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1. Posted by Swept Away (Travel Guru 1113 posts) 8y

It aint cool to be too friendly in hostel. Especially, if you are practically living in the area.
Whats the rule for boys? There is a thin line between friendly and queer?

I met a cool Jap and a Korean, travelling together or some sort. Strangely they were too friendly.
Said hello to me 2 minutes after I got in the lobby. Perhaps its the language barrier that makes them very touchy.
I get a firm hand shake everytime they meet me. I get that in CHINA a lot, but I was a teacher, so its okay.

I only met them for two and barely spoke to them. They said I could live in their house if I hit north east of Asia. That is the best part.

I met soooo many Japs, but this one is going get an email from me.

I wish I could be that friendly.

2. Posted by summer910 (Respected Member 1342 posts) 8y

They may be too friendly to you, but for them it could be just a normal thing to greet people. You're a fellow traveller and that's already something in common.

I stayed in a hostel in Antwerp and had a Romanian dude tell me his life story when we'd only happened to bump into each other while in the common lounge area. I guess he was also bored and wanted to chat, so I just let him.

Some people are more relaxed and open when they travel.

3. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 8y

Please refrain from using "Jap" for Japanese. Though such "shorthand" may be common usage is some areas, it is also considered a derogatory term in others. Thank you.

Rule of thumb: If they talk to you and shake your hand, they're friendly. If they grab your crotch, they're likely gay.

4. Posted by Swept Away (Travel Guru 1113 posts) 8y

Quoting Isadora

Rule of thumb: If they talk to you and shake your hand, they're friendly. If they grab your crotch, they're likely gay.

LOL!

btw is the term "brit" on the list of the don'ts? Yes, the J thing is not cool, but I'm Asian. Its like the rappers can get away with the "N" word, but J.Lo gets cruxified for using it in her lyrics.

5. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 8y

Quoting Swept Away

btw is the term "brit" on the list of the don'ts? Yes, the J thing is not cool, but I'm Asian. Its like the rappers can get away with the "N" word, but J.Lo gets cruxified for using it in her lyrics.

Ah - so it's not cool but you're Asian therefore it should be accepted. Make perfect sense. (No, not really.) Now, when the rappers and J. Lo start posting their lyrics containing the "N" word in the open forums, the same "don'ts" will apply. You already know the answer and reasons to the "Brit" question.

6. Posted by roxi123 (Budding Member 9 posts) 8y

i dont think its matters really calling someone from the uk a brit but i know most people prefer to be addressed from their countries in the uk. i.e. im from england and would rather be called english than british. as for people from scotland prefering to be called scottish rather than brittish etc. but then agian if your not sure than yeah brit is accepted

7. Posted by magykal1 (Travel Guru 2026 posts) 8y

Quoting Isadora

Please refrain from using "Jap" for Japanese. Though such "shorthand" may be common usage is some areas, it is also considered a derogatory term in others. Thank you.

Rule of thumb: If they talk to you and shake your hand, they're friendly. If they grab your crotch, they're likely gay.

Is that what it means? I must stop going for the crotch.

I like friendly travellers. I'm sometimes a bit too suspicious of them - one immediate assumption I tend to make is that they're out to scam me in some way, particularly if they seem to know their way around a bit. It never seems to have worked out that way yet.

8. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 8y

Quoting magykal1

I like friendly travellers. I'm sometimes a bit too suspicious of them - one immediate assumption I tend to make is that they're out to scam me in some way, particularly if they seem to know their way around a bit. It never seems to have worked out that way yet.

Yeah, I'm with you on that one. I remember meeting a Russian girl in Paris who was too happy and giddy and invited me out to her flat by tuging my sleeve and insisting with a big smile. My internal alarm bells were going off all over the place, so I brushed her off. I may come across as annoyed or angry sometimes, but it's a travel defence thing.

9. Posted by chayisun (Budding Member 163 posts) 8y

When Sue and I were in Tunis we were wandering around, like tourists do, when we were approached by a guy who was very friendly,noting, by our maple leaf on our backpacks, that we were from Canada.

He offered to show us some of the local sites. I didn't want to go but Sue, who hates to hurt anyone's feelings, said we should go. Alarm one.

He took us to an old fort, a church, a former mosque and he led us to a very old building which housed a carpet shop..A LARGE carpet shop. Alarm two.

Up the MANY stairs we went into said carpet shop where we were given tea. Alarm three.

THEN came the sales pitch..From this friendly guy. A VERY aggressive sales pitch. We didn't need a carpet.....YES, YOU DO!..No, we don't....This went on for, it seemed, forever..It was about 10 very long minutes, as we tried to work our way to the exit.
This guy was determined to NOT let us leave....It was getting kind of worrisome, indeed....
Anyway, fortunately for us, three other shanghaied couples arrived, this guy headed for them and we bolted for the door, down the stairs and didn't look back at the cursing "friendly guy" at the top of the stairs.....

Well, we headed for the Medina, to get away from the street, seeking solace in the crowded shopping area. Sue and I wandered around for a while, stopped at a perfume shop and, while purchasing some perfume, I mentioned to the shop owner about the recent rug incident. Well, he apologized profusely, gave us tea and said that he knew about this carpet sting and that it happened all the time. He told us to be careful. He gave me a hug, gave Sue a hug. Sue bought more perfume.

Anyway, we may be naive but we do have fun..Then there was an incident in Bangkok.....

10. Posted by devinair (Budding Member 8 posts) 8y

Hi all,
It is a little intimidating when you are in a different country. My husband and I travelled to Phuket, Thailand and spent 3 nights. We flew from Malaysia as we were visiting family. we got a good package deal with accomodation, flight and breakfast included from Malaysia. I was cautious when I was around but it seems safe as many tourists are walking about to have dinner or shop. But, you are constantly approached by people selling crafts ans others and if you can haggle than you can get preety good deals. I am not good at his so my husband did the bargaining. It was a pleasant trip overall.