Im 19, nearly 20 and my boyfriend is 25. I want to spend the next fews years travelling and seeing the world. He has already lived in OZ for a year with a previous girlfriend but has said he wants to come with me. I love him and think we would have a wicked time but part of me is wandering whether this would be best?
Does anyone with experience have any advice????
There are pros and cons. Having a man with you will give you some safety in some places. Also company when you visit new places. He may also tie you down. What kind of man is he? Why did he split from his last girlfriend? Too old? Was he or she hard to get on with? There's a difference between boyfriend and living with someone for years.
Be aware that certain medicines/pills, etc can stop "the pill" working properly. When you plan your route, take note of the weather. June to October can be very wet in some places in Asia.
He's very protective but can be quite paranoid and jealous. His last girlfriend changed when they got to OZ and was horrible to him and ended up stabbing him with a screw driver. Im just a bit worried that when we're away without the comfort of our little village he may not be able to cope with the paranoia. Sorry this is more than an episode of Jeremy kyle now, ha. But at the same time if i go without him im scared il get scared and miss him and have regrets. it's driving me insane going round in circles. plus he's said he's only really going to stay with me.
blimey stabbed with a screw driver? thats harsh! the fact that you're even thinking about going away without him kinda answers your question for you. plus it sounds like he's going for the wrong reasons anyway so maybe you need to have a chat about it and see what happens.
then again if he does decide to go you can always sell his story to take a break for a little extra travelling cash!
Hope it all goes ok.
sorry just thought you might take offence to the take a break thing- just a joke really not meant to be offensive
[ Edit: Edited on 03-Apr-2009, at 08:08 by sambo123 ]
I agree with the other posters. If you love him, u take him. If you are questioning him, then dont... theres plenty of other fish in the sea
[ Edit: Edited on 03-Apr-2009, at 09:19 by way2goeh ]
Im going travelling with my bf but we have been together for 6 years now.
Why dont you suggest that he comes out with you for part of the time? maybe set off before him and then he could meet you a month or so down the line or vice versa? It sounds like hes going for the wrong reasons though if hes saying hes only going to be with you, he could be going to make sure you dont meet anyone else though if hes a jealous person If you go together though, the worst thing you could do is not sociallise with other people, being together for a long period of time might drive yourselves apart! My bf doesnt really get jealous so im planning on making lots of friends as i travel as he is too! Id just think long and hard before you do anything!
Ha, no offense taken, great idea with the take a brake! I think im going to go alone as this last week he has prove to me how controlling he is and i think he ould be ten times worse once we were away and i only had him. Thankyou evryone for the advice! Just panic that once i get there il miss him and panic. oh well its going to be hard but il just have to man up! x
Join me on the trip, i am also travelling alone :P