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1. Posted by smythy (Full Member 237 posts) 8y

Guys, guys, im so glad to be back on here with you all! Got one problem though that I know you can help me with - as some of you may know or not, well Ive returned from a major trip of a lifetime - my RTW trip - and a major dream, goal of my life, though the thing is - life has never been the same since - I know that travelling does that to ya! but can you guys help me reach out again!

Im back here in Ireland only cause my ticket ended me back here (Nov 07) and an empty bank balance but life has been ever so strange back in this world of working, paying the bills, etc. And to say the least Im hating it - its pure boring! I often feel like I reached a huge goal when I went on the trip but since it ended, feels like ive dropped into some never ending hole! Every day I really want to go back to Oz and make a huge trip of getting there - like another RTW but its never seeming to happen! Can you guys give me some post travel tips - (shouldnt say that actually - cause thats what I want to do!), maybe it should be support!

Cheers to all and whoever is on their travels right now - keep at it and enjoy every moment of it!

Ed

2. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 8y

Hi Smythy,

Here's me extending a huge hug to you. I, and many others, know exactly how you feel. To be honest, i would go so far as to say that I suffered from a minor degree of depression and a total feeling of alienation when I arrived back in Ireland last June from my 18 month trip. I suppose I left because of having that feeling that lots of people have - feeling like you wanted something more, maybe even feeling like you didnt fully belong at home. And of course, travelling was the answer to that, but then once I arrived home I only felt those same feelings even more acutely.

The empty bank balance is the crippler because it inevitably means that you've got to saddle up in the 9-5 harness once again. I've been sitting in my job since I got home dreaming about how I could get away once again, dealing with all the what-ifs, occasionally glancing at both the Biological Clock and the Middle Aged Clock, and trying to figure out a sensible resolution to my incredibly itchy feet.

The conclusion I'm coming to pretty quickly is that if you want to go travelling that badly again, just go. No excuses. You may have to make a choice where job/career is concerned, but if it's what you really want then just do it.

My friends think I'm just a nutjob because I acutally got the golden opportunity of a move to NYC with work at the start of this year, so they say to me "What's the matter with you! You're sort of travelling and you've got a great job."

They dont get it

Almost immediately after arriving home in June, I was laying plans for another RTW, beginning with English teaching in Korea. I did a phone interview, had a job lined up in Korea starting in January 2008 and was all ready to hit the road, when out of the blue the NYC job offer came up.

Now, dont get me wrong, I love being here and it's a great city, but it's just doing what you're doing at home...only in New York. Some days I wish I had just gone to Korea, but I think you've got to stick with your choices for a while and make the best of them, look at the positive in whatever situation you find yourself in.

So, I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't fall back into the trap of working at home if it's not what you want to do. (and it's easier to fall back into it than you think). Best advice I can give is give it 6 months at home first, work and save, and if you are still dreaming about getting back out there, then dont think twice. Just go and forget all the what ifs and maybes.

All I know is I had the absolute best time of my life during those 18 months, and not just for the freedom from working 9-5. In terms of personal development, it was something really significant for me. I felt I challenged myself in some really difficult ways, and I surmounted all of the challenges I set and even some pretty tough ones I didnt set at all!
It's so hard to go back to feeling so dreary again. When you're travelling, life makes so much more sense somehow....at least, it does to me.

Good luck Smythy. :)

Ps: Just started reading "On The Road" by Jack Kerouac. I recommend you get that - it'll cheer you right up ;)

3. Posted by Sander (Moderator 4811 posts) 8y

Welcome back, Smythy!

Quoting samsara2

Here's me extending a huge hug to you. I, and many others, know exactly how you feel. To be honest, i would go so far as to say that I suffered from a minor degree of depression and a total feeling of alienation when I arrived back in Ireland last June from my 18 month trip.

This reminded me of the thread Ev posted back then, and I managed to dig it up: Post Travel Blues. A lot of good advice in that which will should apply to you just as much.

Basically I'd advice planning your next trip - even if it's only a short one. You're now looking at travelling in a completely different light, and a lot of that attitude should help you get a lot more out of even a short break. Help you see and experience enough to serve as a bit of travelling "balm" to keep you going while you figure out how to do the next big trip (one is never enough).
And spend time here at travellerspoint; helping other peoples with their travels is quite a rewarding activity too. :)

4. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 8y

Hey, I'd forgotten about that post. Good work Sander