Im 19, nearly 20 and my boyfriend is 25. I want to spend the next fews years travelling and seeing the world. He has already lived in OZ for a year with a previous girlfriend but has said he wants to come with me. I love him and think we would have a wicked time but part of me is wandering whether this would be best?
Does anyone with experience have any advice????
I think both travelling alone or with a partner can be good. Apart that travelling together can possibly make some things cheaper (one room for two people), easier (a problem shared is a problem halved) and safer (one watches bags while the other sorts out bus tickets etc.), it can also be a great bonding experience for your relationship. On the other hand, travelling alone can be more rewarding as it's easier to meet new people (locals, other travellers), learn languages (you're forced to speak to others, not just to your partner) and you're entirely free on your decisions etc. Also travelling alone, you learn to deal with a lot of situations on your own, which makes you stronger and benefits for your life... so maybe think if you want to leave this "dealing with situations" to him (which will probably happen as he's older, and a man...). On the other hand, there are certainly some areas in the world where travelling alone as a woman isn't too recommended (safety, different situation of women etc.). But even there you can be sure that some women have been there alone before
In the end it's a preference thing. I personally prefer to travel alone, as it makes me free to do what I want, when I want, where I want.
A good advice if you decide to travel together, is to plan to be able to split up at any time. It may sound weird, but spending so much time together can put strains into a relationship that weren't there before, Relationships can break, things can go wrong, or maybe at some point you simply disagree about where to go next, or you want to spend some time on your own. If in that case you are blocked because you are missing some equipment that you shared (only a shared credit card etc.), that would be rather annoying. Planning that you can split up of course doesn't mean that you need to break up... but it makes life much easier if you do
Thankyou that is extremely helpfull. I think I will comprimise and take your advice with the planning to split. At least this way we have nothing to lose and if all goes wrong we can just go our seperate ways and I will have no regrets or what ifs. Although i am a very independent person and would love the challenge and opportunity to travel alone. But maybe my first time travelling with my partner will encourgae my confidence and ability to o this another time around.
Thankyou so much!!!!
I came out with a friend to start with but he when home after a week and i've found it hard to get along on my own but i think its better in a way coz i've become so much more independant
oh really? Where abouts are you? How long have you been on your own? I'm really struggling to decided which would be best, especially as my boyfriend is only comming because I want to go which I dont think is a good enough reason.
bin here about 3months all together, he was here a week and went so i came from perth to queensland to stay with a family frie which was really good coz its given me time to get used to the idea so now im trying to sort some money out so i can go be a backpacker again. but the good thing about being alone is 1, you dont have to think about if the other person or people want to do the same as u and also ppl find you more aproachable in hostels if you alone. also you may miss him but its about you and you may not get on the whole time and it can cause arguement as alot of mates warned me before leaving.
The answers simple: dump your loser boyfriend and come travel africa with me.
The best piece of advice I was given was this:
Never travel with someone if you've never gotten in a fight with them.
Why? Because then you've seen that person at their worse, and what they're like when they're not pulling their punches. Also, you know that no matter how upset you are, that you can make up again.
Also, my travel buddies and I always come up with a travel "safeword". A phrase or word that serves as a neutral way of saying "back off". You're going to be tired, won't speak the language, will have been on your feet for 14 hours, or tired from trying to sleep in an airplane seat. The safeword is a clever way to say that you're not mad at the other person, but you might be taking out your cranky behavior on them by accident...
Travel is a great bonding experience. But that is because of all the odd situations that you find yourself in together. And not all of them are the most comfortable. But they do make the best stories!
Hi Loz89. My advice? Go alone. Even though you're a young female... go alone. Believe me, I've traveled with 'friends' who I've ended up dumping. You can set your own agenda. You aren't tied at all. Half-way round, you'll probably find out he ain't the guy for you anyway - and where does that leave you? Sorry to sound like your dad, but you're too young to be committed with a guy like this. Go alone.... and have a fantastic time.