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11. Posted by Utrecht (Moderator 5595 posts) 7y

Maybe you are too pretty Eneli78;)
Hope you don't mind me talking to you right now

12. Posted by Swept Away (Travel Guru 1113 posts) 7y

Its a very good question...

How do we know if a person is not interested or is simply playing not interested?
I guess, the statement that you have a BF or that husband, will give you the peace and quiet that you need.

I guess it depends on how annoying the person is... Sometimes, I just pretend to be Latino, "NO HABLA INGLES, PERDONAME, SENIOR" It works for me... if I want to ward of people who want to practice their English or just want to chat with a strange foreigner.

Actually, just tell them to F off. If you made it so clear that you are not interested.

13. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 7y

I think earphones are the way to go

If someone just keeps talking at you and you can't hear them, they will eventually stop. All you have to do is say, "it's nice to meet you but I hope you dont mind, I'm just listening to some music."

I can't imagine anyone would continue to torment you if you do that. It can be difficult when you're a solo female traveller on occasion, but I think the more you travel the better you get about what signals to give. You can let someone know you're not up for a chat and still be nice about it.

When I was rookie traveller, I used to make eye contact with anyone who sat near me just to be polite and acknowledge their presence. Now, I know that if you dont want to engage with someone you're better off not making eye contact.

Not passing judgement here at all on your wanting to be left alone, but I have to say I have had the best conversations with people I have met on planes, trains and automobiles. :) I know you can sometimes get stuck with a total nutjob but those are few and far between

14. Posted by laurim (Respected Member 260 posts) 7y

Most of the time I like to meet new people on trips but I am an introvert normally so I understand the need for some alone time. It amazed me that men in europe took any innocent smile as a sure invitation to hit on me and not take no for an answer so I really had to keep my "Minnesota Nice" to a minimum and not smile as much as I normally would. Eventually after ignoring them, I would firmly ask them to leave and they would (or duck into a bathroom if they didn't). The other funny thing is the fact that so many people can't understand that there are women who are perfectly content traveling alone and that I don't want to be hooked up with a traveling companion. Not much for advice but commiserating with you. I just try to remember that people mean well...

15. Posted by zaksame (Respected Member 571 posts) 7y

You could always wear a badge saying "I'VE GOT SWINE FLU!"...
That should do the trick nicely thank you very much.

16. Posted by Blinq (Inactive 341 posts) 7y

Quoting zaksame

You could always wear a badge saying "I'VE GOT SWINE FLU!"...
That should do the trick nicely thank you very much.

LOL...or, "I've got the clap" maybe.

17. Posted by Eneli78 (Budding Member 6 posts) 7y

Really appreciate all the replies and glad to know I'm not alone. I've been thinking more about this and I don't think it's a matter of being pretty or anything, I think it's that I seem very approachable and unthreatening. For example, recently at the Budapest train station, a man was coming up to people, asking for money. I curtly told him to leave me alone (in Hungarian), and he went on to various other people....then he came BACK to me and asked again! Now, this isn't the same thing as random strangers talking to me, but clearly, there is something about me that gives off maybe an "innocent" or "gullible" vibe. Maybe I need to start looking pissed off all the time....I also realize that what bothers me the most about people talking to me when traveling is that I like to blend in as much as I can. Because of my appearance and how I dress, I blend easily in Europe, and I don't like to have it made obvious that I am foreign and a traveler. It's like they blow my cover my making me open my mouth.

18. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 7y

Quoting zaksame

You could always wear a badge saying "I'VE GOT SWINE FLU!"...
That should do the trick nicely thank you very much.

Or a t-shirt that says "Ask me about my swine flu". That way you can appear approachable, but still enjoy a lot of alone time.

19. Posted by Blinq (Inactive 341 posts) 7y

Quoting Eneli78

I also realize that what bothers me the most about people talking to me when traveling is that I like to blend in as much as I can. Because of my appearance and how I dress, I blend easily in Europe, and I don't like to have it made obvious that I am foreign and a traveler. It's like they blow my cover my making me open my mouth.

You could always try wearing one of these

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