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31. Posted by lakers6902 (Budding Member 70 posts) 8y

you should check if you can take a leave of absence. i just discoverd my job will let me do this so im planning on taking advantage of it within the next two years. however for me, if i do it i loose all my credit in years =[

32. Posted by Leanne81 (Budding Member 39 posts) 8y

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. It's been great to hear comments for and against and some inbetweeners.

I still have my occasional doubts about quitting my job, selling my car and leaving everything and everyone i know.

However, I'm glad i making myself do it. I don't need anymore "challenges" in the form of exams or tests or 6 monthly personal development reviews. I need a personal life "challenge". I want to find out how i cope with situations on my own.

From all your responses / advice it helped me find the right decision for me. I understand the reasons for not quitting my job i.e credit crunch but my life has taken a turn in the last year i didn't expect and i have been presented with an opportunity for travelling (having no mortgage, living back with the parents etc) that i may or may not have again in the future. If i don't seize this now i would be mad and if i find that after a few months i decide that travelling isn't for me and i want to go home - i will. A lesson learned, which is always a good thing.

I'm taking my life back into my own hands and out of societies! What's meant to be will be!:)

But I'm still scared.........

33. Posted by redcadence (Budding Member 28 posts) 8y

Leanne81, I know just how you feel. I have worked for the same company for the past 4 years, and it is a "safe" job, the same as yours. Flexi, good pension etc. I asked to take a career break, but it was refused. Apparently, if I was taking time off to have a child, I could of had 5 years off. They call it a carers break.

Anyways, I bit the bullet and resigned last week!! It wasn't a suprise to my boss, or her boss, as ever since I applied for the career break, they have been treating me like dirt. So, I guess the choice wasn't that hard for me in the end. My partner, who is travelling with me, is another matter. He has resigned from his better (paid and otherwise) job. He loves his job and is finding letting it go really hard.

I am freaking out a little about how things are going to be, and how we are going to manage if things don't go the way we want, but I guess that is part of the adventure. I am glad we have no ties to come back as we can now take our time and extend our trip if we want. If we come back and we can't get a job in a similar field, then we will just have to work in ASDA until something comes along!!

We are leaving in just 33 days time, and we still have so much to do. Good luck to you on your journey!

34. Posted by Loutrip (First Time Poster 1 posts) 8y

Hey there,

I would take the two months and go travelling,because at least that way you can still have both.:)

35. Posted by SheIsFree (Full Member 24 posts) 8y

Quoting Leanne81

Thanks! :)

The flights are booked - no going back!

I really hope i enjoy the experience and don't let myself give into homesickness!! But whatever way i suppose it will be a learning experience!

Congrats on doing it! It must have been a really hard decision to make.. I've made the same decision recently, I'm in the process of selling my house, resigning from a good job in January, leaving my friends and family.. very difficult decision to come to, but there's such a strong urge to get out and live 'in the world' instead of being stuck in the same daily routine I've had for so long and missing out on so much. I hope you love it, and I don't think you'll never regret doing it!

36. Posted by vickon (Budding Member 50 posts) 8y

Take the 2 months go vacations and then you ll see if this is enough for you or you want more months. I know that this is unproffesional but at the situation you are you have to think of yourserlf first i think. Maybe you will regret if you quit your job before leaving for vacations. Also if you quit your job you will always thinking when you travel of what is going to be after your returning. At your vacations you have to be calm and thinking just how to get some fun. If i was you I just take the two months. These times are difficult

37. Posted by Shazer (Budding Member 29 posts) 8y

Hi guys!

Im glad to see i am not the only one in this situation... except that i am feeling the "Law of Murphy" too much so!
I just started a new job last week in a company i really respect, enjoy and want to continue in. the thing is that it has been a year that i was looking for a job and after having gone through several ups and downs and hard times this year - NOW i got the job.

however, i have been wanting to go to travelling ever since i was little and finally made the jump and bought my one way ticket a month ago... now i got a ticket and a job and i dont know what to do!
i was sooooo happy when i bought my ticket and when i accepted to take that job, although happy honored and relieved, i just felt so incredibly sad and now that i am used to the idea, i just feel confused and trying to make a decision every second of the day...

i bought the plane ticket with no return and no "guarantee" - i cant change the date, either i go or i lose the ticket. i did that to oblige myself to go. but now that i am in a position i have been wanting to be in for a long time, it has changed everything - thanks Murphy!

Posting this on here, i guess i am not searching for encouragements to stick to the job and not travel - or postpone it till next year...

so my question is: shall i postpone it till next year (and save more money for travels)?
or sod the job and responsibility and feel bad for leaving my new employers (who are all real nice - i really could not be in a better situation!) and follow the Kings words - "it's now or never"! ???

help! i am so confused!

38. Posted by SheIsFree (Full Member 24 posts) 8y

Hi Shazer,

How long is it until your flight? Maybe you could do both, keep the great job and travel at a later time like you mentioned, but take the flight you've already bought, but just go for a short time.. you'd have to obviously spend more on a flight to bring you back, but the short trip might get you through until you start your travels. Doing that would probably help to keep on good terms with your new employers if you needed a job there again instead of resigning so soon after starting with them.


39. Posted by Leanne81 (Budding Member 39 posts) 8y

Hi Shazer,

A hard decision. My circumstance is different because i've been in my job for 4 years since university and feel i need a change. I enjoyed my job but didn't love it. I'm going to look for a new direction or just to try something different and be challanged on life skills rather than exams!!!

You have started a new job which by the sounds of it you really like, something a lot of people don't find. Do you need the job for experience to get another job? If not would you be able to get another job simialar when you get back. This is the chance we are taking isn't it. You said it's taken a year to get a job that scares me as i know i will be in a similar position when i get. Consider how much was the ticket. Can you afford to let it go? Where will you be in your personal life in a years time? Could this prevent you from fulfilling your dream if you hold off for a year. This is a reason that i have decided to go. What happens if i met someone here and kind of got cosy then before you know it married with kids and don't get the opportunity to travel again.

Have you been travelling before? I haven't been travelling and i'm taking a risk because i'm giving up a "perfectly good" job and might not enjoy travelling but have decided to take the risk.

Just a thought to put out there to you all - is it a "perfectly good" job when it doesn't really make you happy or you aren't happy in your life? I'm not sure if you all will get what i mean but i'm trying to say that people comment " don't leave your good job" so your conflicted inside between your heart saying i'm not really happy in this job or when i am at the moment and people telling you not to give up a "perfectly good" job! It makes a person really confused. I understand that it isn't always easy to get a job and people are out of work for long periods but if you're not happy inside is that not more detrimental?

Am i just talking nonsense now?

40. Posted by gurdeep101 (Budding Member 46 posts) 8y


You started this thread on Sept 17th. Anyone who's been reading the news since then knows that it's a different world now. Either there's a recession on or there will be one soon and layoffs will become the order of the day.

Give the scenario and taht you say you're easily replacable and jobs are not easily available in your field there might not be a job avail for you once you get back....i'd suggest that you take the 2 months.

Most of us would like to say adios and go see the world but if you can't pay the bills you can't travel... The fact is the world will still be there next year .... Oktoberfest will happen every will the carnival of brazil and the bike rallies of sturgis :D

Take care and have fun travelling