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1. Posted by TLWH (Travel Guru, 516 posts) 28 Sep '08 21:09

I was having a chat with a longer term traveler the other day. The one thing we noticed was the groupy section the conversation was gathering? First timers listening in and cooing at travelers tails etc. All very ego boosting and if it's the right conversation very beneficial to those just starting out.

But what of those egos that have gone out of hand?? Have you ever met a traveler who's ego was larger than their backpack? The type who brags about knowing all about a country, or on how to travel the right way?

I saw one of these guru's in Nepal surrounded by first timers, and the difference I noticed from the above was that he just talked about himself and what 'he' has done. There was no advice dispensing, or asking the first timers what they have been up to.

Have you met any of these two types? Or been in a similar situation?

2. Posted by vegasmike6 (Travel Guru, 3528 posts) 28 Sep '08 23:47

You are going to find egotisical people in every country and every profession. I did meet a loud mouth American (can you imagine?) in Trat, Thailand. He was holding court at the GH, 3 young ladies from Europe in attendence. After impressing the girls with his travel stories, he ended with a throw-away line. "You will never guess what I do for a living." I spoke up for the first time. "I'll take a shot at it. You are either a used car salesman or in telemarketing. " That brought the whole happy event to a halt. He looked at me for the first time and said that yes, he was in sales. Turns out he sold time-share in Mexico. A match made in heaven. He likes to hear himself talk and the trapped time-share
victims get to listen.

3. Posted by Utrecht (Moderator, 5540 posts) 29 Sep '08 01:02

Well, sometimes you are confronted with these people that only seem to travel for others instead of for themselves.
Sometimes you are not able to walk away, but if it is possible I just do. They certainly wouldn't be people I would travel with after meeting them.
In Bolivia, I had a 4 day tour around the saltplanes, volcanoes etc. We were with 3 Ozzies, me and an English girl. The latter was like that, if she asked something, it was only to start her own story again, which usually started with I, me, I, me, blabla. Probably a lack of attention during here child time or something.
Another dutch guy I met in the train worked in Saudi Arabia, man, I think he got a job as Senior Bragger or something.
I think they usually are not able to tell their story to relatives or friends at home, and therefore are doing there too long story....it's aweful.
Or people in general living in the past too much, and always comparing new things they see with older stuff they once saw in another city or country. O, that looks like that, but it was much better....I don't get them really.
Usually, they write long and boring blogs as well

4. Posted by TLWH (Travel Guru, 516 posts) 29 Sep '08 01:15

Quoting Utrecht

Or people in general living in the past too much, and always comparing new
things they see with older stuff they once saw in another city or country

I hear you on that one. I get the whole "why are taking a laptop when traveling, in my day we didn't even have internet."

Never mind the facts, and the act we are moving on in the world these days.

But, yes, I tend to walk away too. Usually they babble so much they end up putting there foot in it.

5. Posted by Swept Away (Travel Guru, 1113 posts) 5 Oct '08 02:23

Quoting outcast

Quoting Utrecht

Or people in general living in the past too much, and always comparing new
things they see with older stuff they once saw in another city or country

I hear you on that one. I get the whole "why are taking a laptop when traveling, in my day we didn't even have internet."

Never mind the facts, and the act we are moving on in the world these days.

But, yes, I tend to walk away too. Usually they babble so much they end up putting there foot in it.

I HATE This CLASSIC comment:

"A couple of years ago this place was so much better. It was fucking amazing with none of these buildings and roads, bla, bla, bla, bla..."

Well you could be guilty of this too. But what telling new arrivals about this info would only make them feel bad. "Oh you should have gone here 50 years ago, when this island had no toilets its fucking amazing."

My reply: "Jeeze that must be horrible, you mean this island had no Mcdonalds, not too many tourist, no red light districts, no malls, that must be soooo boring then. "

6. Posted by Swept Away (Travel Guru, 1113 posts) 5 Oct '08 02:34

I never realize this, but few travellers are egotistical. Most travellers I meet are very humble.

Yes, some people travel so they can say, I've been there to other people. I am guilty... but its going to be job related, so its justified.

We all need to be heard, otherwise we won't be posting online. If there is something worst than a egotist, its the egotistical hypocrite, common in the ESL industry.

I guess good listners are allowed to be talkative. I don't listening for hours to someone who knows how to communicate effectively. If you can spit figures of speeches, poetry and theatrics like its just speech crutches, then I'm getting some pop corns and drool at your narratives.

7. Posted by james (Travel Guru, 4123 posts) 5 Oct '08 03:08

These people are good to listen to for about 20 minutes but after that I find I have more interesting things to do, like wash my dirty socks.

8. Posted by Peter (Admin, 5417 posts) 5 Oct '08 03:17

Quoting Swept Away

I HATE This CLASSIC comment:

"A couple of years ago this place was so much better. It was fucking amazing with none of these buildings and roads, bla, bla, bla, bla..."

Yeah, not much a fan of that either. The similar one is "you have to try xxxx before everyone else finds out". That really irks me for some peculiar reason I guess it seems arrogant, because they have some sense that they are the first to have that experience. In my opinion, that's just highly unlikely, no matter how remote the destination.

Best bet is to just let these people babble on and turn your mind to other things.

9. Posted by james (Travel Guru, 4123 posts) 5 Oct '08 03:20

Totally agree. If it was that great a number of years ago then what are they doing back there?

The other one I hate is people going on about prices, and boasting about what deal they did and how little they paid staying somewhere or other. Then they ask you what you paid as though it's some kind of competition.

10. Posted by Peter (Admin, 5417 posts) 5 Oct '08 03:23

Quoting james

The other one I hate is people going on about prices, and boasting about what deal they did and how little they paid staying somewhere or other. Then they ask you what you paid as though it's some kind of competition.

To which the usual answer should be; "Oh, I just stayed at the Shangri-la"