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living well really is the best revenge...

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1. Posted by Cool Paul (Travel Guru 611 posts) 7y

I had always wondered about that phrase but now I know...

I dated a girl for a bout a year and a half then she cheated on me... once. it screwed me up mentally and destroyed my trust competely but I fought through it and stayed with her for some reason...probably because our ummm..."time together" was nothing short of spectacular! so another year and a half passes by and we just grew apart. mainly because of what she had done had made me distance myself from her. Finally she dumped ME! saying that I was boring and this and that...and blah blah blah...it was pretty harsh. whatever...

That was two years ago. I had not talked to her once or seen her in those two years. I did however keep in touch with her sister online as we were friends before the relationship. No, I didn't sleep with her or do anything like that. But we kept each other updated on how our lives were going she moved cross-country, I moved to the south pacific...

So the sister started see that I was travelling and seeing the world and just generally became a better person all around. I'm healthier. I work out. have my priorities sorted. Sorting some stuff out to do some volunteer work. I enjoy life.

so anyway last night was valentines and I get a text message out of the blue from my ex at 11pm! haha of all the days in the year! asking all about my travels and blah blah blah. I humored her and replied to a few. and called it a night. wouldn't you know. she sends me another message this morning saying that she want's to meet up with me for a coffee or some drinks. ha.

I told her, "I'm busy, maybe later in the week." I'm still on the fence about if I want to see here or not.

anybody else delt with this after travelling around a lot? ever have anyone come crawling back to you?

cause I gotta say it feels pretty friggin' sweet!

2. Posted by Utrecht (Moderator 5596 posts) 7y

Great story Paul!

Didn't have similar experiences, but my ex girlfriend now sometimes emails be. She googled my name and the first link was to....Travellerspoint.
She is married and has two kids though, so no crawling back. Besides, I am happy right now

3. Posted by bwiiian (Travel Guru 768 posts) 7y

That is cool, nice one!!
Don't go meet her though, just keep her hanging on a bit and then say you can't be bothered as you have better things to do. Revenge can be so sweet sometimes.

4. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 7y

Don't do it!!!!

Leave it at that and count your blessings, I'd say. Nice to see her crawling back a little, though.

5. Posted by baluba (Respected Member 407 posts) 7y

I made a habit of sending my ex a postcard from every single country I have visited since we split, often with just the words 'I'm here...you're not..ha ha!'. Luckily we have become friends since our traumatic separation and it is now a standing joke. He has so many now he has to keep them in an album. There have been several occasions when he has realised what he is missing and I still get Valentines messages, but he understands that I now have a whole new life and wouldn't give it up for anything.

My situation was remarkably similar to yours, just over a much longer period and got cheated on several times. I would say, meet her and let her know what a huge favour she did you by leaving. Trust me, it feels soooo great! Plus of course, time is a great healer, you can only hold a grudge for so long and it leaves an ugly feeling. Put the past behind you and revel in some gloating!