thanks for your help, some really good advice there.
i will ask her to look through this and see what she says. i think the idea of me hooking up with other people wont go down very well lol, i am very strong minded, ive been to Thailand and have fully resisted many girls as you can imagine if you have been there, although i can understand this may be different with another traveller (rather than what are essentially hookers in Thailand), but i am sure that this is not an issue, i just couldnt do it, but i appreciate you pointing it out.
i like the idea of meeting up somewhere halfway through my travels, something like that would make it easier, and 6-8 months would be more financially viablle so may be the only choice i have anyway.
i will re-post on her thoughts when we've spoke about it if people are interested lol.
Travelling together can make or break a rellie, but if she's already moaning about hostels and not wanting to leave her friends etc (she's in her safe little bubble) then that doesn't bode well for living out of a backpack for a year does it...
I agree with the people here who have said that you will come back a changed person, and look at your old routine and friends and their routines and you will probably hate them and just want to break out of it all and start afresh. She says "she will be here for you" but I'm afraid she can't guarantee that at all, just as you can't guarantee that you WON'T meet a like-minded travelling girlie who you will just "click" with.
If you love her that much that you can't bear to leave her, then don't go. But you will probably end up resenting her and hating yourself for not doing this travelling while you could. 15 years down the line when you are balding, podgy, and weighed down with money worries, kids, and a nagging wife who has grown 5 dress sizes and lives in pink jog bottoms, by GOD you will be running thru the "What Ifs" of travelling for sure.
If she really loved you then she'd maybe book 2 weeks off work and take a holiday somewhere with you, living out a backpack and travelling around, to see how she liked it. She could totally surprise herself! Or she may hate it and at least then you will be sure. If she's that inflexible with the travelling what's she like with other joint issues in your rellie?
Maybe she could come out for a 2 week holiday part-way thru your trip and stay with you, that would be nice and then you can see how things are between you.
How will you feel if you come back after a wonderful year away, show her all the photos and try to make her see the wonder in the things you experienced and saw, while she just stares blankly at them and says "um yeah looks really nice....ooh EastEnders is on now!" You may find that when you come back you won't recognise this girl - or indeed yourself. Good Lord I had 7 days at Burning Man last year and I came back a different person....I'd love to travel for a year cos I know for darn sure I'd definitely come back a different person!!
As I said on a different thread - if it was meant to be, then you two will find your way back together again. Cut her loose, let her go, and enjoy a year of freedom to travel and meet great new people. You sound like a pretty grounded and faithful guy but you also are dying to get out and see the world, don't waste this chance! There are many other girls out there who you could fall for and be better suited to, if you drifted away from your current GF.
I just think that if you don't do this you will definitely have regrets.
PS I am rather a cynical person you may have gathered
i've been reading everyones replies etc and i'd love to hear how this pans out lol keep us updated si403!!
lol dont worry i will. thanks again everybody.
Well, one year is a very long time to not see someone you have a relationship with. If that is what you want to do then I say go for it since you are still young and travelling will build character and experience which is something that is priceless. Who know, when you come back she may like the new and more experienced you
Hi everyone im not a traveler but im a girl that my partner is going to be leaving to go travelling round the world.
We've been together for over 8 years and love each other dearly, however 18 months ago my fella got the bug for travelling but because he didn't want to hurt my feeling kept on changing his mind and saying that he would love to get married etc.
In the end I knew he wanted to go and for my own sanity aswell as his own, I called it a day!
It is a bit wierd at first but we're still friends, he hasn't left yet which i know is going to be the hardest thingwhen he does , but all i care about is that he is happy and that im not holding him back.
Please don't keep your girlfriend there waiting it's not fair, end it amicably and you will have a good friend for life!
Tough decision. If you are meant to be you will figure it all out once you get back.