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Scared to go back to a place you loved?

Travel Forums General Talk Scared to go back to a place you loved?

1. Posted by si403 (Full Member 130 posts) 7y

Just wondering what your thoughts were.

I had a brilliant time in Thailand in 2007, and have wanted to go back desperately since i came home. i have thought about it everyday sice, it was amazing.

me and 2 travelling companions opted to go somewhere else in 2008, to vary it up. but i still have a burning desire to go back, but im worried maybe i wont enjoy it as much as the first time? i think this may be because it was my first time travelling, and also we had no idea what to expect.

have you guys ever had this with a place?

2. Posted by zaksame (Respected Member 571 posts) 7y

Absolutely YES! When I returned from my first trip to Kenya - a place I had dreamed of going since I was a small child - I was afraid that if I ever went again it wouldn't have the magic of that first time. Boy was I wrong. Second time round I knew what I wanted to do that I'd missed last time. I started learning Swahili. I got involved in a charity and now returning to Kenya for me is like going home each time I go back.
So, I would say that if you really want to go it will be as special as you want it to be... IT WON'T BE THE SAME, but if it was wouldn't it be just like that movie 'Groundhog Day'?

3. Posted by steff (Travel Guru 1160 posts) 7y

Definitely. Best example in my case is Vancouver Island in Canada. Made my first trip there when I was 18 and it was also the first time that I left Europe. Gosh, I was so excited and nervous and loved it from the minute I got there! Had the best time ever during my stay as an Au-pair for a few months and was devastated when I had to leave.
The second time I returned, was completely different. I had huge expectations, but the trip and my visit was completely different this time. Vancouver island had become a really touristy place, the weather was crap and most of the people I had met during the first trip had moved away. So all in all, the magic had gone and I returned to Germany with a strange feeling about the place. In hindsight though, I think it was the fact that I had all these expectations that spoiled the trip, instead of just enjoying the beauty of the place. And as a consequence for the future, I have decided not to return with any expectations to a place that I have been to and liked a lot. This way I make sure not to get lost in the past and I'm now definitely looking forward to going back to Vancouver Island one day or another ;).

[ Edit: Edited on 25-Feb-2009, at 08:29 by steff ]

4. Posted by Utrecht (Moderator 5596 posts) 7y

Generally, I don't visited most places a second time.
Well, at least not exactly the same areas again. That said, I have been to places more than once of course, like Hong Kong, Istanbul and Stockholm, mostly cities in general.
I wasn't disappointed at all and liked it again the second or even third time in some cases.
It is just that I like to discover other places, because of that same fact that I like it in so many places the first time. So I think: well, why not visit that other country or city this trip.
It certainly is not because I am afraid of changes at all, in fact there are a couple of countries which I want to visit in the near future again, like Namibia and Australia.
So I can perfectly understand why people go back to places they have been to. And like Zaksame said: it is also about doing and seeing new things in that same environment that gives a better insight every time you go back.

[ Edit: Edited on 25-Feb-2009, at 12:37 by Utrecht ]

5. Posted by SFtoLA (Budding Member 5 posts) 7y

Sort of similar (but not quite as cool), I am terrified to go back to Florida where I spent an amazing 4 months last year...I worry it won't be the same and my expections from all the memories will be too high and I will be disappointed. Maybe part of it has to do with how long you've been gone from a place you love?

6. Posted by Swept Away (Travel Guru 1113 posts) 7y

Its not the place it is the people.

I am revisiting a lot of places, and it is not a big deal without the beautiful body and souls that were with me that time.

I am sooo desperate to find people as gorgeous and as perfect as my friends last year.

7. Posted by laurim (Respected Member 260 posts) 7y

This has happened to me so often that I just make it a loose rule to never revisit the same place twice, unless a lot of time has passed. When I have a great time in one place and go there again the next day, I'm always disappointed.