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1. Posted by abcdf (Full Member 557 posts) 12y

man... i am the worst speller on the face of this planet. (i had to look up dilemma). anyway, i have a slight problem. well i dont know if its a problem... but a little sticky situation. my friend amy, is coming with me to asia. she also is bringing her family friend who is also coming with us for part of the trip ( which is in late december). anyway, i know its a long while away, but here is the problem....

amy has a boyfriend.... this family friend likes amy.... amy wants me to hook up with him.... i dont want too. she has tried to set me up many times before, without my knowledge. because i usually refuse. not that im always being asked out or anything, but i dont let the set up... its so set up. oh did i say that amy likes him too, but she wants me to kind of take him off her hands. ...... errrr. so that she want be tempted. dont tell me that is not a sticky situation. because to me, i dont want any part of it. she wnats us to meet. i do want to meet him because we are leaving together. but not to hook up. err. i dont know what to tell amy. ive already told her not to hook me up. help me!

2. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 12y

Oh dear, I can see why you're worried.

Firstly, remember, you are spending a lot of time and money on planning and doing this trip, so you want to remember it for the right reasons, not for big fall outs. If you don't get it all out in the open well before you go away, it could completely ruin your trip and that's the last thing you want.

I think you need to be completely honest with Amy, and tell her what you have written here, that you don't like the way she is handling this. To be honest it sounds like she is using you and your friend.

You don't say how long you are travelling with this friend for, but bear in mind you are going to be spending an awful lot of time together and if there's any tension at all between the three of you it could get really messy.

Don't be afraid of how Amy will take it. Think of it as a litmus test of your friendship. If you don't want this guy to come with you, tell her. If your friendship can't handle this you definitly shouldn't be travelling with her. Sorry to be so frank!

You maybe should try to be a little more selfish. Don't forget this is your big trip too and you want to have the best time ever.

I suppose this is why a lot of people like to travel on their own. Actually makes me less worried about being on my own.

Hope it all goes well. Good luck and please keep us informed as to how you get on.....Not that I'm nosey or anything! ;)

3. Posted by abcdf (Full Member 557 posts) 12y

thanks lil liz,

i told amy how i felt, and i think she understands. she has good intentions... which i know somehow. but she thinks that by being a good friend she is trying to hook me up. i kno, i kno... its a little frustrating sometimes, because the guys she hooks me up with have some issues... puh hahhaa. i just dont want it to become an issue for her, or me. but she does trick me sometimes and sets me up. thanks for the advice. i will be with her for the whole time, and with him for a few weeks. so i guess it wont be too bad. and my tix are refundable so i guess i have a few options. but i dont think it will come to that.

thanks again...
lisa