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How to make friends listen to your travel tales

Travel Forums General Talk How to make friends listen to your travel tales

1. Posted by Swept Away (Travel Guru 1113 posts) 8y

They said that travelling for a long time will let you know who are your real friends.
Those care to listen to your 6-12 months misdaventures across the globe.

But let us just put ourselves in their shoes... Imagine if you were the one who stayed home while your "not as gorgeous as you" friend spent a year in South America and half a year in East Asia, and comes home to your boring city with billions of digital shots and a cheap present from Brazil for you. Would you be so delighted to listen to his perky narrativeS about the hill teribes of Peru or the drinking habbits of men in Equador? So if you are a good friend also, you don't share your narratives, unless you are having beers and they start doing the OBLIGATORY, "SO WAS YOUR TRIP?" line. Make sure your narrative is PERSONNAL and not an EGOTISTICAL LECTURE, that makes you feel good about not going to University, like what other kids did.

HOW to MAKE YOUR FRIENDS LISTEN. coz I am sure everybody wants to be heard:

1.I always tell my friends the two sides of my travel, the hardships and the glory. Don't give the how much thing, unless they insist for the 3rd time. You might sound boastful. "I spent 600 dollars for a cup of tea in Switzerland", who gives a damn.

2. kISS and Tell, share things not allowed to be discussed in this forum. Sex sells or the lack of it. Sex with all the races in the world, then you can talk about the endangered species of plants in the Amazon and people will still listen, hoping that you will get back to that sex in the phone booth with a Russian waitress in Tokyo. It also means that you trust your listener and that you share them something, you wont tell your mom and dad. Next thing you know your friend already abandoned his job and boards a plane to Bali.

3. Praise them for their achievement. Tell them how its nice that they got a promotion. BUT DONT BE A HYPOCRITE, that new car or laptop is nothing compared to a day in the GREAT WALL OF CHINA.

4. Tell them that travelling is great, but is not for everyone. Just like scuba diving or mountain climbing, it is a matter of destiny or you are just a rich kid looking for an identity. MONEY CANT BUY GOOD TASTE. So even if you are rich it takes talent to appreciate French architecture or Japanese food.

5. Ask them about their lives too. But dont overdo it. You wont get an OSCAR for the effort. If they have kids, adore those tiny creatures as if they are the Pandas you saw in Chengdu or the Orangutans in Borneo.

6. Make sure you brought home a nice souvenir that you wont find at 7/11 or the DUTY FREE shop in your native country.
Don't buy something too cliche, like a KHAO SAN ROAD tshirt with the text BANGKOK, in big bold letters.

7. Show them the currency of the places you've visited or give it as presents if you are so cheap.

8. Be funny and casual with your narrative. Dont sound like you are the national geographics channel. And if you are goiing to live with them for the next 6 months, BE MERCIFUL or Compasionate, They dont want to hear you going to your: "Oh my God this reminds so much of..." or "You know in Italy or Morroco..." monologues every 4 minutes. It can be very tempting. Well, if your friend travelled way back in 1985, you can talk about your adventure very often, but you need to have ears with his stories about how everyone in New York looked like Madonna and that America was so cool in the 80's. He only travelled once in his boring life and so you would have to listen to reruns of "My vacation in the US, when I was 9".

9. If travelling has changed you a lot as a person, try showing it rather spraying it with your saliva showering narrative. Is that too hard to do??? Not talking about your Philosophical reinvention that made you write song lyrics for Alannis Morissette. Okay, go ahead be philosophical, but you need to know your friends well enough. If it gets boring they will push the button to change the channel to MTV.

10. Unless your friend is OPRAH, don't talk about how travelling in Africa has made you realized how this so called modern world is nothing what it seems and that material things are illusions, especially, if you came home broke. Dont ever be preachy, leave that to U2 and Madonna.

Invite your friends to travel.... And if they go with their "I envy you" spill, be gentle in confirming their Obligatory remark. Bear in mind that it was a VERBAL reflex mandated by social norms that govern their DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES culture in the so called real world. A world that you either escape by choice or has rejected you for being a total looser. Just dont let the joys of travelling give you a dellusional perspective about yourslef. While travelling is an educational experience, you won't get a job in Harvard, even if you visited every single county in China and India for 20 years with your elementary education. So Unless, they are paying you to give a lecture on COMPARATIVE CULTURE or ECO TOURISM IN THE 21ST century, stick with the "GIRLS IN CHILE ARE HOT" topic or "Guys in the Baltic are..." topic. Eventually, they will get sick of it and start asking for commercial braelks, which is the best time to discuss your politics or religion.

2. Posted by Daawgon (Travel Guru 1993 posts) 8y

I think that I've learned my lesson quite well. From now on, unless my friends ask about my trips, I tell them zero/nothing! I give them my blog address B4 my trip, so they can pretty much see for themselves, and if they show no interest, I've decided it's a waste of time to bore them with details beyond the blog. One soon finds out who's interested in travel and who is totally bored by the subject. I no longer show slides/photos to anyone (they also have my photo storage URL). This all leads me to believe that I need to take more professional travel photographs, but I'm unwilling to lug around anything other than a point-and-shoot!

3. Posted by TheSpade (Budding Member 17 posts) 8y

I update my blog and upload my photos and tell people it's there for them to see. If they're not interested then fine that's the end of it.

4. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 8y

I just try to keep it short.

5. Posted by summer910 (Respected Member 1342 posts) 8y

I don't really bother unless they ask.

6. Posted by Utrecht (Moderator 5596 posts) 8y

I usually invite as many people as possible and than start my presentation which takes at least several hours. After a while, most people are a sleep, I steal there money and them I am on the road again for a month or so. This is a continuing process of course

7. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 8y

I've got great friends. They usually want to hear what my trip was like. I like listening to their stories, too. It's really not an effort to share travel tales.

I think you're being a little too cynical here.

8. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 8y

Quoting Utrecht

I usually invite as many people as possible and than start my presentation which takes at least several hours. After a while, most people are a sleep, I steal there money and them I am on the road again for a month or so. This is a continuing process of course

9. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 8y

Quoting Utrecht

I usually invite as many people as possible and than start my presentation which takes at least several hours. After a while, most people are a sleep, I steal there money and them I am on the road again for a month or so. This is a continuing process of course

Classic stuff!

10. Posted by Swept Away (Travel Guru 1113 posts) 8y

Quoting samsara2

Quoting Utrecht

I usually invite as many people as possible and than start my presentation which takes at least several hours. After a while, most people are a sleep, I steal there money and them I am on the road again for a month or so. This is a continuing process of course

this is a great idea.