at home' boyf, will all still be there too. Get out there and do it girl.
I hope you end up doing what you want, reply to me if you want any advice on aus, I have heaps of experience, advice websites etc.
I am also 21, and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years, and have lived with him fo 2 years. Earlier this year I decided I wanted to go travelling but whilst he did not want to, he has supported my choice and has told me to go and do it now, whilst I can, and so that I don't regret it! We moved our our rented flat in May, and he has even come with me to see various travel advisors and to book my trip. I understand not all partners would be so supportive, but like me, you are still young, and if you don't do it now, when will you? And if you stay, will you blame him in years to come when you regret not doing it? Plus the sooner you go, the quicker you will be back and you can then settle down and get a morgage (if thats what you want.)
I go away at the end of October for 7 months, and I'm going on my own. Just talk to your boyfriend and if he is a decent guy he will understand that it is something you need to do, and will support your every move.
Hey, you have had so many replies to your post it's been great reading them. I think we all have had a similar experience. Ive just came out of a 7 year relationship. we had bought a house together got a mortage and things just seemed to go downhill from there. We couldn't afford to do all the things we really wanted to and if we had thought about it we should have went travelling together before for a while and maybe we might still be together. But hey hindsight is a wonderful thing!
I've always been a bit of a home bird but fancied travelling and now that i'm back at my parents and thanks to this website and all the fantastic people on it i have plucked up the courage to go travelling by MYSELF hopefully in Feb 09. All my friends are now tied down and can't go. Now after that experience i can't think of anything worse than getting tied down with a mortgage again at least not until i'm over 30!!!
Everyone's situation is different and what's meant to be will be but sometimes you have to make a choice that you really don't like but know it's for the best in your heart. I did.
And what about leaving him and travelling with me?
I had exactly the same problem, long term girlfriend, full time job and the ambition to get a mortage. I'm leaving to go in less than two weeks. If you don't do it now you may never. Take the chance, he will still be there when you get back and whatever will be will be. You will regret it if you don't.
Good luck with the decision.
I was in exactly the same position when I was 21 (now 24) but unfortunately I didn't have the means to travel at that time. I would say definitely go and leave it up to him as to whether he wants to go or not, but as for the mortgage why not buy now if you really want to, spend a few years paying it back and rent it out while you travel. That's still my plan. I have a decent job now so can start saving and the rental income might even provide you with a slight profit (though not sure in today’s market) You'll have the benefit of having your own home to return to when you want to come back. Would probably need someone to manage it for you though, say if the tenants move out while you're away and you need to get new ones in. Who knows maybe if you decide to go in future years he might be able to go with you. The only thing stopping me now is that I don't quite have enough money and I've just started in my new career. I'm saving while I get my work experience so hopefully I'll still be employable on my return.
By the way does anyone want to join me in spending a year travelling around Latin America (by motorbike) in 2012?
then go and travel. leave your boyfriend for awhile, besides you're coming back anyway. if he doesn't want to go, then go by yourself, it's kind of boring for some reason, but if you really wanted to travel, Im sure you'll enjoy it yourself.
[ Edit: Edited on Sep 17, 2008, at 4:11 AM by asia'h ]
I''ve just turned 22 and split with my boyfriend. first thing i'm doing is going OZ in Jan....
You should definitly go, if your meant to be together he'll still be here when you get back, (fate and all that) your only 21 with your whole life ahead of you, I' was renting for 6 months and now i've had to move back hom, (i feel it was a waste of time) I could of saved all that money I spent in rent and have even more to go traveling with!!
If you dont do it now, you wont ever do it.
Don't worry about your other half, if its meant to be it wil be!!! (imagine if you don't go and split up anyway)
If you decide to go, let me know, i'm going on my own for 3 months in Jan. (not booked yet but wlll do at end of month) and shitting it being a 22 yr old female.! but there seems to be enough of us out there in the same boat!
DO IT !